Asking for money as our gift??

kazmeister

We are getting married abroad and under no circumstances do we want presents or money. Any of our friends who make the effort to come out and see us wed will have spent enough to be with us. Should any of them offer money then we will politely tell them no thank you and if they insist then they will be told that it will go behind the bar to be enjoyed by them all.

cleomolly

Yellowbug - Thanks, although I must admit I did steal bits from different poem's on the internet and that friends have used :cool: so I can't take any credit really, but I too think it gets the point accorss but makes it a tad funny, and light hearted at the same time. better than telling people over the phone when they call I think.

Thats fab, let me know if you're dad comes up with anything :T

cleomolly

kazmeister wrote: »

We are getting married abroad and under no circumstances do we want presents or money. Any of our friends who make the effort to come out and see us wed will have spent enough to be with us. Should any of them offer money then we will politely tell them no thank you and if they insist then they will be told that it will go behind the bar to be enjoyed by them all.

I agree if your guests are spending the money to get to your wedding you shouldn't ask for anything, but I'm getting married here, locally to everyone and I know I wouldn't turn up at a wedding without a card and some euro's or something inside, at the end of the day, people are going to want to get you something, whatever that is, it should be what the couple getting wed want, right?

minerva_windsong

I wouldn't object to someone saying words to the effect of, "We'd rather have your company than a present but if you would like to buy us something we would prefer a contribution towards our honeymoon." That said though I would ask for vouchers rather than straight up cash, mainly because I think people feel better about it. Or maybe that's just me - I would rather buy someone vouchers as it feels a bit more like you've at least thought about it rather than just handing over an envelope of cash. Seems more secure too somehow.

I've known people who instead of wedding presents asked for money to be given to charities that meant something to them, or for cash for big ticket items like beds or sofas, so I don't see what's so different about asking for a contribution to the honeymoon.

ncv2

IWantToBeFree wrote: »

Don't do it, poems asking for cash are awfully tacky.

If you insist on asking for cash, do it by word of mouth to those who accept your invites, don't just send it out with them, could put people off coming.

Agree 100%. Rather then risk offending some, leave it off the invite. I do not think a poem softens the blow any btw.

picklepick

God some people on here are acting like you're requesting them to give birth to your children for you! its just money instead of a gift. whats the biggie? why would it put people off coming to your wedding? i just dont understand. sorry!

cleomolly

picklepick, I agree with you, the people that would be at my wedding are people dear to me anyhow, I'm not inviting all and sundry, so surely those people would want to give you what you asked for rather than something useless anyway!! and all our family and friends know we have never been abroad together, we make do with camping with our dogs every year (by the way, yes you do have the best job in the world) : )

Poppy9

Discussed to death on this thread.

For the record I find it very rude to ask for money be it for a wedding, birthday or Xmas gift. Dressing it up in a naff poem is even worse IMO.

If you don't need any gifts then fine but expecting your guests to pay for a holiday for you is a bit much.

Next we will have guests being asked to contribute to the cost of their meal at the reception!:rolleyes:

cleomolly

poppy - for a start, how rude to call my poem naff, never knock someone's hard work, no matter what you think, that's what I say :cool:

And how is having a gift list (which is the more traditional way), any better than asking for a contribution to your Honeymoon? what would you suggest a good idea then?

Thank you for the linky, couldn't find anything at first but guessed it would have been discussed

cleomolly

WOW that other thread went crazy! I really can't understand why some people are against contributing to a fund for the happy couple, especially as it costs around £130 per couple attending the wedding, may be we should go back a few years to when the father of the bride paid for the whole thing, yea roght that would be a laugh!!!