Need Help! Council had a "tip off" i am living at my girlfriends

Ulfar

silvercar wrote: »

It isn't that simple.

The girlfriend has no power over boyfriend's parents and can't "require" them to do anything.

I am afraid you are wrong in this, the benefits regulations have a clause that allows them to obtain information from a third party and if that third party don't comply it is a criminal offence.

It is amazing the amount of clauses like this that Labour have included in all sorts of legislation.

I am still at a loss as to what the problem is to getting the parents to sign the declaration, if the OP is living with them then he must speak to them.

Blacksheep1979

baig wrote: »

id be okay with it and pay what i owed...and that would be that

So why don't you pay to look after your daughter? Or are you on benefits too?

silvercar

Blacksheep1979 wrote: »

So why don't you pay to look after your daughter? Or are you on benefits too?

As i work Mon-Fri - early starts - and my work is closer to my parents

I guess OP pays whatever the CSA calculates is appropriate and this reduces GF's benefits.

gizmo111

pizzagirl wrote: »

Marry her. And make an honest woman of her (and you too)

Doesnt the girlfrind get a say in this? Living with him or marrying him may be the last thing she wants.

BitterAndTwisted

Sounds like someone has informed the benefits people. If the OP only stays overnight one night a week but visits more often people might have assumed he stays whenever he visits.

It's not cut and dried that anyone is lying and I feel sorry for the OP if he's being truthful but it does definitely sound like the benefits people think they have proof of some sort

Squish_21

I cant thing of anyway around it.

Unfortunately your parents will need to pop to the job centre and confirm you live with them. Im sure they could do that much for thier son and Mother of their grandson.

neas

i weep that the two situations will occur.

OP is truthful - OP lives at parents, while girlfriend and long term partner (long enough to sire a child!) live seperately, what a brilliant example of a family. Seriously be a decent MAN and provide for your family... at the moment you seem immature or are running from your responsibilities.

OP is lying - OP is living at parents on paper but living with girlfriend, and child (more likely). Nobody would shop you if you werent living with her for real.. or living half the time there etc. Then i cry because once agan we are given an example of the scum of society... right here. taking taking and taking.. not giving. And we wonder why our country is up the swanny?

baig

neas wrote: »

i weep that the two situations will occur.

OP is truthful - OP lives at parents, while girlfriend and long term partner (long enough to sire a child!) live seperately, what a brilliant example of a family. Seriously be a decent MAN and provide for your family... at the moment you seem immature or are running from your responsibilities. ?

As already stated - we had split to make the relationship work, i wouldnt want to be in a house my my then x-gf - arguing infront of my son etc - i moved out to make the relationship work -READ BEFORE YOU REPLY!!

neas wrote: »

OP is lying - OP is living at parents on paper but living with girlfriend, and child (more likely). Nobody would shop you if you werent living with her for real.. or living half the time there etc. Then i cry because once agan we are given an example of the scum of society... right here. taking taking and taking.. not giving. And we wonder why our country is up the swanny?

NOPE - not at all = i have no reason to lie on a forum full of people i dont know -doesnt make sense!!

bluejake

baig wrote: »

Hi

My GF lives alone with our son and claims DSS, income support and child support etc...

Someone has told the council that i have been living there - which isnt true!!

She was invited to JOBCENTRE for an interview - she has been given 2 options...

1. Admit to it - and loose future income support allowance etc
2. I have to get my parents to confirm i live at my parents

NOW, I cant do the second thing - as my parents dont see eye to eye and i dont wsnt to drag them to JOBCENTRE for this - we have a few family issues going on - and i dont want to do this...

What can we do?

I dont really want to do the first option - for her to admit it cos its not fair on her....

What rights do i have??

Can i say that someone is lying and this isnt true?

She has been pressured into it by the man at the JOBCENTRE - to go with the 1st optin??

We are NOT fraudstres and benefit theives??

How can we go about this?

Thanks

Your girlfriend doesn't have to prove anything and your parents certainly do not have to provide evidence of anything.

Even in this country the onus is on the DWP to prove that your girlfriend is committing benefit fraud. Not the other way around.

If you do not live with your girlfriend she has nothing to worry about. It may be as simple as signing a statement stating that you do not live there because they have had an anonymous tip off.

I repeat: they must present evidence to your girlfriend that you are living there and then she can respond to that evidence. Your girlfriend does not have prove that a person is not living with her.

pizzagirl

baig wrote: »

NOPE - not at all = i have no reason to lie on a forum full of people i dont know -doesnt make sense!!

Guilty as charged m'lud.