MSE Pregnancy Club XIII

newmoneysaver_2

Suzy, my last day is Friday 24th (next fri :j) and then I have a week off on AL. My ML starts on 3rd Aug TBH, I seem to be coping just fine. I know I have incredibly lucky to not have any pregnancy related symptoms, no pain, no sickness and generally I'm sleeping fine too! I feel just like the normal me, but with a bump But I am willing to admit I sit on my bum all day, mostly on here cos I have passed over a majority of my work load, my commute is a fairly easy 15 min train journey, but I have had to start driving to the station as the 20 min, uphill walk home was beginning to be a killer!

*please don't all hate me, I am expecting karma to kick in with a horrid labour or a devil child *

mountainlioness

I've been rubbish with exercise, despite having been really active before (running, hiking, sports). Running just felt awkward with the bump moving but there's no real excuse for being so darned lazy. Am ashamed of self. Absolutely it's better to be fitter so well done nanc for being so dedicated. Am walking into town to have a pedi at lunchtime - does that count?!

newmoneysaver_2

Aw, hugs for you beenie. These things are sent to try us, but at least you have got something to sort the UTI and hopefully the dpression has been picked up early. You take care, you have been through a lot recently. AND STOP GOOGLING

tiamai_d

Beenie, it's a toss up between what's worse, the rare chance that something could potentially harm baby or a badly depressed mum? You will get conflicting advice with every medication during pregnancy simply because something could happen to a baby of a mother who was taking whatever medicine, they will blame it on the medicine even though it could have happened anyway.

You have to prioritise yourself right now and do what it takes to get to a better place.

Hope the UTI gets better! Sounds nasty!

SuzyWuzy_2

Beenie - Only you know how you feel and if you want to take them or not. Ive had severe depression ,non pregnacy related, but i didnt take anything , luckily it sorted itself out with time.

Is the depression a pregnancy thing ? I was depressed in the middle of my pregnancy when I had no need to be, it was just hormonal. I didnt read your links as this laptop is soo slow. Just wondered why they have referred you to the crisis team , you will be contacted almost immediately about that. (i work for s/s )

Nicki

I've already said, in my first post today, that I'm not going to bang on about what happened yesterday, so as far as I was concerned the matter was closed.

And to clarify, I also NEVER said that people couldn't debate issues, or discuss controversial things. What happened yesterday was that aless was very critical of how a woman behaved in labour, and I posted in non-controversial terms, I thought, how these things can happen in labour and gave my own experience of how it had happened to me. That I thought at the time of the first post was a valid contribution to the debate which ML had opened and aless was continuing, as if you haven't given birth before its easy perhaps to believe that you will react and behave in the way you would do in your non-pregnant life. Aless wasn't prepared to have anyone offer any other perspective on her view of what was correct, and made it personal about me.

Aless later in the day returned to attack me, because in a longer post about feeling the need for some support and tlc due to many anxieties about the imminent birth and also feeling physically unwell, I referred in passing to the fact that the exchange earlier had triggered more memories of a difficult time for me. I'm "having a baby too fgs" and in addition to offering support when others post when I can, I sometimes ask for support too. I'd like to think that I actually support and help more than I ask for the same back, but maybe that isn't the case.

The ONLY request which I've made about debate and discussing controversial things on this thread, is for consideration in respect of the language and tone which is used, and personally I don't think that's unreasonable. I think if you do choose to use inflammatory language when posting on a topic which is itself controversial, then there is a risk that what you say will be misinterpreted, and that people will become upset, whether you intended that or not. And following on from that, I think its better that people can say if something has upset them, and then everyone move on, rather than one of the two parties feeling they have to leave the thread permanently because they can't tolerate the other expressing a different opinion or being honest about how the first opinion affected them.

SuzyWuzy_2

Lol NMS thats fine - i also have had a lovely pregnancy (as with all my others) its only this last week that im leaking AF and have back ache and feel fed up. I wouldnt mind but i'm carrying smaller than i was with the boys too but didnt feel like this with them. Im still a whale !!

Id of carried on working but i need to be close to home as i give birth very very quickly. The labours have halved each time, the last one being 30 mins so i dont think its appropriate to be at work (for me anyway) . And everyone is probably thinking lucky c 8 w but i go into intense pain straight away there is no build up so if you can call that lucky

Hope you do have a easy labour too just like your pregnancy.

BeenieCat

Thanks Tia and NMS i know it's a small risk and the conflicting advice doesn't help anyone, it's just such a minefield of guilt and confusion!

SuzyWuzy wrote: »

Beenie - Only you know how you feel and if you want to take them or not. Ive had severe depression ,non pregnacy related, but i didnt take anything , luckily it sorted itself out with time.

Is the depression a pregnancy thing ? I was depressed in the middle of my pregnancy when I had no need to be, it was just hormonal. I didnt read your links as this laptop is soo slow. Just wondered why they have referred you to the crisis team , you will be contacted almost immediately about that. (i work for s/s )

I do want to take them as sometimes i feel totally out of control and lash out at OH and get so hysterical that i vomit from crying!! No idea if it's pregnancy related, i did keep asking but i think doctor just doesn't know, and because i've had suicidal thoughts i think is why i've been referred. He kept asking if i'm at risk to do anything about the thoughts and i kept saying no, so i think he might have changed the referral urgency but i don't know cos i was just in a daze!

The tablets i've got are apparently used for depression, PTSD, OCD and other similar stuff, so i'm hoping they will help me feel normal again, rather than feeling half normal, a few days a week.

nancmat

Ahh kinda hope my pregg carries on how it is, not feeling too bad just bad back and some dizzy spells, so have said I can work up until my due date, boss thinks I'm mad.. and I'm starting to now as well, because you never know when your going to have a bad day...

BeenieCat

When i was in labour with DS i was shouting and whining so much that they just gave me some pethidine, i don't remember agreeing to it but i didn't care, i think they just wanted me to chill out a bit :rotfl:

It didn't kick in til i was in the shower afterwards though LOL.

I had a quick labour though and i didn't have normal contractions, just one long constant immense pain for about 45 mins and then i started pushing. They kept saying i was overreacting cos i'd not been in labour long, so they jabbed me to shut me up then she finally checked me and said " oh you're 10cm already no wonder you're shouting". :eek: Lol bint.

Hope next one is as quick, cos i'm such a wuss with pain.

(sorry, didn't want to drag the debate back up :eek::eek:)