MSE Pregnancy Club XIV

BeenieCat

I'm really worried about needing a c-section - at the moment there's no reason why i would but i know most of the reasons for needing one wouldn't have cropped up yet.

I think it's my biggest worry (aside from something happening to baby of course) and i'm not sure why, as my sister had one at 30 weeks and she and her son are now fine, but i've always felt lucky that my first and only labour went smoothly and try not to take that for granted.
I think part of it is because OH has 2 kids and both were c-section, so i'd like him to experience a "normal" delivery".

Mind you that brings a load of other worries too - like will he ever want to go there again, will the attraction disappear after seeing grunting like a baboon with all my bits out and covered in gunk (he's squeamish at the best of times, he can't even watch the emergency services programmes cos there's blood!). :rotfl:

I know if it happens it will be because it has to, and i will just get on with it, but as with anything in pregnancy, you do tend to worry about what might happen. I have my 20wk scan on Monday, so that's first on the worry list at the minute I've been feeling baby move lots though so that helps.

jillie1974

morning all. feels like i'v e not been on for days!!
think the last time i posted was on wed evening??

glad all the scans went well!!
have seen EA picture on a seperate thread.

Congrats on to all the newbies and to Tink on the arrival of Evelyn.

Fitzio

I completely agree Nicki that no-one should be crowding Skinty, and I hope that you don’t think that’s what anyone here has been doing. I am sure that most people are aware of not putting too much pressure on anyone particularly if there is a chance that things haven’t gone well. However, I personally, would certainly appreciate people asking after me if I hadn’t been around for a few days. I am glad Hypno has texted Skinty and am happy for her to get back to us whenever she is ready, but I do want her to know that we are thinking of her.

Please don’t think I am flaming you, I just want to clarify my position since I mentioned it this morning in response to Hypno’s post.

jillie1974

got our letter yesterday confirming we are having a 6 month maternity break for the mortgage starting next month. so i am currently writing [STRIKE]my list [/STRIKE] our list of what we still need to buy.

how many sheets/blankets do you think we need?
are pram sheets same size as moses basket ones?
can we use a sleep-bag thing from birth?

so glad my mum will be here next week she can point me in the right direction

also- in mothercare (sorry harley know its not your fave place) but can you order from the catalogue through the store like you can with next?

am beginning t panic a bit that we have bought nothing that we really need. just been buying little things. need to get my !!!!! into gear and get more things.

defo buying the hauck 3 in1 pram/buggy/car seat. its still my fave and we just have to decide on navy or red. i was originally going for red but i think the navy might be nicer.

HypnoNu

Nicki- I'm sure we'll know soon enough which way things have gone, I hope she got the birth she wanted but if not I hope that people would be considerate and supportive, sometimes people but can be a little judgemental on this thread but in the main we're all here to support each other through individual decisions, whatever they might be....

csh- I know that if something was wrong that we wouldn't get that first hour and that i completely understand so I hope you haven't take my comments personally. But i just can't see why they would take the baby away from me when there is nothing wrong at all, just because the nurses on the general recovery ward don't want to have to "deal" with a baby as well (which the midwife told me is the reason they do it). At the moment i still feel like i've had all my birth choices stolen from me by the placenta previa and i'm finding it hard to accept that i should lose that first hour skin t skin for no reason.

newmoneysaver- apparently when i go off to recovery then OH can go with baby and still get skin to skin time but it seems crazy that they're also making OH choose between being with me after major surgery and being with his newborn son???

tia- it isn't normal, no other hospitals even locally do it, just Wexham, it's their own stupid policy to wrench the baby away for no reason...and only for the mothers who have a planned c-section not for the emergency c-sections..I don't think i'm asking too much to just want to be with my baby....

argh i'm getting myself all upset about it again...

mountainlioness

I agree a bit of space might be a good thing... (not that anyone isn't giving her that)

We're planning a home birth and I don't really see the point of spending too much time thinking about the possibilities of things not going to plan. Yes, they might not, in which case, it's important to be as calm about that as possible and to manage that situation as it arises. If you're low risk, as am assuming Skinty was, and there are no developments in the final days to change that, I think it's perfectly realistic to expect the home birth to be 'on'. In which case, why spend too much time and emotional energy worrying about what might happen? Best to stay calm and relaxed, as that in itself will probably be the best way to ensure you actually get the home birth you want.

On the other hand, getting too fixated on having to have the birth you want (wherever that is) is also not a good thing. Apparently disappointment about that can contribute to a higher risk of PND (or so our NCT teacher said)

So it's a bit of a delicate balancing act - am doing ok myself at the mo but at 32wks it's far enough away for it not to be a problem. See how I am at 37!!!

Fitzio

Hypno - I don't know enough about labour or c-sections so can't really help. Try not to get yourself too distressed, and speak to your consultant on Monday to try and find out why they take that decision. It does seem strange to me that they would differentiate between emergency/elective c-section aftercare. I would definitely want them to explain their reasons and request that the baby goes to you after regardless of their policy if it's what you want, but try not to get too upset about it. You will still bond with your baby and if it's outwith your control then just focus on getting through it as best you can.

Right, off to get ready now. Shower, washing on, Asda shopping then lunch with friend. Hope you all have a nice day.

x

tiamai_d

Jillie, I'd just get cot/cot bed sheets and fold them in half for the moses basket and pram. Unless the pram (same size as moses basket ones) ones are super cheap. I'd get 4-6 so that I wasn't forced to constantly be washing. I may have more than that but they are from ebay and what I had left over from the boys (plus 2 pram ones from asda for £1.50).

If you do get pram sheets, once bubs is in teh cot you an use them for under the head incase of sick incidents. Saves you stripping a whole bed.

Think you can use the sleeping bags from birth, didn't have them for the boys, got a few this time (again ebay). The ones that say from birth anyway. But you may want to think about swaddling for the first few days/weeks. Only way I got sleep with the boys!

tiamai_d

Hypno, it sounds like they are trying to punish those who elect for a c section (and in your case, even though it is not through choice, it will go down as an elective!). I'd get all fired up and start writing to my MSP and newspaper! What a stupid idea taking babies away from mum, there is no need at all! I do agree that post op a mum should never be left holding baby unsupervised for the first few hours, thats common sence she will be groggy and sleepy and sickly (but that goes for any birth really). But to take them out the room?

ETA, ooooooowwwwwwccccchhhhhhhh!!!! BH have started again.

HypnoNu

tia- will i be that groggy or sleepy though as the op would be done with an epidural, it's a local anaesthetic so i would have thought the top half of me would be fine, it's just my legs that'll be useless?

does anyone know for sure?