A new start for Mooloo

Hobel

Nice to see you relaxing for a change Mooloo.

Savvy_sewing

Hobel wrote: »

Nice to see you relaxing for a change Mooloo.

Its a very strange feeling, as if I should be doing somethingelse, and a bit "guilty" that I am sitting reading when something should be done. At least at BF's I dont have to do anything. If I was here at the cottage, I would be wanting to get on with the sorting out of boxes et that are still lurking.
Well I better go and get dressed, or I will be late to collect Twin1.
(And drop twin2 off at the supermarket, (seperately as they are not talking !!):rolleyes:

Savvy_Sue

Mooloo wrote: »

Well I better go and get dressed, or I will be late to collect Twin1.
(And drop twin2 off at the supermarket, (seperately as they are not talking !!):rolleyes:

Sorry if I sound short-tempered and crabby on your behalf Mooloo, frankly I am short-tempered and crabby atm.

But why should them not speaking be YOUR problem?

If it were mine, I would say "I will be there to pick you both up at x time, I will drop Twin2 at supermarket and then take Twin1 wherever, if either of you prefers not to travel in the car with the other, do let me know because I'm not able to make two separate trips."

Savvy_sewing

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Sorry if I sound short-tempered and crabby on your behalf Mooloo, frankly I am short-tempered and crabby atm.

But why should them not speaking be YOUR problem?

If it were mine, I would say "I will be there to pick you both up at x time, I will drop Twin2 at supermarket and then take Twin1 wherever, if either of you prefers not to travel in the car with the other, do let me know because I'm not able to make two separate trips."

Thats actually what I did do. I think when I typed it in here it made me realise that I was bowing down to them again!
I got to theres and told them that if there was an issue they would have to wait. Dropped twin2 off at nearest big supermarket. Mr T, and said that she and BF would have to walk back, becuase the Social Worker was calling at 12.30 and I would not be back from Northampton by then.
Twin1 and I just got to Northampton, parked the car, when Twin2 rang asking for a lift back.... NO NO NO.
SHE HADNT LISTENED TO ME AT ALL.
Anyway Twin1 got her Ring, paid her bill, and I banked my cheque, and it was home Via my Mum's house to get a bag for me to sort, and Twin1's other bedding, and twin2's bigger buggy. (She had pinched her sisters from under the stairs, and caused a row there too!!).
When I got back to their hostel I didnt go in as the Social worker and the new health visitor was there. I just didnt want anything more to do with it, I wanted to come home. Appart from the fact that driving takes it out of me.
Came home had a salad for lunch, then went to have a sleep. Except I was just nodding off when I needed the loo. So trapse all the way back down stairs again. Tables for irritable bladder not really that effective!!
Then was just nodding off again when the phone rang.! Give up!.
DS is about to be collected by Twin1's BF to go to Judo. (Reckon he sees more of DS then twin at times!!).
Anyway, it means I have the evening to myself. So I have put the hot water on, and will have a bath in a bit!. Bubbles and candles ?

Savvy_sewing

Morning all.
I am struggling to get moving this morning. Obviously the driving yesterday has something to do with it. I am glad that I said it would be this afternoon that I will collect Twin2's BF and take him home to get his things. (He has limited stuff with him, (smells to high heaven if you ask me)).
I am trying to think of the best route, thats the least mileage, and if I can fit in anything else that I could do as well.!
I still have to work out my budget now that Npower have sent me some payment cards for the old bills, at £30 a month each utility. Thats not to mention what ever we are using here in the new house!.
Time to watch the meter going round.
I have bought some timers to put on the washing machine etc so that it comes on in the early hours, but I got it wrong today. When I came down it was on, Pause! so I had to click it on. Then when I did surface the machine had stopped before the cycle had finished. It takes 1.57h to do a wash!. I think I will have to look at the cycle and see if I can find a shorter one too!.

On a different subject completely. I think I am either going mad, or there may be a ghost in this cottage!.
I thought my son was going down stairs, so I asked for a cup of tea. When I didnt get one I came down expecting him to be watching TV. Nope he is still tucked up in bed. So who was making the stairs creeek?!
When I got back from the weekend away, there were lights on that I could have sworn I had put off. So was the water heater. That means it had been on since Friday morning, if not. Except I dont usually put the water on in the mornings?
There was another weird feeling that things were different, but I didnt really think much of it, until I heard the stairs this morning.!
Then again, perhaps I am just going slightly mad in my old age!

Js_Other_Half

Mooloo wrote: »

On a different subject completely. I think I am either going mad, or there may be a ghost in this cottage!.
I thought my son was going down stairs, so I asked for a cup of tea. When I didnt get one I came down expecting him to be watching TV. Nope he is still tucked up in bed. So who was making the stairs creeek?!
When I got back from the weekend away, there were lights on that I could have sworn I had put off. So was the water heater. That means it had been on since Friday morning, if not. Except I dont usually put the water on in the mornings?
There was another weird feeling that things were different, but I didnt really think much of it, until I heard the stairs this morning.!
Then again, perhaps I am just going slightly mad in my old age!

I know that both of my parents believed the house they rented when I was a baby was haunted. The front door was opened (unlocked and unbarred )in the middle of the night, despite both adults being upstairs...

Mum said whatever it was was based in my bedroom, but she wasn't worried by it...

Savvy_sewing

I am not worried if I do share my home with another spirit, as long as its a friendly enough one!. Perhaps I will have a chat to the building when I am on my own, and see if I can settle them...if there is a them of course!.
My family think I am crackers, or is that nuts? Which ever.

Am very tired after my help today. I also am definitely not going to drive for them as much, as I am really in quite a lot of pain.
I was talking to DS about the fact that I may not be able to keep the car on the road. We are going to investigate the hows wheres and means that are available to me so that I can get about if I need to.
Twins have been told.
Twin2's BF went to get his things from his mothers, apparantly she gave him a string of verbals and no love was lost!!
I am going to definitely back out of this one.
The health visitor has been to see the girls, and so have the social workers, with ,,wait for it........yet another introduction to a new worker!!!!
I have lost count of how many that is?
Now that they do not live with me, Social are not letting me in on what is happening. It was just that they were there when I got to the Lodge.
I took twin1's baby out with us. She was a pure angel. Not a cry out of place, she even put up with the heat well. I just found it wearing pushing the buggie up the hill.
Now I am home, cooking tea for DS and myself and then I am going to relax for the night. (Again.) Getting more relaxation then I have had in a while, but I am not getting as much,(yet) as I wanted to get. But I will.

Errata

The creaks you're hearing could be the wood expanding and contracting in the heat. I lived in a wooden house in Aus and it went off like a machine gun in the night as everything started to cool down.
The lights and water heater could have been left on by you, it's easy to forget these things when you're rushing out. On the other hand, what is the state of the electrics ?
I think the twins will learn more self resilience and independance if you don't act as a taxi for them, so slowly withdrawing the Mums Taxi service could be a good idea.
Best wishes

Savvy_sewing

Having a slow morning today, after all the running around of the last two days.
Twins have been told that I cannot drive them around anymore this week, as I cannot afford the petrol. To be honest I ended up paying for a few of the bits etc that was needed yesterday, and I am far too soft, as I didnt ask for the money back.!I cannot afford to keep doing these things. Same as the cushion covers etc for Biggest of Mooloo's. I must remember that I am getting the same or less money then they are!.
Now I was on the 50p a day challenge, and the £4000 a year challenge. Instead of lurking, I really must put a lot of the ideas into place. I have to focus better on the new income that I have now, and aim to live on the reduced one that I will be on in September if I cant up my income before then!.

Errata

Look at it this way: if you don't ask them for petrol money and buy them bits and pieces you're preventing them from becoming independent, coping and managing for themselves. If you want them to be realistic about what they can do and what they can't do because there's no money for it, you need to stop being the Bank of Mum as well as Mum's Taxi Service.
If you were able to help them out because you could afford it, that would be different, but you you also need to be realistic about your income and level of debt.
I know you want the best for them, but sometimes the road to hell is paved with good intentions.
How's the spreadsheet going ?