A new start for Mooloo

anguk

The daft thing is if Mooloo wanted to be an emergency foster carer for other children there's a good chance she would be turned down because of her health and lack of space. Yet because she's related and the easy option Social Services just dump on her. :mad:

Jo4

Oh Mooloo how can they do this to you - expect you to look after everyone with your own health being the way it is? I don't have anything useful to say but I just wanted to send you some :grouphug:. I can not believe you are being left in this predicament.

queen_vi

sorry to hear things are so bad your in my throughts ad prayers
no one should have so much pain hope your ok xx

oystercatcher

Supportive hugs to you all.

Errata

Hello Mooloo, what a disastrous situation. I think others have posted everything I would have, and agree that you are incapable of looking after 2 toddlers and a baby. But it has to be your decision. Don't be pressurised by social services, it's not their decision to make.
I'm sure Gizmo will help as much as they are able with all the legal and procedural stuff, and Molly with emotional and some practical support. Nothing useful I can add, except as always - my best wishes to you.

crutches

Mooloo I hope you derive some comfort from knowing that many MSE members are thinking of you and your grandchildren.The drawback of online friends is that they are so far away.

ifonlyitwaseasier

mooloo all i can do is send hugs and tell you if you need a hug/ emergency tesco shop ordered etc to pm me

we all think you are a fab granny and SS shouldn't have taken the easy route (for them) and should have thought about what is best for all the children (yours included!)

Molly41

Mooloo - you are doing a wonderful job today with your three grandchildren in dire circumstances, your daughter who is not very well today and your son who is also visiting and needs you. I cannot put into words how much I admire you and i want to encourage you all I can. Words fail me that you has been put in this really difficult position and that you are having to make such difficult decisions that are clearly tearing you apart. I really hope that things are sorted asap and that you get the support you need. Im sorry I cant do much to help as Im so bl00dy wobbly but Im always here for you. Hugs my friend xxx

Savvy_sewing

Hello,
bedlam is around me, the toddlers are playing the drums at the moment. DS and Twin1 have been some help, keeping an eye out, and they took the toddlers out for a walk(when prompted my Molly), and gave me time to talk to Molly which has helped, as has reading all the support.
I cannot thank you all enough, it does give me a lift.
I have been in touch with Gizmo and have had sound advice and have tried to act on it.
I have rung the SS and told them that I do not think that I can do this, I am in too much Pain today, so by tomorrow god alone knows how I will be.
Even though I have DS here and twin1, they also need direction as to what to do.
DS is sleeping in the tent in the garden.!
The toddlers are fighting over everything so its a lot of seperating them and lifting them. etc etc.
They are apparantly doing their best to find alternative accommodation.
When I rang back this afternoon to speak to the line manager, he was a little condescending.
I asked them to confirm why there was no paperwork,? No court orders etc, and that neither mum nor I have any idea as to the reasons why they have removed the children and placed them with me, and to what the plans are.
He said that they were not accommodated and that I had agreed to havethem, as did the mother. I explained that I was under pressure to take them, (emotional blackmail) and also there was no Emergency Medical consent!. He said I had to get that from Mum myself.
I told him about my previous dealings with SS, and that as far as I can see the county is doing everything incorrectly. That they again have done things without the legal points sorted. I also said that as they had taken the children from their mum and brought them to me, they are indeed placed children as I had that arguement with the previous social workers over DGD!.
So he is going to be drawing up the paperwork, for the short term, and seeing mum tomorrow.!
But do I let them take the children from me, (when I am actually asking them to take them, which is breaking my heart), if they do not have the correct paperwork. Its a tough call.
Calm now, the kids have tired themselves out a bit, and its time for me to go and get the dinner started. Easy one, sausage casserole. WIth Lloyd grossman mix! Cheat that I am.

I have to let DS and Twin1 keep an eye when kids are in bed, so I can go and put my cross in the box.! so if there is anything I need I will have to go to the late shop.

On the plus side, I have received my Kinship carers money this week, and a whole £12 Tax Credits!! well £11 something.

MrsMW

Mooloo, I am filled with admiration for you whenever I read your posts and I'm so sorry that I can't be any help to you, I wish I lived closer.
I am thinking of you and hope you find the best way to help your family. Please try and take care of yourself. Love to you all.xx