am i being selfish

The_Banker_5

robpw2 wrote: »

i think the banker should stick to deal or no deal he doesnt have to be emotional then

I was trained never to let my emotions interfere with my decisions.;)

Minxy_Bella

The_Banker wrote: »

I was trained never to let my emotions interfere with my decisions.;)

Are you in the SAS?

No - wait - you could tell me but then you'd have to kill me, right? :eek:

The_Banker_5

Minxy_Bella wrote: »

Are you in the SAS?

Noooooo, much more sedate. I was in the Met for 20 years.:D

MrsAnnie

A parent that allows her 4 year old to go on holiday for a week with grandparents can hardly be called selfish. I know plenty of parents that would not let there children go on holiday without them (I am not one of them BTW!) I think the grandparents are being controlling, afterall mum and dad should have final say on matters concerning the child!

Minxy_Bella

The_Banker wrote: »

Noooooo, much more sedate. I was in the Met for 20 years.:D

Aha! I was close

The_Banker_5

Minxy_Bella wrote: »

Aha! I was close

Not really. The SAS dont issue parking tickets.:D

tsstss7

thatgirlsam wrote: »

-but i have allowed them to take him in the first place - even though i had a few reservations
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-this will probably put me off saying yes next time sadly

I think you are right to be annoyed although I can see their point of view also (we are having such a good time etc).

I also find it strange that they couldn't arrange to phone you when your child was awake either - do you think this might be because he was missing you alot and they didn't want to set him off (and maybe didn't want you to hear him upset as you had reservations about him going) I know when my ds1 was about 4 and he started to stay over with my mum sometimes he would get very upset talking to me on the phone although he had been fine up until then.

Sadly whatever your reservations I think you have set a precedent and will find it hard to say no next year (and every year after).

Oh and there is no way I would allow my in laws (or my side for that matter) to take LO away for a whole week without some kind of practice time first (I would maybe have gone for a long wknd if they were lucky) so they should count themselves lucky that you trust them so much to allow this.

Loopy_Girl

thatgirlsam wrote: »

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i am missing him so much - its quite painfull actually being seperated from him for so long

So basically you want him back for your benefit (you are missing him, you have done his room etc etc) and it's not crossed your mind that he will be having a whale of a time?

There's only one control freak here and it's certainly not the m-i-l

I don't think you are selfish, I just think you are being petty and childish and trying to say that 'you are his mother and your word is final'...which isn't all that realistic when the little lad has 2 families (yours and ex's).

I think you need to step back and take a deep breath and realise that there are worse things that could be happening - like them not giving a toss at all since you have split from their son.

And as for Father's Day, you have already said that your ex says you can take him round - where's the trauma there?!!!

I'd advise a bottle of Rescue Remedy and be ready to welcome your lad home

loftus

Like many others I can understand your feelings but think you need to try and step back a bit. Yoo know and trust the people who are caring for your son and he is having a good time. You have him and enjoy him the majority of the time.
Where I think you are being particularly selfish is in saying that his father can't tale him out on Father's Day. I know you have missed your son and I know you say he can "come round" but surely he can have an afternoon with his son on this of all days at least.
Some of the posts here read like the child is the mothers possession and I'm not sure that's good for anyone, particularly when there appears to be a good working relationship between all parties, despite this glitch.

The_Banker_5

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

So basically you want him back for your benefit (you are missing him, you have done his room etc etc) and it's not crossed your mind that he will be having a whale of a time?

There's only one control freak here and it's certainly not the m-i-l

I don't think you are selfish, I just think you are being petty and childish and trying to say that 'you are his mother and your word is final'...which isn't all that realistic when the little lad has 2 families (yours and ex's).

I think you need to step back and take a deep breath and realise that there are worse things that could be happening - like them not giving a toss at all since you have split from their son.

And as for Father's Day, you have already said that your ex says you can take him round - where's the trauma there?!!!

I'd advise a bottle of Rescue Remedy and be ready to welcome your lad home

Exactly what I was saying earlier Loopy.;)

Watch out though, you'll now have 'robpw2' all complete with his terrible spelling and grammar coming to the defence of the OP.

I think he secretly fancies her though.:p