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sarymclary

BB - I'm so sorry to hear about your lovely friend's illness, and impending end. I thought Granny's sentiments hit the spot just right though. It is true, our culture nowadays really does shy away from the inevitable, and we tend to believe that whilst life isn't (yet!) everlasting, we should all expect a pretty good innings. Unfortunately the plan for each of us is different, and some do not get to stay with us for as long as we would like. I don't know if you're a spiritual person at all BB, but I like to think of it in terms that each person is placed here to touch the hearts and minds of those around them, and for some exceptionally special people, it can take a much shorter time for them to have an amazing impact, and therefore their work is done, and they move on. My neice was only here for a matter of weeks, but she left her mark on us all. My husband died in his 30's, but his impact is still felt daily in many of the lives of those who he met, worked with, or who loved him, and he loved them. Their stars shine so brightly that they can't be forgotten. Allow yourself the time to grieve for your loss, and to cherish the moments you had. Be grateful to have had such a wonderful friend in your life. I know you will not now have a chance to see your friend, but could you send her a short note or card to tell her you are thinking of her, and how special you think she is, and how grateful you were to have her kindness back when you needed it? Perhaps you could plant something in her memory? My best friend lost a baby and planted a rose in it's memory; without fail it always blooms for the first time on the anniversary of the baby's due date. My friend finds comfort in that. I have a yucca plant that was the last gift my husband gave me, and whilst it looks a bit straggly at times, as I'm better with outdoor plants than indoor, it is something I have to remind me of him. Wishing you well, and PM me anytime you feel you want to have a chat.

Missy - I also like to have medium term goals, and find they are a good technique to keep me focussed, and on track, well at least most of the time.

Victory - so sorry to have mentioned the 'C' word already! It's on my mind though, and I'm already planning who/what to buy for, but this year more importantly, who not. I'm going to tell my extended family that I'm doing a 'no adults' gift giving this year, and ask them to do the same for us. So many are in precarioius job situations, or out of work now, and it's really the children who get excited about it, whereas we just worry about it. The children have already been told it's a tight year cash wise, and to choose ideas accordingly. As for the magic knickers, I got my from M&S, and they do make a difference, and I can still breathe in them. It just gives a nicer 'line' to clothes, and there's no panty line either. If it's good enough for the Hollywood A listers, then it's good enough for me... ooh, what about some Spanx? They all swear by them.

Mirnish - let us know how you get on with the Alli. I only know how a friend was when prescribed something similar by their GP, and anything high fat just shot through them, so it's a physical way of showing when you're getting it wrong I guess. Buttons used to use them, but I don't think she contributes here much anymore...

Dinah - well done on achieving the 5lb monthly target! It's really been a month for you, hasn't it?

nm123 - I think working through finances is often harder (and scarier) work than an hour's aerobic exercise. I'm sure the strain on the grey matter, and the nerves is justified in missing some swimming.

Today I've been carb munching again, and feel awful as a result. More mentally than physically, although I know it's bloated me out again. It's harder to stick to the day's plan when the children are around, and I think them going back to school will be the time to tackle it. That's what I did before, and it worked. I've been out in the garden putting some seeds in for winter pansies, and some lupins. Have moved my mini-greenhouse to a more sheltered spot, as it had collapsed in the wind! I'm contemplating moving some furniture around in the small utility room to create some space, but who knows if that'll work. My 15 y/o got his 1st yr GCSE science results today, and they were all passes, but he was a bit gutted to be 1 and 2 marks off getting B's, but he now knows he's close to his goal, and can pull that back next year. My friend's daughter got 8 A's, and my eldest son tutored her for her maths, which she was predicted to be ungraded, and she got a C! She was so happy she cried. My son is so proud of her, and really pleased she did so well. The other girl he tutored got an A, so he's doubly proud of his 'students'. Ironic that he didn't go on to take maths for A level really.

Right, I'm going to get off this sofa and go do something more active!

tagz

Hiya

So sorry to hear about your friend BB. Massive big whoppahugs to you. I know the news is devastating but at least you have a bit of time to speak to her on the phone and let her know how much she is loved. My son's girlfriend lost her best friend two days ago. He died of heart failure on her 19th birthday. He was only 25 bless him but there was a family history of it, however he died without his family near as they shunned him when he told them he was gay.


Dinah congratulations and the ring looks beautiful. I was 20 when we got engaged during a holiday in Malta and we couldn't afford a diamond ring. I LOVE my engagement ring but a bit of sparkle shows up a tan beautifully don't you think?


I tried a pair of Spanx last year and they drove me mad. The fat has to go somewhere and I just ended up with the spare tyre being shifted to under my boobs!

I'm struggling at the mo with my eating. I'm exercising more but keep getting headaches and going 'wobbly' which means I need to get my blood sugar up. I end up craving the carbs and sugar. I think I'll have to get the GI books out again!

victory

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victory

sary great website for you all about carbs, the good the bad and the ugly, I am sure you know but was reading it up for you http://www.ehow.com/how_4422236_identify-carbohydrates.html

Brighton_belle

Thank you so much everyone for your care and kindness. The best bit is of course, that I knew I would get that from you all: thanks for being such a great forum of peeps - that I didn't need to explain, just tell you how I felt.
I have written to my friend today reminding her of the gift she gave me and that what I learnt from her gets passed on - and this is just one of her legacies. It will not be possible to speak on the phone - she really is beyond that now. But thanks to you all for understanding that it is is about just allowing myself to feel.
I can certainly relate to your spiritual take sary. And I always think it is worth remembering that we can't all be high flyers and so called 'sucessful', but we can do a miriad of small things that make someone else's day better than it would have been if we didn't exist, both for those we know and strangers.

beanielou

What a lovely lovely post Brighton Belle xxx

rosieposie2000

BB - thats a really lovley thing to do, im sure she will love every word written. sometimes writing a letter is the best thing to do. Your friend can read it over and over again, remembering all the good times and joy you, and she, brought to each other.
this way you can remember her the way you want to. xx

victory

Brighton_belle wrote: »

. And I always think it is worth remembering that we can't all be high flyers and so called 'sucessful', but we can do a miriad of small things that make someone else's day better than it would have been if we didn't exist, both for those we know and strangers.

Once a long time ago my OH had a chat with a lad, many years later they met and he thanked him saying that the chat had changed his view on life, his career, his future and it was thanks to him he had taken that road and it had proved a success for him, his health, well being, life appreciation etc, OH had not the slightest clue that just a reassuring chat had made someone else's life better.

Time with people, patience, listening, understanding them, making them feel valued, loved, appreciated, cared for and heard are worth their weight in gold.

Missy™

OK here's a new little challenge for me. I've decided I drink too much diet coke (and fanta). I have a friend who's recently given it up and I think I need to follow his example.

I drink plain old water, Ribena & lemon squash but not a lot else in the way of cold soft still drinks (I don't drink any hot drinks, or any alcohol). This is my chance to try lots of new ones - so please could you list some of your faves? Especially any that are quite cheap

Dinah93

Elderflower cordial is my favourite, really light and refreshing