Asking for money as our gift??

Buddingblonde

I would send out the invite with no wedding list - then if anyone want to enquire about a gift they will be told that all we want is their company to join us on our special day. Anyone coming to the wedding will already know we have a home together and need nothing.

If pushed I would ask for a donation to a named charity in our name.

nozzy6

I don't see the problem at all, we've been invited to a couple of evening receptions in the past couple of years and in each invitation has been details of a wedding list or requests for vouchers. It really didn't occur to me until I read this post that it might be seen as presumptuous - people are going to ask so it makes it easier for everyone if the information is included right from the beginning, in my opinion anyway!

cleomolly

Poppy9 wrote: »

but how can you book one for straight after the wedding if you don't know how much, if any money you will receive?

Yellowbug wrote: »

I would guess they wont be going straight after the wedding (plus if they are camping they probably wont need to book...think all the times we have been camping we have only booked ahead once, and we needn't have bothered then really lol)

as yellowbuy says, we're going camping! although you have made quite an assumption there! we have booked a month off work for the wedding so it wouldn't make a difference if we went to the travel agents a few days after the weding to book a late deal!!!

Poppy9

cleomolly wrote: »

as yellowbuy says, we're going camping! although you have made quite an assumption there! we have booked a month off work for the wedding so it wouldn't make a difference if we went to the travel agents a few days after the weding to book a late deal!!!

Oh I didn't realise you booked camping holidays via a travel agent. I always just ring the campsite owner. I have only ever used TA for foreign holidays, though being a MSE I now book online via Quidco.

Yellowbug

Poppy9 wrote: »

Oh I didn't realise you booked camping holidays via a travel agent. I always just ring the campsite owner. I have only ever used TA for foreign holidays, though being a MSE I now book online via Quidco.

Pretty sure you have read that wrong, she means they have booked a month off
so if they wanted to go abroad for the honeymoon then there would be plenty of time to go and book it after the wedding and still have the time off work to go away

DKLS

I wouldn't be offended in the slightest, I guess times are a changing, more and more couples have already set up home and have the accoutrements that go with doing that.
And the traditional gift list seems more crass in that case to me than requesting money or vouchers.

But after reading the other thread, and the large number of sensitive easily offended types, for my wedding in Feb, we will be asking for donations direct to our fave charity IF they feel so desired no offence taken if they dont.

We dont need anything, the wedding and honeymoon have been paid for. I just hope people can enjoy our day without any bitterness, I would much rather people said I cant afford to come than get into debt or moan about it.

cleomolly

Poppy9 wrote: »

Oh I didn't realise you booked camping holidays via a travel agent. I always just ring the campsite owner. I have only ever used TA for foreign holidays, though being a MSE I now book online via Quidco.

I said you were making quite an assumption in saying the comment -

"but how can you book one for staright after the wedding if you don't know how much?"

I was simply suggesting that of course it would be possible to wait until after the wedding to plan a Honeymoon, regardless whether it be camping the UK or abroad. Lots of couples don't book Honeymoon's until after their wedding in order to get a late deal, being a little cheaper, which you should be awear of being "MSE" person!!!

If you can not comment with an opinion without getting personal I suggest you don't comment at all. You know nothing of my reason's for waiting until after the wedding to book the Honeymoon, but as you have got personal, it's is because I don't know what my health will be like at that time, I can not predict and if I am too ill to fly then a camping trip it will be, However if I am well, yes I want the blue seas, and the sandy shores.

bandraoi

good christ you're touchy and with a massive chip on your shoulder.
I suggest that if you don't know how to not take things personally, you don't post on forums.

Yellowbug

bandraoi wrote: »

good christ you're touchy and with a massive chip on your shoulder.
I suggest that if you don't know how to not take things personally, you don't post on forums.

thats very unfair

I have sat and read this thread as it has gone on and to be honest there are a lot of personal comments against the op
so i think she has a right to get a bit upset about it

yes forums are open to anyone and to people with all different opinions etc
and yes you shouldnt ask a question if you dont want to hear the answer, but equally there is absolutely no reason for anyone to be nasty or make things personal

cleomolly

bandraoi wrote: »

good christ you're touchy and with a massive chip on your shoulder.
I suggest that if you don't know how to not take things personally, you don't post on forums.

I don't think so. When an opinion is asked thats fair do's but when people get personal there's no need. How rude of you.