Bisexuality

FirstTimer4Me

MissMitch wrote: »

Would he be upset / threathened if you found yourself a female f*** buddy?

That's the difficulty I face not knowing if he'd feel rejected, or whether he would accept I have a *** buddy, added to the fact, I've never disclosed my bisexuality before.

*I genuinely have no idea about any websites you refer to*

Dave101t

urges are natural, its keeping them in check that stops you being a cheater, rapist or worse.
am i the only tri-sexual on here. Ill try anything sexual, giggidy!

FirstTimer4Me

MummyMoo wrote: »

By using a prostitute or escort or whatever its just further enforcing the idea that what you are feeling is wrong and should be hidden and underground.

I'm not sure how else to deal with my feelings.

I'm not aware of anyone that is willing to participate as a **** buddy.

FirstTimer4Me

Dave101t wrote: »

urges are natural, its keeping them in check that stops you being a cheater, rapist or worse

I'm proud of the fact I've kept mine in control for over 15 years

Emmzi

FirstTimer4Me wrote: »

I'm not sure how else to deal with my feelings.

I'm not aware of anyone that is willing to participate as a **** buddy.

you may be the sort of poerson who needs more than one relatioinship at once. A primary and a secondary maybe. But something less cold than a casual thing.

Seriously - polyamory. Google. Livejournal groups. There are people out there.

I'm not one of them but I have friends who are and it makes them really happy,

Errata

That's all I want just the sex, no emotional attachment the difficulty being most feel would probably feel "used" which is not what I'd want them to feel.

If you just want someone for sex, you are using them. Don't be surprised if they feel used.

MissMitch

They're easy to find on google with the obvious key words.

Would your partner mind you having sex with another male partner or are you exclusive? If he wouldn't mind that then I'd speak to him tentively about your bisexuality and see how he feels. If you're exclusive and he would be devastated at the thought of anything affair then you have to either:

live with your desires and not act on them, (and sometimes the imagining and anticipation is much better then the reality anyway :rotfl:)

act on them on the sly (not ideal in a loving relationship)

or move on, and find another relationship where you can fulfil all your desires. Maybe you are a bit bored and that's why the desire seems so overwhelming.

Good luck whatever you decide to do hon. Have you tried a bisexual forum, you might find there's loads of men and women around who feel the same as you.

FirstTimer4Me

Errata wrote: »

If you just want someone for sex, you are using them. Don't be surprised if they feel used.

It takes 2 to agree to have sex.

MissMitch wrote: »

Would your partner mind you having sex with another male partner or are you exclusive?

I'm male living with a male partner, I'm looking for sex with a female.

If he wouldn't mind that then I'd speak to him tentively about your bisexuality and see how he feels

That's something I have to give serious consideration to, I could well lose more than I gain

act on them on the sly (not ideal in a loving relationship)

By choice I don't want to be dishonest, but neither do I want to cause any emotional pain.

Have you tried a bisexual forum, you might find there's loads of men and women around who feel the same as you.

It's either men wanting to meet men or women wanting to meet women, i can't find any where women want to meet men, most of those sites are asking for a fee!!!

emlou2009

MummyMoo wrote: »

With every male relationship I've been in, they have always known and allowed me to go with women. I'd never cheat on a male for a male, or female for another female. The way I've always explained it is that no matter what one partner does, he cannot provide me with the other pleasures/'bits' that the other sex can. Thats all it is for me, just the sex parts, no emotional attachments, as THIS to me is being unfaithful. If I was to cheat on a bloke for a bloke, that would be saying to the first one "you are not giving me something that you should be capable of giving me" iykwim. I've only ever had long term relationships (minimum of 3 years) and this has always been a great coping strategy for both me and my partner.

:eek: my oh is bi and i wouldnt let him do that! IMO being faithful means being faithful
i cant really speak for how he "deals" with it as we dont talk about his "past life" as it were. obviously i understand that he will still have those feelings, its who he is, but we are a family now so it is a past life, IYSWIM

McKneff

quote -:eek: my oh is bi and i wouldnt let him do that! IMO being faithful means being faithful quote

Says it all - there is no justification for being unfaitfhful. full stop.
Stop one relationship and start another - thats okay, anything else is
outrageiosly selfish and egostical.