Asking for money as our gift??

mrscb

You asked for opinions and as you can see its half and half,but I dont think you should single people out if they dont say what you want to hear.
It did read as if it was costing you £130 per couple attending though.
In reality it will cost people a lot more..drinks, travel,accomodation?,outfit etc and I know its up to them if they want to drink,buy new outfit etc but it still adds up.
As i said the wedding we are attending is costing us a lot...we could go abroad for a week so to then be asked for money for their holiday would nark me(thats just me though!!)

cleomolly

I just can't believe people's attitude's towards weddings! if I got an invite from someone (which I guess if I were invited it would be a friend or family) I'd love to go, there would be no thought into how much my new outfit cost or drinks, it's a special occasion to celebrate the marriage of 2 people, and if I knew on my wedding day that half my guests were sat there thinking 'I can't believe how much it's cost me to comehere' or 'I've spent £100 on drinks and taxi's tonight' I'd be mortified, takes the special out of speical occasion.

maggie111

I think it's very sad to say
"Thank you to the more helpful threads, no so much so for some of them who I think are living in the cave ages!"

I think that every response has been helpful - you have asked people for their honest opinions. You've discounted those who didn't agree with you as "living in the dark ages". Why, in your first post you said you had mixed responses from people that you knew?

I think people here have actually been pretty polite about it all, trying to balance out their responses, let you know it's only their opinion and most of all, have explained their reasons behind it.

Next time, might I suggest you title your thread "please agree with me, anyone who disagrees, don't bother posting!"

cleomolly

maggie - I have obviously said thanks to the responces which are hlepful, if you read the ones I have thanked, some don't actually agree with asking for money, but it's the way they have responded that I have thanked!

The others, do give an opinion, but the way in which they are said ie 'your poem is naff', 'you must be joking', 'it's dam right rude and vulgar to ask for money' ect ect. These are more than just opinions, these are coming accross to say 'no-one no matter who should ask for money' they do not compare to the situation stated.

*Chattie*

cleomolly wrote: »

I just can't believe people's attitude's towards weddings! if I got an invite from someone (which I guess if I were invited it would be a friend or family) I'd love to go, there would be no thought into how much my new outfit cost or drinks, it's a special occasion to celebrate the marriage of 2 people, and if I knew on my wedding day that half my guests were sat there thinking 'I can't believe how much it's cost me to comehere' or 'I've spent £100 on drinks and taxi's tonight' I'd be mortified, takes the special out of speical occasion.

would you prefer to be sitting there wondering how much money is in all these envelopes and what kind of holiday you can now book on the strength of them

cleomolly

Neways as I have said last night, I'm begining to think it's a bad idea anyway, and will re-think the whole thing.

THANK YOU TO EVERY SINGLE ONE OF YOU FOR RESPONDING WITH YOUR COMMENTS, NO MATTER WHAT THEY ARE

mrscb

cleomolly wrote: »

I am not booking a Honeymoon, that was the point of this thread. I really wish people would read it first and not come up with silly things are not to do with the thread! (not yourself, just in general)

The poll title is 'is it ok to ask for money towards honeymoon from guests'?
and is also mentioned in your poem.

cleomolly

*Chattie* wrote: »

would you prefer to be sitting there wondering how much money is in all these envelopes and what kind of holiday you can now book on the strength of them

Not necessarily, I've never said that the gifts are that improtant to us, it was just a case of if people are giving gifts, is it fair to ask for money. There's no way on my wedding night I would be sat thinking that, I think that is a little off the point and very personnal, it's as if you are saying I'm a money grabber, of course on my wedding night the only thing that will be going through my mind is having a good time and seeing all the people who have turned up to share it with us!

cleomolly

mrscb wrote: »

The poll title is 'is it ok to ask for money towards honeymoon from guests'?
and is also mentioned in your poem.

Once again. our wedding is booked, save the dates have gone out and we are getting phone calls to say 'what would you like'. We never thought about this before now and when the subject came up we thought well there's nothing we need, shall we ask for money towards a holiday that is if people are adamant on giving something, we haven't booked a Honeymoon and wasn't thinking of one untill this came about.

cleomolly

Thank you for all your replies, the thread can carry on but I no longer need any advice on the subjuect, I appreciate all your comments, they are a real eye opener. It's getting a little too personal now, so thanks again and wish you all luck on your up-coming weddings.