am i being selfish

The_Banker_5

Minxy_Bella wrote: »

I hope Sam has a lovely reunion with her little lad and ignores the nutters who'd send toddlers up chimneys!! :rolleyes:

Calm down dear, its only a thread.;)

poet123

The_Banker wrote: »

But she's not focusing on her child. She sent him away with the grandparents so she could have a weeks peace.:D

Call me old fashioned but my kids only ever went on holiday with me and my OH when they were little.;)

I presume you know the OP well? my kids only ever went on holiday with us when they were little, but everyone is not fortunate enough to have the same set of circumstances.

Maybe the OP was just being kind to her ex mil and allowing her extended contact, maybe her ex had asked if he could go?. There are lots of scenarios which could have happened, and as the OP is a nurse working nights, with another school aged child, she was hardly idle whilst he was away.

Why must you always focus on the possible negative aspect rather than say something positive or nice?

Tbh, (and this is rare for me) I feel like saying something quite rude to you, even though I have a suspicion you are simply bored and playing devils advocate or just trying to get someone to rise to the bait. Which I clearly have:eek:

Anyway, whatever your motives, my comment would be that your posts lead me to read your user name not as written, but as something similar that rhyhmes with it.

mspig

I would state that even if they get back at midnight he still has to get out of the car and go to bed so he can do that at your house as good as he can at theirs.
Sorry to those who think that grandparents have some sort of rights over their grand children but in my house its not the way it works - my husbands family live abroad and have asked for the kiddies to go and stay with them but the answer is always no, not without us with them if they are that desperate to see them they can as easily come here as us to go there.

galvanizersbaby

poet123 wrote: »

Anyway, whatever your motives, my comment would be that your posts lead me to read your user name not as written, but as something similar that rhyhmes with it.

I was just thinking the same thing myself

JOHNSTONE1

I dont think you're being selfish and i understand exactly where you're coming from as i miss my son loads when we are apart for even a short amount of time.

I did just want to say though that however unreasonable they are being its nice that they have taken him on holiday and that they enjoy spending time with him and him with them. My husbands parents have shown an ounce of interest in our son and its sad especially when you see how he is with my mum and dad.

They shouldnt be calling all the shots though. Hope you have a lovely time when he gets back.

pnq06

So hold on a minute, how can thatgirlsam, the 4 year old boys mother be selfish? She has tried to make contact several times over the week and has been denied at any opportunity- How does she even know her son is happy?!?!? She hasn't spoken to him...
And as the grandparents are parents themselves you would think that they understand her need to speak to her child, who did I mention is 4 !!!!!! A week away from his mummy must seem like a year in his mind!

I think she did them a huge favour by letting him go in the first place and as someone else said, the grandparents should be feeling very lucky that they've got such a good relationship esp. as most grandparents who aren't related to the PWC are usually left out of things like days out/holidays etc.

Personally thatgirlsam I would call them back and say, sorry but you would like him back at the time arranged as you have had to rearrange your shifts at work to fit in with seeing him xx

zfrl

My DS has been away with his grandparents since he was tiny but they insist he talks to us every day. They realise that although they are important a 4 year old needs his primary carer first & foremost.

I hope you get everything sorted as when my DS was 4 if he did not get to bed by 6:30/7:00 you might as well have written the following day off due to tiredness.

Stick to your guns especially so it does not happen again.

P.S. Have a great reunion.

seven-day-weekend

Not read all the thread,but I actually don't see why it's a problem.

He's enjoying himself, the grandparents are enjoying themselves, the parents have him all the rest of the time, what a great situation!

I bet there are many families who would like that situation!

And yes, I have brought up a son and quite honestly enjoyed the times when he went to his grandparents on Saturday afternoon!

thatgirlsam

well i tried to ring but no reply so left a message on ex fil phone saying i would like him brought back to mine , also wishing him a happy birthday , fil not son, and hoped son had given him the present we hid in his bag -

-got a message back saying they would be back to mine about 9.30pm so i am happy with this -

-i have found the experience a bit traumatic tbh - ds turned 4 last month - he seems so little ... but i am sure he has coped with the seperation much better than me
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-i don't really care who thinks that is sad or not - i love my kids very much

poet123

You dont need to apologise, I spent yesterday like a cat on a hot tin roof as youngest DS (12)had gone Alton Towers with the school, and as he doesnt like rides had visions of him being pressured into going on the really big ones. As it turns out I got a txt at lunchtime saying it was brill, and he had been on Oblivion twice:eek: