A new start for Mooloo

Savvy_sewing

Well I think I have managed to wade my way through the paperwork that I needed to do. Apart from the budget. Thats harder to do, as I do not know what my tax credits are going to be. Also the child benefit for DS if he seriously does go to college. Worried about the costs for his pass etc, and whether or not I will be able to fund him until his EMA etc comes through!. Its going to be tight if I do, especially as I have the holiday ina few weeks time.

Need to take some documents etc to the council re the Council Tax/housing benefits. So will need to keep my eye on the time so I dont leave it too late.

shaz_mum_of__2

Mooloo came across this its aimed at cross stitchers but i think would work well just using 2 contrasting squares of fabric or pretty hankies would make good pincushions

http://www.creativepoppypatterns.com/instructions-how-to-make-biscornu-pxl-16.html?language=en

Hope you got to the council on time

Savvy_sewing

shaz_mum_of__2 wrote: »

Mooloo came across this its aimed at cross stitchers but i think would work well just using 2 contrasting squares of fabric or pretty hankies would make good pincushions

http://www.creativepoppypatterns.com/instructions-how-to-make-biscornu-pxl-16.html?language=en

Hope you got to the council on time

Yes I got to the council on time. But I was horrified to find out that although they do not count my Fostering Allowance as part of my income, they also do not accept her viability in the assessment of number of rooms. So fo example if DS moves out I will not get the full housing benefit for this house, only enough for a 1 bedroomed flat.! So If he does leave home, My fosteringallowance will have to go towards the rent! So I will be worse off all over again.! Its a scarey thought. I was under the impression that as long as DGD was living with me, I would be safe here. (until I could be rehoused. So how will it work if we get a 3 bedroomed house, then DS will leave home, in a few years time? We go back to a 1 bedroomed?).
But I must try not to worry about it, until it happens, but remember to factor ths into my costings for the guardianship claims.

Errata

It may be that the Council for purposes of HB see fostering as a temporary measure - week, month, year etc - and the foster carer can cease fostering at any time they wish or the foster child can be moved at any time to another placement.
I know this isn't the case for you and it may be the Council will view things differently once you become DGD's Special Guardian. HTH

Savvy_sewing

Errata wrote: »

It may be that the Council for purposes of HB see fostering as a temporary measure - week, month, year etc - and the foster carer can cease fostering at any time they wish or the foster child can be moved at any time to another placement.
I know this isn't the case for you and it may be the Council will view things differently once you become DGD's Special Guardian. HTH

I hope that your right! I will find out eventually one way or the other I suppose. The thing that I have to remember is, that what ever does happen, I will survive, as if nothing else, since I have been cataloguing my ups and downs here over the last 3 years, I am still surviving!.
(Now a few weeks ago, I would already have hit panic mode!).

Tomorrow the OT is coming to see me, or someone related to that department anyway. Around 11ish.
I shall have an early night, as for some reason, I am feeling really rough, and sore.

Savvy_sewing

Well we had a terrible night with DGD last night, she was uncharacteristically awake and playing up for over 2 hours from 2.30 this morning.
I was also having a bad night, with terrible pains, and hot sweats! So I hope I am not sickening for something. Feel terrible this morning, with everything all akilter!.
DGD is being a total and utter horrible moo, at the moment.
Her poor mum is fraught. But I have told her that she does it to me as well. Not to take it all personnally.
Testing boundaries.

DS is due to come home later today. I hope he will get his act together and knuckle under for College. But I am wary.
I think its his last chance to prove to me that he really is going to sort his life out.!

clairehi

Mooloo wrote: »

DS is due to come home later today. I hope he will get his act together and knuckle under for College. But I am wary.
I think its his last chance to prove to me that he really is going to sort his life out.!

Hi Mooloo, hope that DS has learnt some lessons from his previous experiences. Boys eh! What is he planning to study at college?

Savvy_sewing

clairehi wrote: »

Hi Mooloo, hope that DS has learnt some lessons from his previous experiences. Boys eh! What is he planning to study at college?

Elctrical engineering. Oh my visitor has arrived got to go

clairehi

Mooloo wrote: »

Elctrical engineering.

Good for him - I'm sure it will be a challenging course but engineering is always an in-demand occupation, there will be excellent career prospects for him. (Maybe checking the salary levels on a few job adverts would be a good motivator for him to stick with it.)

I hope it works out for DS to continue living with you although I realise it can't be easy living in a small space with a teenager and a toddler! It strikes me he really still needs to be under his mum's wing for now, and you need the financial security from benefits that you will get from him being at college and living at home. I hope he realises that, but I may be asking a lot of a teenage boy to see sense about these things :rotfl:
(I remember my brother announcing (age about 15) to my parents that he and 3 friends were going to rent a 1 bed flat together. (2 would sleep in the bedroom 2 in the living room). Fortunately it never came to anything!)

Savvy_sewing

clairehi wrote: »

Good for him - I'm sure it will be a challenging course but engineering is always an in-demand occupation, there will be excellent career prospects for him. (Maybe checking the salary levels on a few job adverts would be a good motivator for him to stick with it.)

I hope it works out for DS to continue living with you although I realise it can't be easy living in a small space with a teenager and a toddler! It strikes me he really still needs to be under his mum's wing for now, and you need the financial security from benefits that you will get from him being at college and living at home. I hope he realises that, but I may be asking a lot of a teenage boy to see sense about these things :rotfl:
(I remember my brother announcing (age about 15) to my parents that he and 3 friends were going to rent a 1 bed flat together. (2 would sleep in the bedroom 2 in the living room). Fortunately it never came to anything!)

DS has said that he is coming home, via pedal power.! Thats a first, his bike has been at his sisters since May or June I think!

I do hope that he starts to realise he cannot sit around doing nothing for ever!. His EMA claim forms have arrived today. We will see if he gets around to opening it, never mind flling it in!!

he talks about converting a bus, or a truck to live in when he is older, has done that in his mind for year!!
Perhaps he needs drivinglessons first!.

But I cannot afford to help him there unfortunately. Perhaps I better go in for the Lottery again!


This morning the Social Services, adult team came to assess my needs, not the OT. The usual questions on how do I cope etc, but she did talk about being able to get help in caring for DGD at bath and bed time, and possibly if I get worse, someone to come in and help in the mornings. But that will depend on funding, and on her superiours advise etc. I am to contact my Neurology department and find out when I am supposed to be reviewed, and see if a letter from him/well his department now, as he retired in February, will support a letter to the DLA. Again they think I should be re applying, which Molly has been tellingme to re apply for a little while. So I will get my act together and see about getting a new form sorted out!.

Its evening meal time again. DGD and I took her mum, twin1, back to her little house. I was pretty impressed that she had cleaned it up,and if it is the same on Friday, I would be happy to let DGD stop with her mum for an hour or so, after her stay and Play. Which is a big step forward.
I was also impressed with the fact she got on and did her washing, and drying on the line, before we went back.

I am sore today, have been since the rough night last night. I hope DGD will behave tonight and give me some peace!. I will take heatpads, hotwater bottles etc with me! Maybe even a heat spray on the worst parts.

I have sent off the forms to change the type of ESA I am on, and the application for the exemption certificate. Fingers crossed!.