MSE Pregnancy Club XIV

SugarSpun

csh wrote: »

My DD was 60.5cm long at birth! None of the newborn sleepsuits with feet fitted her:rotfl:

A friend of mine had a girl who was 58cm long, her father's well over 6 feet tall and built like an emaciated rail. The little one had a beautiful face but she was only about 7lbs so the rest of her looked a bit like a skinned rabbit

A very cute one, and she filled out inside a couple of months. It was just so weird at first to see her mother's face on her father's body :rotfl:

harley1

Beenie

Please don't feel like you are a burden. I have two friends at the moment who are dead keen to help/be birth partner/take me to hospital in middle of night/do anything I need:A, as well as several acquaintences who (god knows why) have offered to be birth partner too - including my male ex-boss and his wife who I have met twice:eek:. I think babies just bring out the best in people, and the fact that we are doing it alone makes people want to look after us.

Now I know I don't need looking after, and I doubt you do either, but these offers are most likely made with the utmost sincerity and all the best intentions.

Despite all these offers and the fact that I am dreading the birth itself, I am still quite tempted to do the whole birthing thing alone. This is partly a privacy, too shy/embarrassed to let someone see me screaming the place down, and partly a 'It'll just be the two of us so why involve someone else in the special bit' mindset, but my overriding desire (currently) is to just be me and her.:o

This does, however, change daily and I have not yet turned down any of the offers that have been so generously made.

Regarding what I mean about frame/size/weight - I am 5"6' and at Christmas was 7stone 7lb, apparently anorexic looking (although I wasn't and never have been). I was 7lb 14oz when born and the idea of a 9lb'er, csh, frightens the life out of me. 6lb with a pointy head and slim shoulders is what I was aiming for!!!

xxxx

Nicki

BeenieCat wrote: »

Yes but given most of SS's posts with lists were based on preparing her house for her baby, then where is the line?

The point being that until she was pulled up on it the majority of the stuff on her lists were not about preparing the house for her baby, and that to be honest she has only really started paying any attention to what anyone else has posted since she stopped posting her to do lists. For example, what did several weeks worth of daily posts about bugs in her food cupboard or the positioning of her piano have to do with her upcoming baby? I've got Rentokil in at the moment on a weekly basis treating my carpets for carpet moths. Shall I give you all a daily account of their progress on that, and still be on topic?

It perhaps annoyed me more than most as when I had two significant crises and was asking for some advice on this thread, she did this to me TWICE, and I've seen her do it to others too.

Besides which, as the post of mine which you're replying to makes clear, I don't have a problem with people discussing what they are doing to prepare for baby's arrival, and these I do read with interest, whether SS or anyone else has posted them. I'm happy to skim a lot of the thread, but if everyone starts posting everything they have to do today, no one will be reading any of it!

csh_2

Nicki wrote: »

Glam - I didn't find arnica very helpful for sore post birth bits, but witch hazel is the dogs doodas! You just pour a little on your maternity pad, and it so cool and soothing and stitches heal really fast. Also (far tmi) if you get piles from pushing, you can soak a piece of cotton wool in it, and put it between your cheeks and they are also soothed and shrink down fast!

Can you use witch hazel on C-section stitches to heal faster? Went a-googling after midwife said baby was transverse, really shouldn't have:o
If he doesn't turn I'll need a section. Already bought the witch hazel, don't want it to go to waste:rotfl:

xmaslolly76

Nicki i post alot of irrelevant crap on here sometimes as well i dont expect a responce i sometimes just need to organsie my mind or get it off my chest. I get lonely at the moment not being at work all my mates work and the other half isnt here to moan at he works too so you ladies are my sounding board.
Like the other day when DS almost got run over ( BY THE WAY THANK YOU EVERYONE FOR YOUR LOVELY POSTS I NEVER GOT ROUND TO SAYING IT AS I WAS TO UPSET AT THE HE WAS FINE JUST SHOOK UP) it was nothing pregnancy related but felt you ladies were my only source of release at the time. As other have said we dont have to read every single post on here we just skim and pick up the relevant bits and pieces where we can help :-) x

BeenieCat

My DS had a pointy head when he was born Well he had a weird lump shape on it, midwife said he must have been bouncing on my cervix for some time after my waters had broken and i always thought it must have been how i pounded down the stairs as soon as they went, to ring mother :rotfl:

Thinking back i don't even know if this is even possible, but it was completely normal after a week or so

xmaslolly76

i have my RLT and some calcium tablets can someone tell me what the other thing that was recommended was i have an awful memory at the best of times but right now i cant remember the diff between my back side and my elbow lol :-)

csh_2

harley1 wrote: »

6lb with a pointy head and slim shoulders is what I was aiming for!!!

xxxx

:rotfl::rotfl:

Nicki

harley1 wrote: »

Despite all these offers and the fact that I am dreading the birth itself, I am still quite tempted to do the whole birthing thing alone. This is partly a privacy, too shy/embarrassed to let someone see me screaming the place down, and partly a 'It'll just be the two of us so why involve someone else in the special bit' mindset, but my overriding desire (currently) is to just be me and her.:o

I can understand this, though I think you, and Beenie, are both being very brave. I know that when the actress Natasha McElhone gave birth recently, just after her husband had died suddenly, she chose to do it alone, with just medical staff present, for that very reason. She had 2 (I think) older children as well.

It is such an intimate experience, and I can see why you would only want to share it with a select few people in your life. Would another option though be to think about having a paid companion (either a doula or a private midwife) so you could have some moral support from someone who has got to know you over time, but who also has that bit of distance, so you can feel that whatever happens during the birth process you can be completely yourself as you never have to see that person again .

I know if it were me, and my OH wasn't able to be with me for whatever reason, that I can't think of any other friend (however close) that I'd want to be there in his place for the birth itself, though it would be good to have someone to come with me to scans, etc to share some of the excitement of the build up to the big event.

csh_2

xmaslolly76 wrote: »

i have my RLT and some calcium tablets can someone tell me what the other thing that was recommended was i have an awful memory at the best of times but right now i cant remember the diff between my back side and my elbow lol :-)

Think Glam was taking about evening primrose oil but you'll need to work out the difference between your elbow and back side if your inserting them