Partner moving in and DLA or not?

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ESA wrote: »

I got bored of the whining and posted that to amuse myself.

It worked:T

small things etc etc:rotfl:

NASA_2

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

I don't see how you have helped in this case, we all know the rules that doesn't mean that they are fair & that is what we are discussing, if u don't have anything constructive to say then go help someone else.

Such discusions should be in Discussion time, I am told, not on the benefits board.

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

delain wrote: »

I am not snivelling... I am looking for work!

I think your admirable for even thinking about going back to work, having 3 kids including 5 yr old twins that are also on the Autistic Spectrum is more than a full time job in itself you deserve respect not snide comments from people that have no idea how hard your life already is.

NASA_2

woodbine wrote: »

small things etc etc:rotfl:

I cant help my happy go lucky attitude;)

delain

thanks - you're very kind

the truth is i can't stand being at home all the time it does my head in!!

and also these days i feel like being on benefits is getting silly, it's like they want to keep you down

SkyWatcher_3

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

The Compliance Officer said that Housing benefit use the 3 night rule but there is no such rule for the DWP.

They base their decision on whether your couple not on the fact that you are living together but the way you are perceived in public, ie if they asked my neighbours if I was single & they no I have a boyfriend then we are a couple for benefits purposes.

It's rediculous isn't it. :mad:

There is no "three night rule" in Housing Benefit or any Benefit to my knowledge. It is amazing how many people get caught by this.

delain

I used to live in a supported living house after being made homeless by the end of an abusive relationship and i spent half the week there and half the week with my children at a relative's home (i was working the rest of the week, the abusive ex partner was claiming a full whack of benefits and sitting on his a**e most of the week) and i was told by the charitable housing association running the place that for housing benefit purposes if i was away for more than three nights i was classed as having not lived there that week and my £20 HB top up would not be paid! This was why they had a signing in book.

Thats how i heard of the three night rule!:o

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delain wrote: »

i am paying the bills including the car insurance all come out of my bank on direct debit!

That could actually be part of the problem, do you pay all of the insurance or do you have a seperate policy with only your name on it for his car?
If you are paying all of it, out of your bank account thats pretty much a 'couple' /husband & wife thing to do.

He also stays over, eats dinner with the family, uses the family home, watches tv, maybe picks up the kids, plays with them etc etc etc all things that you have paid for, again very 'family' or 'couple like. One person supporting the other, especially financially, through tough times is what couples do.

I know you said you were both waiting for his CC bill to lower for him to move in. He'd prob pay it off much quicker if he did move in because he'd have less outgoings if he was sharing them with you, even if he is/was living in a caravan he'd still have outgoings. Shared bills = more disposable income to pay off debts, save, go on holiday etc.

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delain wrote: »

Thats how i heard of the three night rule!:o

Hearing 'something' and that 'something' actually being true is not the same thing.

When I was claiming I remember being given lots of information about claiming benefits what you could and couldnt do, lots of it was C**P. You assume because someone is working in a hostel, housing, doctors etc they know what they are talking about but quite often they dont. They are not trained in benefits and benefit law constantly changes anyway.

delain

He'd prob pay it off much quicker if he did move in because he'd have less outgoings if he was sharing them with you, even if he is/was living in a caravan

Sadly it doesn't work out that way as the way the DWP see it he should be handing over every penny he earns to me as soon as he gets it and screw the CC!

As i live in a private rented house every £1 we get above the legal bare minimum is taken off the housing benefit, meaning that we would have less money together as a couple than i get on my own now as i'd lose £100 a week.

i realise that looks grasping but i have got 3 children to support with sod all help from their dad and it seems that even if i found a job tomorrow and we were both working we would be worse off still!