A new start for Mooloo

Jo4

Mooloo, sounds like twin2 is happy. Hopefully twin1 will get the help she needs.

Savvy_sewing

Jo4 wrote: »

Mooloo, sounds like twin2 is happy. Hopefully twin1 will get the help she needs.

Its the other way around really. Twin1 is on the steady path, twin2 is off the rails.!
5 minutes between them at birth, 8 weeks between babies. I just hope that twin1 doesnt give me the same news.! Although I am sure she is on the implant so she should be safe.
Twin2 said it was an accident. She forgets to take her pill. Hence why I kept trying to get her to the doctors for the implant! They all have loads of condoms so I really dont understand why she was so lapse.
She is aware that she has struggled with BBJ and its not fair to him to bring in another child, or fair on the other child if she cant cope now!!!
Even lecturing the BF about things, when he started to come over to my old house, obviously has not got through to him.
Now he has "tried it on" with the sister, he has caused chaos!. He is not supposed to be at the hostel more then 3 nights, non consecutive, at the hostel and it appears hes been there eversince I took them 10 days ago!

I really don't understand teenagers, and young adults these days, there is enough information etc out there! Lazyness!!
Twin1 was supposed to be coming to see me with her BF tonight, but I havent seen them as yet!. Bet they come when I want to watch Mary Queen of Charity Shops!.
I find that interesting as what she was doing last week, was what I was up against and did at the BHF!!
:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Errata

Now he has "tried it on" with the sister, he has caused chaos!. He is not supposed to be at the hostel more then 3 nights, non consecutive, at the hostel and it appears hes been there eversince I took them 10 days ago!

I know you plan to phone Social Services - could you make sure they understand that Twin 2's boyfriend is sexually harrassing Twin 1 ? And also ask what the hostel warden is doing to ensure he doesn't stay more than he should ?

Jo4

Mooloo wrote: »

Its the other way around really. Twin1 is on the steady path, twin2 is off the rails.!

Sorry, I typed 1 where I should have typed 2 and vice versa incorrectly!

Savvy_sewing

Vipers nest!
Last night twin1 came to see me, with her BF, his father, and the baby.
She told me that when she refused the advances of her sisters BF, he hit her, and she hit her head on the table!! Apparantly this was on Sunday evening after her BF had gone.
Both BF and his Dad were fuming. Their automatic feelings were "beat him to a pulp" if they get thier hands on him. But logic told them to stay away! Both are Judo Coaches, so obviously they are aware that that would not be a good thing!!
Thank goodness for that. However my immediate feeling was not far off!!
I have agreed to go and talk to twin2, her BF, and the housing! To see if we can sort something out, as Twin1 cannot stay at her BF's much longer, as they dont really have the room!.
Twin1 doesnt want to go back to the hostel while the others BF is still there!.
What I can do is only ask the Housing if the BF has indeed been added to the tenancy, or if he is outstaying his welcome by breaking the rules. The problem with this is that Twin2 could possibly loose her tenancy there, and that would then be a disaster!
I think I will call Biggest of Mooloo and ask if she will come with me. I dont fancy doing this on my own!.
So much for a lazy week, recouperating from the move.!

tired_mum

Good luck Mooloo I think that SS need to be told whats going on for the girls and babies sake I know this cant be easy but it is a worry as babys dad was heavy handed but not deliberatly but this boyfriends attack seems deliberate and unprovoked hopefully the hostel will be able to help re him staying. Take care all of you

Savvy_sewing

EEk, where has the time gone? I have been "up" since 7.30ish, and yet I am not dressed, am sitting on the sofa with daytime TV on and my laptop. I have made a few phone calls, but the last 3 hours have zoomed passed!!
Tax Credits have been updated. They will finish on 31/8/09 unless DS did miraculously decide to go on to furhter education!
Time to get dressed, then go and check the plants in the garden.!
Going to leave the washing until tomorrow, as there is not enough of any one colour to put a load on. (That feels very weird after washing masses every day for years and years and years.....).
Getting hooked on reading MSE the challenges and such like threads. Better start to put more of it in action instead of just reading it all.

shaz_mum_of__2

Mooloo wrote: »

Getting hooked on reading MSE the challenges and such like threads. Better start to put more of it in action instead of just reading it all.

At least its free!! and keeps you out the shops:rotfl:

Shaz

Savvy_sewing

Thats true enough. I am definitely trying hard to spend less, and less. Looking at the income about to drop in August, is panicy!. So I must see what I can do to live on less before I end up with less and struggle. If you understand what I mean!.
I think that I am going to have to try and move the things that we shoved under the stairs and turning the space into a "pantry". I am still going around boxes in the kitchen. The herbs and spices are still in the (clean) kitchen bin that they were brought over in last week!. There is not enough space in my kitchen for the pots and pans I have, never mind the StoreCupboard of spices etc!!

Errata

This is a bit blunt but I think I need to be.

Mooloo, you need to contact Social Services immediately. The BF has physically hurt your grandchild and your child. He's out of control.
Never mind about watching daytime telly or sorting out boxes, you have a serious and urgent problem and you need to act now.
I would guess that the BF has also assaulted Twin 2 in the past and you haven't been told about it.
The hostel is meant to be a safe place for women and their children. Right now, it isn't, and that should be a matter of grave concern to you and it most certainly will be for Social Services.