Partner moving in and DLA or not?

delain

well i don't benefit financially from him being here regularly if any thing my financial situation is worse there's nothing i'd like more than to come off benefits hence the CAB appointments and the fact that i'm actively looking for a job!!

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

KimYeovil wrote: »

No. Not ridiculous at all.

So you don't think it's rediculous that a single mum on benefits through no fault of her hasn't got the right to date without being penalised or that if she does meet someone on a night out they have to move in with her & take financial responsibility for her & her kids.

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

delain wrote: »

i do find that odd, as we didn't think we were doing anything wrong and the plan has always been to live together when his credit card was at a manageable level.

I thought the same, id love to find someone & settle down but ive only known my BF for 7 months which is hardly long enough to know whether you want to soend the rest of your life with them.

I think it would be irresponsible of me to move a guy ive known a few months into my kids home especially when you have disabled kids & you dont know whether the relationship is going to work out.

dookar

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

They base their decision on whether your couple not on the fact that you are living together but the way you are perceived in public, ie if they asked my neighbours if I was single & they no I have a boyfriend then we are a couple for benefits purposes.

It's rediculous isn't it. :mad:

Has this happened to you?

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

dookar wrote: »

Has this happened to you?

Yes, I had a Compliance Officer home visit on Wednesday & that is what I was told.

delain

I've had a letter saying they wanted to come to visit me but despite 2 calls to office about needing to go on the school run at 2.45 the idiot turned up at 3 when i was not in!!

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

delain wrote: »

I've had a letter saying they wanted to come to visit me but despite 2 calls to office about needing to go on the school run at 2.45 the idiot turned up at 3 when i was not in!!

My letter said they would call between 10am - 4pm, obviously because you are on benefits not only are you not allowed to meet anyone but you are not allowed to leave the house either.

NASA_2

Boo !!!!ing hoo.

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This question of living together or not pops up on here quite alot,and I dont think we`ve yet come to a final decision on the question.
However think of it this way if you were living with a partner who worked away 5nights a week and only spent 2 nights at home you wouldnt class yourself as being single for benefit purposes,or for any other reason.
You definately dont have to be spending many nights together for the dwp to class you as LTGAMW,if you share things like bank accounts,shop together,spend alot of time together then your single status is bound to come into question at some point.

delain

I do know the feeling there! Also i dislike the stigma that goes with 'benefits' I am an intelligent person but because i am young and have children people assume i am some sort of a moron who did it not to work!

Although it was probably for the best as i was feeling quite ill on the day and would have been short tempered at best!