A new start for Mooloo

FROSTYFRECKLE

Another long time lurker. Mooloo pick up your phone and start calling for help, keep on calling and do not stop. You are not in a position to look after 3 wee ones (housing, financially, and health-wise). Perhaps the baby and your grandson need to be put into foster care - show Twin2 she needs to prioritise her children and not her latest boyfriend. I know the twins have learning difficulties and it's not straight forward but perhaps the short, sharp shock might have an effect. You need to go on holiday - if only to keep your sanity. I'm so sorry you've been dumped upon (again).

jackieglasgow

Just posting to give you hugs to get through the day love. I would imagine you won't have time to read or post at all today. {{{{}}}}

Jackie X

Savvy_sewing

Morning all,
just read the PM's and the above jposts. Thankyou all for the support and advice etc.
I would just like to point out that the house that Twin1 is getting is really only a one bedroomed little place that is designed for people with difficulties, with in a small circle of 6 or 7, and with carers near by during the day.

Re the calls, i will do what I can, when I get 5 mins.
Got to go now as twin1 is not well!!!!
She has been brilliant help so far, so lets hope she will feel better soon!

tired_mum

sorry Mooloo didnt realise just thought it may have been better for biggest to have house was assuming 2 bed or bigger as i know she needs another bedroom for DGD
Sorry again hope DD1 feels better anyhoo time to get on your high horse n tell SS what THEY need to be doing hope you have a productive day

SingleSue

Oh Mooloo, what a thing to happen and just when it appeared some aspects were being sorted out.

I have no advice but be sure I am thinking of you.

artybear

Hi Mooloo

I've been lurking for along time and my heart goes out to you at the moment. The SS obviously see you as an easy solution to problems that would take them a long time to deal with.

Not that I know much about this process but I think it is worth deciding NOW what you want to do. Do you want to have all three children on a semi-permanent basis or not?

If yes you need to start ringing asking for more money, home help, etc...asap

If no (which I think is the case with you) I think you need to start SHOUTING now. Ring all numbers you have been given, the GP and social workers involved in the case and anyone else you think of and make it clear that you CAN NOT and WIll NOT do this for the rest of your life.

I just feel if you start sorting practical solutions for these problems and go down the route of finding more money etc..when you say to SS that you cant cope they will be reluctant to help you as you will look like you are managing.

Sorry to but in just really want you to have your lovely life and to have a nice holiday with Bf.:D

xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

p.s I think it is essential you get legal representation too as SS seem to be doing their own thing at the moment

~Chameleon~

I second whoever it was who said let the boys go into temporary emergency foster care, for two reasons:

a) there is no way you can cope with all three children on your own Mooloo. How are you going to take them shopping or even out of the house anywhere on your own? Depsite the fact you don't have enough car seats, clothes etc... what on earth were SS thinking!!!

b) if, and I say if, Twin2 has manipulated this situation knowing full well you would take on the boys... after all you took on DGD for Twin1 in her eyes... so she can have a little freedom back, then she needs to see quite clearly that this isn't going to happen. Her actions have consequences and that includes losing her children, unfortunately.

I so wish I lived closer to you Mooloo as I'd offer to come & help you. Goodness knows how on earth you are expected to manage, my heart goes out to you :A

Shame we can't name & shame these bloody social workers

anguk

Mooloo this just seems so unfair on you.

I know this is easy for me to say but I think it has now got to the stage where you must put your foot down and say NO! You shouldn't be looking after one grandchild let alone three, your health is going to suffer not to mention your finances and sanity.

I think the problem is that both social services and the twins know you are there and can be relied upon to step in and until you refuse I think things are going to continue as they are. I think the twins will continue to think it's alright because Mum will take care of the twins and Social services seem to be thinking the same thing.

Ideally all three grandchildren should go into foster care and the twins should get appropriate support so they can, at some point, get their children back. I don't know if getting a big house for all of you would be the answer, I fear you would still end up looking after the grandchildren and have problems with the twins added on, I remember the difficulties you had last time you all lived together. My biggest fear for you is that I can see the situation being exactly the same in 5-10 years time unless you can say no now.

As I said it's easy for me to say this because I'm not emotionally involved and obviously you love your grandchildren dearly but this cannot be good for you or them. Even if they find foster care while you are on holiday what is going to happen when you get back? Probably all the children would be returned to you and you're back in the same situation. The relevant authorities have let you all down very badly.

Best of luck Mooloo, I hope you manage to get some answers today.

bertiebots

Mooloo I have just read whats happened and my heart goes out to you.
I dont know what ss are thinking! I cannot understand how they think you can cope with no money ,no support ,no room ,no baby/dgs's clothes ,no milk ,no nappys, no means of safely getting out to get any of the things you need with no car seats...not to mention your health:mad:.
You poor, poor thing , stuck between a rock and a hard place. Please shout as loud as you can today to anyone who is supposed to listen and make it clear this is not acceptable in any way shape or form! And please speak to your gp as you are going to end up very ill if you dont get some help soon.

I wish I was closer so I could help you out in some way ,but can only offer you a virtual HUG :grouphug: and please look after yourself as well as those poor little kiddys x

taka

Oh Mooloo my heart goes out to you. ((((hugs)))) I have no idea what to say other than shout and call everyone you can, NOW. Kick up as much fuss as possible to as many people as possible - preferably the highest bosses. Possibly your local paper too... (I would say your MP too but who knows who that'll be after today! )

Realistically (despite you wanting to be there for the twins/ Grandkids) you cannot look after 3 young children... FULL STOP. You do not have the strength, fitness, health, support or space to do it. SS need to stop taking the easiest route of Mooloo will step into the breach, and dumping everything on you. You need to put your health (both mental and physical at this point - you are under enormous stress) as a priority number one as without it you won't be any help to ANYONE. You certainly cannot do this alone and quite possibly not at all...

Take care hun... I wish I could do something to properly help...