A new start for Mooloo

Jo4

Can you get a cancellation appointment with your own Gp? At my local surgery they have emergency appointments which you have to phone about at 8:30am and you get an appointment for that day. Does your local surgery have anything like this? At my local surgery if we go to see the nurse and she reckons we need to see the doctor then she calls him in. Do you have anything like this either?

shaz_mum_of__2

When do the adult services people let you know about help for you , could they do some of the tidying?

I am lucky that my mum comes once a fortnight and does all the cleaning (i pay her but she would do it for free) , just pushing the hoover round is exhausting for me. Sometimes she even does the ironing or takes washing home too!

Errata

Mooloo wrote: »

There are no appointments this week with my doctor. I could see a different one, but I would rather not. Its too difficult to explain my stresses etc, stresses me out even more.

That sounds sensible, but if you have another funny turn before then it would be a good idea to ring for an emergency appointment with any of the practice doctors, describe what happened to you and remind them of your previous stroke and all the medication, prescribed and OTC, you're currently taking
Feeling stressed is unpleasant, and not to be unexpected in your situation, but there may be several other possible causes for feeling disorientated and having to go to bed.

gizmo111

Mooloo wrote: »

True followers of my plight will know that I have done everything possible to care for my family, before the babies as well as after them.
They were born with problems, they didnt just become a problem through teenage indifference, or drug missuse, or alcohol etc. Its nothing we can click our fingers and find a cure, or a solution.
We cannot violate thier "human rights" and I would not want too. I have tried to give them the best start in life that I could, that includes both my children and my grandchildren.

We do know that and that is why you have so many followers who offer support to you.

On Friday although I was not allowed in on the court case, the solicitor did take out some time to tell me what is going on. I also surprisingly got to talk to the grandfather of DGS1, who sometimes talks, sometimes ignores. From thier perspective they want the custody of DGS1, and if that means they have to take on the baby, they are considering it. (This scares me, as their aim is for their son (the one who used to be on drugs etc, etc and who'shair strand test still proves he is still dabbling in cannabis), to live with them, and to bring up his son in thier house). This young man doesnt see t baby, just his own son, and when asked about the baby, has often called him "it" and due to this I fear that if they did take DGS2 just to keep DGS1, that DGS2 may be treated differently.

This wil be assessed and if the father is still using won't be able to reside with the grandparents anyhow. SS have a duty to consider all family options first, the difficulty here is that the baby is not family. Does your daughter get on with the grandparents?

The courts are asking for many phsyciatric tests to be done, on all the relevant people including the grandchildren, and they estimate that this will take us through until about April nxt year! So now we wait for the reletative professionals to be consulted, etc, and they have to go back to court in October, to inform the courts asto the wheres and whens and whos.etc.

Sounds about right timescale wise, but make sure when twin2 is being assessed that she fully engages with the psycologist and doesn't look for trick questions etc - they are not out to trip her up, just assess her long term parenting capacity. Its a good thing as very often these in depth assessments identify services and support that would make it possible for a child to be returned home.

The DNA of the second child confirms the correct father was named on the Birthcertificate, and that the previous partner to twin2 is the father. That he has deserted her. He was supposed to be at court, as he has also now applied for custody of DGS2, with his new fiancee!!!! Who has never ever even seen the baby!!! ITS COMPLETELY SCAREY.


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Don't worry too much - he will be assessed as will his partner and recommendations will be made to the court. If you think this is a very bad idea then make sure that twin2 keeps you informed every step of the way and every communication from the solicitor is shared with you.

minimoneysaver wrote: »

It'll all come good and I'm sure that social services will do what is best for your grandchildren. Did you ask or did your solicitor mention if you get to have any input at all? x

Mooloo as grandparent who is not party to proceedings will not get any say, although she can go to solicitors appointments etc with twin2. In this case I would consider going to solicitors with twin2 and asking if there is any possibility that she can be kept informed of developments and if for any reason twin2 becomes uncontactable Mooloo is contacted to track her down if neccassary to make sure solicitor has her instructions. I know we have been promoting SEP but this really is too important not just for twin2 and the boys but for Mooloo as well to take a back seat. Court proceedings can be quite overwhelming and she will now need all the support on offer to get through the next year.

minimoneysaver

Thanks for all of your help and advice Gizmo. It really helps us all to understand what is happening with mooloo. I just wish that there was more that we could do to help out as I know that you have been a tower of strength. x

clairehi

gizmo111 wrote: »

I know we have been promoting SEP but this really is too important not just for twin2 and the boys but for Mooloo as well to take a back seat. Court proceedings can be quite overwhelming and she will now need all the support on offer to get through the next year.

Gizmo I think your advice is fab and anyone doubting social workers should have a read of your contributions to this thread.

I agree with you about SEP. I think the consequences of what happens now with the court case are not "SEP" they will have a long term impact on Mooloo herself (and the rest of the family), and now is not the time to leave twin2 to make her own mistakes.

I was thinking about this and that the "SEP" approach is only going to work when the consequences of leaving well alone are not critical/irreversible or will not snowball catastrophically...

Eg I totally understand why Mooloo can't say no to giving the girls money for leccy when the consequences would be that food they have bought goes off and they are not able to cook it, so may go hungry or get food poisoning.

Savvy_sewing

Have read posts. Cant really reply properly at the moment.
I was supposed to get a call back from my doctor but it never materialised. I went to bed early, DS did a pizza etc for our tea.
I have taken DGD to nursery. Been to the council with some paperwork, and taken the car for its MOT. Good news, it passed. Not so good, is work that will be needed soon, will be abour £300 so I need to start to save £25 a week ready to cover it. Must get my sewing sold!!
Council thnk have overpaid my benefit by£400 odd s, so not thrilled about that. Awaiting paperwrk confirmation.
Cannot type well today.
Have to take DS back to town now.
He needs to chase his paperwork but was given his course start as next Tuesday. Lots need to be done. I will have to take it easy, until I am feeling better.
Catch up later.
Gizmo, hear what you are saying. Will help twin2 as much as I can.

Savvy_sewing

Am home, tired, sore, and picked up DGD early. Her Mum is ill and not coming. Not what i wanted or needed to hear today.
Can hardly move my neck today. Well to the left anyway.Left side is suffering.
I will re call the doctor in the morning and insist I see someone this is not good enough, and dispite wanting to see the one that knows me, I need to be checked out.
I will be going to bed as soon as DGD is.
She had her meal at Nursery, as I went to get her. She will only need a snck before bedtime. But I will not be upto cooking a meal for myself. Iwill just have some toast tonight. Then tomorrow will cook the meal as soon as I am moving before I loose the power as I have done today.
Too much driving, definitely.
I want to curl up in bed and use my heat pads. Not drive anywhere for a week or two. Though I doubt that that is possible.
I am making mistakes with appointments and have my comet delivery (heater for DGD's room) coming at same time supposed to be visiting the boys!! Dam.

Errata

I will re call the doctor in the morning and insist I see someone this is not good enough, and dispite wanting to see the one that knows me, I need to be checked out.

I think you're right and you need to see one of the doctors as a matter of some urgency. From all your posts, I've thought that your health problems seem to have got worse over the last several months, and thinking back to how you were when you were working in the shop, a lot worse.
Can you get DS to do some more around the house, to lighten the load ? Actually, in your shoes I'd be telling him. Can Biggest have DGD this weekend to let you have a break and a rest?
You must be feeling pretty bad to not be able to make yourself something decent to eat. Toast won't hurt for once but you need some good grub inside you to keep your strength up, not just for you but also so you can care for DGD well.
Have a good night's sleep tonight, and I hope you feel a bit better tomorrow.

shaz_mum_of__2

Oh mooloo sorry you have had a cra**py day , hope sleep and meds help and that DGD is good for you