am i being selfish

Mely

I think you are being selfish and putting your own feelings before your sons, when hes obviously having a great time with his caring grandparents!

Make_do_and_mend

I think that you have been more than reasonable with agreeing for your very young son to go for the period of time that he has. Should the grandparents not think of the young boy who whilst having a good time, might be missing his mum and dad? You are his main carer and so they should fit in with what they have agreed to.

It is they who seem controlling - not letting their grandson talk to his dad because it might upset his bedtime. What's that all about? They should also keep in contact with you so that you can rest easy that he is safe.

On this occassion I would not upset the boat, but if you agree to another holiday, I would stress that any arrangements made are kept to.

He is very young and I think it is quite a long time to go without seeing mum and dad. Whilst they are kind to take him, I do not think they are considering your feelings at all. I don't understand why just because you are the grown up you are not allowed to have any...

poet123

Goodness, I think the OP has been more than reasonable allowing her son to go on holiday with her ex mil at 4 years old. I have to say I wouldnt have been happy for any of my sons to be away from home for that period at that age. I would certainly have expected daily contact, and the courtesy of a call to say they had arrived safely.

I would also expect them to be back by the agreed time, especially if I worked unsocial hours and had arranged my off time around their arrangements.

I think the comments villifying her are insensitve and uncalled for.

MrsAnnie

poet123 wrote: »

Goodness, I think the OP has been more than reasonable allowing her son to go on holiday with her ex mil at 4 years old. I have to say I wouldnt have been happy for any of my sons to be away from home for that period at that age. I would certainly have expected daily contact, and the courtesy of a call to say they had arrived safely.

I would also expect them to be back by the agreed time, especially if I worked unsocial hours and had arranged my off time around their arrangements.

I think the comments villifying her are insensitve and uncalled for.

I totally agree with you. I wonder how many of the posters would have put up with the same treatment from MIL if it were their four year old child?

I certainly would not have.

The_Banker_5

Mely wrote: »

I think you are being selfish and putting your own feelings before your sons, when hes obviously having a great time with his caring grandparents!

I think she's wanted a childfree week but has felt a bit guilty about it so having a go at the inlaws is her way of maybe getting rid of a bit of that guilt.;)

poet123

How cynical! and how hypocritical, if she had refused access you would have been berating her for denying her ex MIL contact, and now she is guilty of palming her son off so she can have a child free week.

A child free week of decorating and working nights as a vital member of the nursing profession......how idle and dissolute can you get?:rolleyes:

I trust the comment was tongue in cheek and not serious?

loftus

I think the OP can be missing her son without there being any ulterior motivation.

freyasmum

The_Banker wrote: »

You will have to come to terms with the fact that life does not revolve around you.

Your son is having a lovely time and his grandparents have been good enough to take him on holiday so why spoil it for your own selfishness.

Sorry for being blunt.

Life may not revolve around her, but she was told her son would be returning at a certain time. She arranged her work shifts around this and I think it's quite unfair of them to suddenly turn round and say they won't be there.

I also wouldn't like the fact that I hadn't spoken to my child in a week - he is only four, afterall :undecided

I don't think you're being selfish, it's just part of being a parent.

The_Banker_5

Someones obviously called the cavalry I see.

Is this how it goes? vvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvv:p

Go on you lot get on that forum and give the Banker a good telling off for me.;)

loftus

If you look at my previous post I actually agree with the general points you make.
However, and this goes for those who seek to defend the OP as well, I don't see the need for people to make personal attacks whilst voicing their opinion.