Lose weight 27

vixarooni

maybe im cold but i cant relate to it at all. I see an accident or watch a film with bad stuff in and straight away i think of my little matty. It would make me want them more.

i was just going to say perhaps it was the shock but no else she wouldnt have gone to work! and she remembered to go to work - but not that her child was in the car?

Makes me wonder if the child was safe in her care at all. Obviously it wasnt because it would still be alive now

mazza111

Dunno, shock makes people do funny things. Remember one day, my DS had an accident at home, just grabbed him automatically, put him in his car seat, took him to hospital for stitches. When I arrived at hospital I remembered I had a bottle of wine with lunch that day :eek: Which is something I would NEVER do. Needless to say once he was stitched, the car got left at the hospital until the next day. But I think you go onto autopilot and just go with the flow. Poor woman will never forgive herself. I know I wouldn't have forgiven myself if something had happened on the way to the hospital that night.

victory

You see putting her in prison for what she did would do not good, she has her own guilt sentence to live with now:rolleyes: spanish people are very family orientated and this is all they talk about wherever you go...

vixarooni

no prison isnt the answer for this woman. I actually feel some form of anger actually. Such an interesting topic for debate!

I have two job applications to do! woo. One is for an events coordinator and the other is for a planning officer. All sounds really exciting. I will get out of debenhams before christmas!!!

dmv_2

I agree with you Victory, she will punish herself more than any law could.

VIX - would never leave her outside sainsburys, I'm a cheepo asda/tesco/aldi girl! Lol do shop sainsburys as it is closest but not for main shops. In all honesty though I dont think you can judge her ability as a mother on one, albeit fatal, mistake. As has been said shock effects people differently and she could still have gone to work in shock, just because you are in shock doesnt mean you know it, so all we can do is pray that never happens to us. Obviously its good to believe you would do better, but my only strong feelings are sympathy towards the mother and family.

Had a yummy dinner which OH did egg fried rice to go with. Only a tiny amount of oil as it mostly fried itself in the egg so not as bad as it sounds and was much nicer than plain boiled rice. I like rice cooked differently, its gorgeous cooked with a bit of chicken stock and tomatoes or even a bit of dry fried onion cheers it up a bit.

Got quite a bit of work done but now thinking i am gonna go wayyyy over word count and have to trim it right back but hey ho. Hope all have had a good day.

mazza111

Good Luck with those Vix.

Had a pretty good day here, started painting the livingroom thanks to sary talking about her painting on FB, so haven't had much time for crisps and chocolate, this keeping busy lark works :j:j

victory

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sarymclary

Hello gang,
Welcome to the newbies. I've had a quick scan thru' the thread to catch up. I did try to post a couple of days ago, but I lost my internet connection during it, and it was lost forever.... argh! After which, I couldn't get back on, and just had too much to do anyway.

So, the dining room is decorated, and as Mazza has said, I've started on the living room now too. I don't like the colour I've painted the living room (and I ran out of paint before I'd finished), so that's going to have to get re-done next week.

This weekend is my sister & bro-i-l's big posh anniversary party. I haven't had the money to buy a new outift, so am about to go upstairs to try to find something suitable. The boys are all sorted with their fancy shirts & smart trousers. Unfortunately, being a SAHM, I have very little need for very smart clothes. I have a few interview type clothes - which clearly don't help get me a job! It will probably be the same pair of trousers and same Monsoon blouse I always seem to wear to a more smart do, that I've been wearing for the past 7 years :rolleyes If I have enough time I may try to stop off enroute to see if there is any bargains to be had at a shopping centre, but I won't buy for the sake of it. It's my sister's big night, and I know she has a new outfit, so all eyes will be on here thankfully, and I can hide behind OH and the kids.

Food has been OK. I felt really awful after my weekend away. The food had obviously been too sugary/fatty for me, and the knock-on effect was to feel like I was having a 'wobble' sugar-dip most of Monday. I tried to keep things safe by keeping everything complex carb and low GI. It was quite distressing to see my friend's eating completely out of control. She is eating so much, so often, and so badly, and I found it hard to witness. We went out for a chinese meal on the Saturday night, and she was talking about how unhappy gaining the weight has made her, and what was the answer, how could she stop being like this, and how was she going to be able to lose it for good? The problems are more in her head, than physical, and I think she's been using the food for comfort, and even for punishment. She's struggling to find work, has been torturing herself with having contact with an ex who emigrated, but who I suspect uses her as a 'lifeboat' option, and likes to keep his options open, whilst he's still getting on with enjoying his life, she's stagnated, pining for 'the one'. The sad truth is that she wasn't happy when she was with him anyway! I understand eating because she's not happy, but she has literally spent thousands of pounds on different diets, therapy, eating disorder counsellor, SW, WW, Lighterlife, Go Lower, Cambridge... you name it, she's been on it. We agreed together last New Year that we'd both start losing weight together.... she's a stone heavier now than she was then. I felt almost guilty for walking through the door as a reminder of how she'd 'failed' yet again. I don't know how to help her, and felt quite helpless, but I almost think that if she had the spare cash, she'd go for surgery now.

In some respects I'd be happy to see her just content, no matter what size she is. Happiness isn't necessarily depicted by your size, although it would be healthier. Her brother has just been diagnosed as diabetic, and I think she will go the same way if she's not careful, as her dad has developed it too with age, although he has another medical condition too, and is a slim man.

Anyway, apart from that, I've come back home and been a busy bee. Off to dry my hair, and try on some outfits now...

Have a great weekend everyone.

victory

nice to see you back sary:D diabetes does run in families, mine no no one dead or alive had it but it is supposed to be genetic:rolleyes:

I was reading an article that people fear being hungry so they eat constantly to make sure that they are full and never feel the hunger pangs, fear as in what people go through when flying or darkness or whatever but proper fear, that is obviously in the head but comes from something previous, I never knew there was an actual fear of being hungry:rolleyes:

dmv_2

VICTORY - I always thought not letting yourself get hungry was more a learnt habit but I think there is a fear of everything. Thats sounds sarcastic but I'm serious, If you can be scared of a number, garden pea etc you can be scared of anything surely? For me its spiders as every woman both sides of my family has that fear so it was pushed onto me when they all screamed and ran when they saw one etc. I saw one in a big cardboard box I needed to put in the wheelie bin last week and a ended up spraying it with airfreshner and squishing it with a squeegy mop while I was shaking!

SARY - hello again! Im a bit like you with going out clothes, hope you find a new top or something you like.

Boring same old for me today, breakfast then a day of uni work, dog walking and cooking, oh and Im living dangerously so will throw in a bit of hoovering!