Lose weight 27

tagz

Happy birthday Vic!

Wish your day was a bit better though. I have to say £50 is quite a nice sum, but I know how they are under pressure from their peers to get the latest stuff. Doesn't he realise though that you didn't get anything? Was that out of choice or did they just forget?

I was a bit miffed at the kids yesterday as there was no card and the eldest said 'oh yeah it's your anniversary'. I ask you! He ate the blooming iced cookie the night before! I spelt it out for him (literally on the cookie!!) and he didn't remember. I have serious worries for his girlfriend! I didn't want a big deal made but I think 20 years warrants some recognition! The annying thing is he sends my parents a card on their anniversary and he sees them nearly everyday!

BTW definately meatballs. It's your day, so your choice! Mind you if they are going to cook it for you would sausages be so bad? Could this not be a birthday gesture? They cook the meal whilst you put your feet up watching a bit of telly!

cazzy0898

HAPPY BIRTHDAY VICTORY:beer:

victory

......................................

Missy™

:T :T Happy Birthday Victory!!! :T :T

BB what a lovely post

Int-Floozie, good luck with the gym, at least you now have a fair idea of the type of class that doesn't suit you at the moment. It's worth trying others, I logged about 20 classes before more or less giving up on them, I do far better exercising alone and to my own timetable

grannynise

Sorry the family haven't been celebrating for you Victory. Love granny

sarymclary

Victory - I can SO see your side of this one. I wonder if it is, because our generation of parents (primarily mothers) seem to have taken on so many of the roles in a family, that the extended members (ie. children, spouse) simply have every task of thoughtfulness taken care of for them?

When it was my mum, dad's, sisters', grandparent's birthday, I took it upon myself to use my pocket money, or paper round money to go out and choose a gift. I would save up to buy a few bits and pieces, and a card. I don't think I ever needed reminding. We didn't have banners and balloons back then, but I'd make a little poster with my felt tip pens and some paper. I'd pick some flowers from the garden and put them in a glass on a tray to take up to my mum for breakfast in bed, just little things like that. For a mum or dad it's the thought and effort that counts. I always tell mine that a homemade card is treasured forever, so don't get ripped off by Clintons.

I think for you though Victory, it's been a bit of a difficult year with your OH, and after the promises of 'I'll do anything', you've been faced with the reality, which is doing nothing. I suspect the birthday non-event is one of many different scenarios you have/are dealing with at home. BB's post highlighting your efforts and accomplishments was spot on, as usual BB, and it is important that you take a moment to realise that whilst we can't share your day with you in person, there are plenty who do wish you well today, and can acknowledge your strengths and abilities. I hope whenever you feel a bit down, you can remind yourself of all those special qualities you have. Unfortunately those closest to us don't always see this, or the need to acknowledge it.

I've learnt over the years to drop unsubtle hints about the good value things I'd like, because as you say, it's not about the money spent. So, I suggest things like a new mug/cup, a some badedas shower gel, a scented candle, etc. Nothing expensive, but a little treat just for me, that shows a bit of thought. The boys and OH definitely fare better with a list of suggested ideas. I usually end up buying the cake, but then I do the s/mkt shop, although my 15 y/o is a good cake maker, so would make a h/m one, and did offer last year.

As for your eldest, and his disatisfaction with £50, that's just his age. I've stopped even trying to be gentle with them when it comes to money. Your friends' have parents with different personal circumstances to us, and if they get wad loads of cash, then lucky them! The simple fact is that we don't have that kind of money, so you can't have it. We give you what we can afford, and that is a big stretch for us, so be grateful. If that's not enough, well tough. I know your son was looking for some p/t work, and it is hard to find any right now, but hopefully he'll just keep trying. My 15 y/o went round the primary schools yesterday on the last day of his holidays to try to see if he could get a job as a cleaner after school, and during the holidays. He asked at the local chippie last week, and has left his number with a sandwich shop. Once he's 16 he's going to write to every fast food outlet, and supermarket there is. It's a tough age, and I do think that the families who's income allows for generous allowances are necessarily making a wise choice in giving too much cash to their kids. They don't have a sense of valuing money.

Anyway, that's all a bit OT I guess, but warranted addressing I felt.

Today I have tried to stay on track, and kept my fluid intake up. I kept myself busy, and relished the peace and quiet that I got from having all the children back at school. Bliss. Things smoothing over with OH, sort of. I'm not being so moody, and am talking to him again, but we're not talking about the issue itself. I need time still for that. I have spoken to my son about it, and he knows my thoughts and feelings about the whole matter, and knows he has my support, and that he should still feel secure, and he seemed fine with that.

Still not had any chocolate! I even found some eclair sweets in the car that we had during a car trip, and gave one to my little one after school for being a good boy and getting a housepoint today. There's willpower for you!

victory

..............................................

victory

sary how is your boy now and the atmosphere in the house? Has it all been sorted out? I hope your lad know he is a very smart intelligent lad and his exam results were just fine and is he going to go onto big and better things:D

Brighton_belle

Great stuff Sary: you are really good at sharing your expereinces and what you have learnt through them in an empathetic way.

Victory - you have had a rubbish day xx. I certainly didn't want you to feel humbled : it's just how I talk to myself sometimes when I'm having a carp day - I remind myself how good things felt only 2 days ago and life can't have changed that much and it just feelings I need to ignore until they pass. And becasue you felt so rubbish I wanted to remind you of some of the reasons why you are definitley not rubbish.

If your OH has been much better recently, then maybe this is one humungus bad day for him but needn't write off all the recent efforts? Only you know the answer to that.Sounds like maybe he is stresssed out and that blew up today at you, when he realised he'd messed up dispite trying really hard recently.
Birthday are funny things and you wanted just a little tlc today: I'm really sorry you didn't get that.

My colleagues 17yr old went mad on his recent birthday when he wasn't presented with a car (becasue ALL his mates got a car on their 17th...) even though he was warned that would NOT be happening. He's been horrendous this last year over stuff like that: no help, but it does seem to be an age thing.

Had a stir fry tonight: try it every 2 years and am always reminded why I don't cook them more often.

victory

THANKS BB rubbish day over onto the next one;)