am i being selfish

aliasojo

thatgirlsam wrote: »

i spose i wouldn't mind so much if i had been asked not told that they changed the plans.

I suspect it would not have occurred to them that there would be any sort of issue, to be fair.

What are they like as people usually? Are they normally nice enough/considerate etc?

thatgirlsam

aliasojo wrote: »

I think you should step back and try to see the situation without the emotion. I can completely understand why you feel the way you do, but I think you're at risk of blowing a simple situation out of proportion tbh.

You have him 24/7 most of the time, try to be the bigger person in this and think of your son. Dont spoil his time by taking a hard stance. Let him stay at his Gran's and get him home the next day.

Also if you get him home at midnight, it's hardly a good time to show off his room.

And yes, I have been in this situation with my ex husband, so I do know how you feel.

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i am trying to - i don't think it would be spoiling his time though by having him back at the time arranged

The_Banker_5

thatgirlsam wrote: »

-but i have allowed them to take him in the first place - even though i had a few reservations
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-this will probably put me off saying yes next time sadly

It will put you off saying yes. What about if your son wants to go ..........will you still say no?

thatgirlsam

aliasojo wrote: »

I suspect it would not have occurred to them that there would be any sort of issue, to be fair.

What are they like as people usually? Are they normally nice enough/considerate etc?

-yes they are - ex mil is a teacher so a bit of a control freak :rotfl:
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but very nice with it - i get on with them very well

The_Banker_5

Minxy_Bella wrote: »

Actually, it wasn't my question - it was the OP's.

And I still think your reply was harsh.

Not really if you look at it from an outside view.

Minxy_Bella

The_Banker wrote: »

Of course I have children.

And what about the rights of the grandparents or are you thinking mistakenly that the mother should have sole rights.;)

Do grandparents have a legal right to see their grandchildren, let alone take them away on holiday?

I think not.

I think these grandparents should thank their lucky stars that they have such a good relationship with their grandson and his mother, rather than take the mickey about changing their agreement.

thatgirlsam

The_Banker wrote: »

It will put you off saying yes. What about if your son wants to go ..........will you still say no?

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doubt it - i will try to make them understand they should stick with the programme

littlemissmoney

Do what's best for your son... let him spend extra time with his grandparents

I think you are being selfish, but totally understand why you feel that way

Minxy_Bella

The_Banker wrote: »

Not really if you look at it from an outside view.

How can you look at it from an 'outside view' (whatever that is) when she is a mother and I am a mother?

You cannot be objective about a mother being messed around by people she entrusted her son to IMO.

The_Banker_5

Minxy_Bella wrote: »

Do grandparents have a legal right to see their grandchildren, let alone take them away on holiday?

I think not.

I think these grandparents should thank their lucky stars that they have such a good relationship with their grandson and his mother, rather than take the mickey about changing their agreement.

Wow........I pity any ex husband of yours.;)