Shared Birthday party what to do about presents

lostinrates

If you are really serious about no presents how about something like sponsering a zoo animal or one of the many other similar things? That will also provide focus for a day trip over summer holidays? That should only cost the parents a tiny bit and can cover both kids

inspector_monkfish

how about half the boys buy for half the girls
then out of the the other remaining half, a quarter of the girls buy for the girls, and a quarter of the boys buy for the boys, then the remaining quarter don't buy anything
that way everyone is happy and the remaining 1/3rd get to eat all the jelly and ice-cream for free

OR

you could just have no rules and let the parents of the invited children use their own ideas and do whatever they think is best....

NoAngel

When I went to partys like this when I was younger, I would receive an invitation from one of the children only. So maybe your DD can give invites to the girls, saying:

X invites you to a birthday party for X and Y

and the boy sends the boys in the class:

Y invites you to a party for X and Y

That way a present only needs to be brought by their 'own' guests

pretzelnut

NoAngel wrote: »

When I went to partys like this when I was younger, I would receive an invitation from one of the children only. So maybe your DD can give invites to the girl, saying:

X invites you to a birthday party for X and Y

and the boy sends the opposite:

Y invites you to a party for X and Y

That way a present only needs to be brought by their 'own' guests

Thats a FAB idea.

I would also speak to that mum saying its ok for your child to come gift ir no gift as we want all the children there regardless of their financial situation.

MrsTinks

princesswoo wrote: »

I would also speak to that mum saying its ok for your child to come gift ir no gift as we want all the children there regardless of their financial situation.

That might not go down too well... I know that if it were me whilst I'd appreciate the thought I'd feel very embaressed that someone had noticed - or if the reason WASN'T financial then that people thought it was! :eek:

If you want everyone there then say no pressies please, but if people insist then just accept you can't dictate what they do at the end of the day

bonty44

What about getting the children to bring a plate of food (for all, not just themselve!) instead of a present?

inspector_monkfish

:wall::wall::wall::wall::wall::wall:

only a woman could have started this thread;):D


take something simple like a kids birthday party, and complicate it beyond all recognition

well done :T

Millie's_Mum

inspector_monkfish wrote: »

:wall::wall::wall::wall::wall::wall:

only a woman could have started this thread;):D


take something simple like a kids birthday party, and complicate it beyond all recognition

well done :T

I was only asking peoples opinions, if you object to the thread then please don't bother to read it or post on it.

winnie81

I would leave the part about presents blank if I were you. Most people will bring both children a present (I always do and everyone I know does) as they would see it as if not a joint party it would've been 2 single parties

I have had joint parties and many of my kids friends have joint parties and I have always bought each child a present and have not heard differently from the other mums etc I would think putting present instructions would possibly complicate things for who was buying for which child etc

Good luck with the party!

inspector_monkfish

Millie's_Mum wrote: »

I was only asking peoples opinions, if you object to the thread then please don't bother to read it or post on it.

chill out m'luv
sounds like you worry too much, just go with the flow and let the kids enjoy the party... :D