oi what you doing here

hypno06

(((hugs)))

lynzpower

and another from me (((EL)))

elantan

cheers ...i could do with hugs right now ...i feel as if i am stuck in the middle of a maelstrom right now ...trying to remain calm and sensible throughout it all ....

hypno06

Calm and Sensible....

**goes off to find dictionary for the meaning of these strange words**

lynzpower

I get the sense that you feel in a total whirl with all thats happened over the past few days.

Do you get much time to yourself, sounds like you need some calm space, there are a lot of peoples needs competing here, and you shouldnt neglect your own Can you get out for walks, feed the ducks or something on your own or find another way to find some calm away from this crowded situation? xx

skint_spice

Jings, what a nightmare parenting is! I was led to believe that keeping them busy and interested in sports etc was the right way to go but now thinking maybe I need to chuck him out with the neds more - can't do right for doing wrong hun :grouphug: - I hope he manages to get somewhere soon but he does sound like he's making all the right noises...

elantan

lynzpower wrote: »

I get the sense that you feel in a total whirl with all thats happened over the past few days.

Do you get much time to yourself, sounds like you need some calm space, there are a lot of peoples needs competing here, and you shouldnt neglect your own Can you get out for walks, feed the ducks or something on your own or find another way to find some calm away from this crowded situation? xx

right now this is my time to myself this is the first i have had time to myself since it happened on friday night/ sat morning (when it happened) i had to be there for son etc ...then all weekend had to be there for hubby his nerves are shot to hell and his blood pressure is through the roof (have made him double up on tablets ...spoke to the dr about this...ok we were away at alton towers but guess what was the main topic of conversation:rolleyes:) till it settles down ...today it was council and insurance so was dealing with mother in law (who is also ill ..going in for major operation in a week and has high blood pressure and depression) so tonight this is the first time i am having time to me ...and what am i doing ...thinking about it all :rotfl::rotfl: but it is helping me writting and getting ideas on what to do and how to deal with it all ....

elantan

skint_spice wrote: »

Jings, what a nightmare parenting is! I was led to believe that keeping them busy and interested in sports etc was the right way to go but now thinking maybe I need to chuck him out with the neds more - can't do right for doing wrong hun :grouphug: - I hope he manages to get somewhere soon but he does sound like he's making all the right noises...

it really is such a hard thing to get right ...we all want the best for our kids so we bring them up the best way we can...but then sheltering them from it all is that the answer? i dont know ...our son has had a sheltered life ...we have always tried to ensure his saftey and enjoyment and fun was paramount to all considerations as a family ...we have had so many boys living here with us over the years (as well as the nephew who lived here for 10 years) that are friends with our son because their families were having issues ...the boy that is currently here was a goo friend with our son when he was younger ...he used to come over wearing trousers that were way way too big for him tied with rope and holey ...we would say you had any dinner son his reply would be yes i would say what and the reply to that was a packet of biscuits ..so we would feed him and clothe him saying it was our sons old stuff (as you do) and take them away on holiday ...yes it was mainly for our son...so that he could have friends... but it was also for the boys ...we saw the kinda up bringing they were having ... never through their fault.... sometimes through their parents (drink) or sometimes through finances...having 4 or 5 kids etc ... so as a parent you always try to do your best ...try to tell them who they should avoid ...and the ones that are good kids but maybe not having the best start you help as best you can ...i dont have any regrets about that ...but i spose in a way if we hadnt done this and if we had let our kid hang about the street corners etc then he wouldve been much more street wise and maybe this scenario might not have happened ...but i doubt it

mizmir

Here you go - :coffee: + (((((El))))) for you. You are doing great and good news that he is taking the initiative himself - sounds like you've done a good job with him.

hypno06

It's that "rescuer" bit again.........