oi what you doing here

taxi73

It'll all sort itself out in the end and I'm sure it will be quite soon.Take care x

elantan

hey all ...hope you have had a good day...

so far today i have done my scratchies 10p and done my quidco clicks 16p searched again for zlotys i didnt manage to get them the other day was a bit busy and tied up with other things ...will deff need to address this tomorrow though as i have very little time left ...

have done my banking...no changes to report... i havnt done my pad since saturday will need to start back with this as i do feel it was making a dent all be it an ever so small one but a dent none the less on my debt...

i am going to get my suitcases out of the loft tonight and start to pack for next week it is so not like me i am usually packed well in advance but have been busy


on the son front well he has seen a house and has told them he wants to move in they are going to do a credit check on him they asked him if he worked full time he said yes ...he doesnt he works 15 hours a week but does earn good money in his job ...in the credit check he has been told they check to see if he is working full time ...i dont understand how this would happen but i know son is worried about it ...so he is going into work to ask his boss to give him more contracted hours as far as i know he only needs another 1 hour to be classed as full time ...he does tend to work 18 hours a week anyway but 3 of them are his choice they arnt contracted ....he needs £500 for a deposit thanks to lynz's advice he is going to uni tomorrow so is his friend and they are going to explain the situation and see if they can help them in anyway with deposits etc ...they have also asked the bank to give them an overdraft so that they will have a back up should they need it ...but if all else fails he will get the money from his dad and myself to be paid back asap...and i will borrow it from the bank

he has someone going to the house he lived in tonight with a police escort and they are emptying the house so that he has no more valuables left in it and then he can move on with his life ...the mother in law has the insurance coming next week some time to sort it all out for her so things are moving forward ...


other than that nothing else has really changed ...hubby's stress levels are through the roof i am trying to keep him calm as much as i can but i think it will be a good thing when we go away next week ....

Karmacat

Wow, thats powerful, El - I know what you mean about academic vs common sense intelligence - and within families, the clash is absolutely explosive. But I love the thing about picking up the glass on the floor, thats great. I had exactly that sort of thing (with a jar of coffee, and then a key) with my own dad.... now there was a man who had common sense intelligence! But he left school at age 13, and had no academic background whatsoever. Its tough, but the relationship can certainly survive and prosper long term - thats whats really important, tho it can seem unimaginable now.

Lots of hugs
xxx

elantan

very true kc ...it's not that one type is more intelligent than the other ...they just think differently ...completley differently ..and it is absolutley explosive...hubby left school at 15 with no qualifications and he is a hard worker he works long hours and does back breaking work ...son on the other hand is still in uni and works on phone sales (he does well at it always exceeds targets etc ...earns more than his dad does often) so they have no common ground there.... i am sure when son leaves given a few months their relationship will be back on track again ...it's just getting to that stage again that will be the slog and hard work (i think)... was speaking to son about it today and saying ...you know we love you but you know for our family to be close you cant stay ...he laughed and said yep ...for our family to be close we need distance lol ...he also said i love my dad and i know he loves me but when we are in each others pockets we both tend to suffer from arseholeitus i am as much to blame as him and like him i am stubborn ...but you know i am doing my best ...and to be fair he is

hypno06

arseholeitus :rotfl:

skint_spice

DS really does sound like he's trying to sort things out for himself El and at least you all realise what the issues are within the family and how to cope. I love my folks and see them lots but I think we'd come to blows if we lived together now!

elantan

i think most families are the same skinty ...it is hard for a family to live under one roof ...i wonder how some of them manage

skint_spice

BTW there are lots of places rougher than your village! but I totally see your point about moving there as incomers and not getting involved so not really knowing folk, lots of wee places are a bit cliquey - the only problem with picturesque villages is the picturesque locals!

elantan

the last village we lived in was picturesque this village not so...especially on a fri night lol

boredofbeingathome

I know what you mean about villages EL, it is the same in our neighbourhood which can look rough but is really quiet.Everyone thinks they know everyone elses business too. I have the added advantage of family being here since estate was built and it gives me a bit of leeway to say things-newcomers are generally frowned upon until they have been here for at least 20 years.

Hope you have a good time on hols and it gives you a bit of leeway.