am i being selfish

jinky67

Sam i think you are right to be annoyed.
My Mum used to take my DS out for the day, she was given rough time to have him back for. she never was.
It irritated me no end.
You are his parent. You have organised work shifts round this holiday. You should decide when he comes home.
Do they know you have organised your shift times round this?
If they do then THEY are ones being selfish.
I would also have reservations about letting him go again too

The_Banker_5

Minxy_Bella wrote: »

How can you look at it from an 'outside view' (whatever that is) when she is a mother and I am a mother?

Exactly, your views are blinkered.;)

thatgirlsam

littlemissmoney wrote: »

Do what's best for your son... let him spend extra time with his grandparents

I think you are being selfish, but totally understand why you feel that way

i am trying very hard, honest -

-i still think the best thing for my son is being returned to his mother at the arranged time

robpw2

thatgirlsam wrote: »

-i will be at home sat night rob - i arranged this cos i thought he would be back sat aft , usually i would have to work sat night but didn't want to rush off to work when he got back -
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anyway i could hardly pop out from work if i wanted to

sorry i meant physically and mentally not literally lol

as in if you have been on night shifts all week another late night wont kill ya

belfastgirl23

I understand you being unhappy about this. But I think it's in your son's best interests for you to be the bigger person and not start thinking that this kind of thing makes it too difficult for them to take him on hols again.

However I would try to have a gentle word with them, tell them how much you have missed him and that you really would have liked to talk to him a bit more. Also when you're making arrangements for next time make it clear that you are planning around him being back at a particular time so they know it isn't flexible. You don't have to be unpleasant or nasty about this though, you can say it all very nicely.

Good luck!

littlemissmoney

You lot are harsh!! I bet the grandparents just thought it was a shame to travel during the day on sat means the weather has turned out so nice and their grandson is having such a great time...

They probably think you are having a lovely weeks break

thatgirlsam

jinky67 wrote: »

Sam i think you are right to be annoyed.
My Mum used to take my DS out for the day, she was given rough time to have him back for. she never was.
It irritated me no end.
You are his parent. You have organised work shifts round this holiday. You should decide when he comes home.
Do they know you have organised your shift times round this?
If they do then THEY are ones being selfish.
I would also have reservations about letting him go again too

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thanks jinky - yes they know i have arranged my shifts this way

robpw2

littlemissmoney wrote: »

You lot are harsh!! I bet the grandparents just thought it was a shame to travel during the day on sat means the weather has turned out so nice and their grandson is having such a great time...

i can see why thats fair

aliasojo

thatgirlsam wrote: »

-yes they are - ex mil is a teacher so a bit of a control freak :rotfl:
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but very nice with it - i get on with them very well

Well if it were me, then I'd go with the flow. There will be plenty things in your son's life before he becomes an adult that you're going to have to make a stand about, so try not to fret or wind yourself up about the smaller things. It's really only the fact that you're missing your boy so much that's causing the problem here.

Of course if the Grandparents were generally selfish, inconsiderate gits then my reply would be different. But since that's not the case, is this really worth making a stand about?

Btw...by the time he's 16, you'll be begging them to take him for a month never mind a week.

jinky67

thatgirlsam wrote: »

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thanks jinky - yes they know i have arranged my shifts this way

well I reckon either you or his Dad need to talk tough, and tell them you want your son home as arranged for that reason