A new start for Mooloo

daska

SS could, if they wanted, find a foster family within hours. They have to for emergency cases, it's just that they already know where you live.

Do you have a care manager for your needs from Adult Services, most likely the disabilities team? Even if you haven't, ring the duty desk and go into panic mode - apparently doing it this way will make it more visible than contacting the day teams.

Find the contact details for the parliamentary and council candidates - they've probably shoved these through your door in the last week on flyers and write to all of them telling them what's going on and asking for urgent assistance in accessing the support and help you need. You could contact your Councillor as well, cover all bases!

At very minimum SS could fund an agency help to come in and do the hard work of cooking, lifting, cleaning. They do for me and I only have one 2 yr old - ok he is now officially 'in need' himself due to developmental issues but I'm currently getting a budget from Adult services that, used judiciously, provides me with 46 hours help a week.

jackieglasgow

Good advice Daska, that's exactly what I was thinking. Some sort of domestic support. The thing is that they DO have emergency fosterers, and could have found something for the children if you had refused point blank to take them, so they WILL be able to find care for the children next week. It's a hard one. On one hand, as a mother myself, I would want to keep them and look after them, but if you are not physically able to, then you are not able to. And if you were no longer living they would have to sort things out for the girls and their babies ASAP. Do not take no for an answer, Mooloo. I wish you all the love in the world tonight. X

gizmo111

On what legal basis or agreement have they removed these children from twin2? What consents/paperwork have they left you? They'll get a foster carer asap - on what basis? Ask in the morning, make it a priority and I have PM'd you so you can get me through the day.

Skint_Lynne

Oh Mooloo,

I don't know what to say, just sending you lots of hugs and luck. I will keep reading to see how you get on, but remember and be on that plane next week come hell or high water. xx You are an :A in disguise methinks. x

jackieglasgow

Great Gizmo, I was away looking to see if you are online to help.

daska

Absolutely, they had all the paperwork sorted out and my DSD settled with a foster family within 4 hours of her mum failing to collect her from school - it can be done if they can be bothered!

Molly41

Im so sorry that this has happened. I will come over to see you this morning and try and help you as much as i can. Have PM you - do you want me to go and collect baby stuff from Twin 2 on way over? Hugs xx

peppa-pig

{{{{hugs}}}} mooloo. I am a long time lurker on your thread and I am nearly in tears here on your behalf - sommething that won't help anyone at all.

I am so sorry that everything is so difficult. I am gobsmcked at SS and how they have done this to you.

I really have nothing useful to say to you except I hope you can get this sorted as soon as possible..........AND ENJOY YOUR HOLIDAY NEXT WEEK!!

floss2

Mooloo, I think you need to call your GP and ask for help from them - they will have the social services on-call number, then call Social Services and tell them that your GP supports the fact that you cannot cope with three children under 3. That would stretch the resources of any fit healthy younger parent with financial physical & emotional resources - of which you have very few.

And practically, how do they think you can manage to get to a shop to buy baby milk from your village without clothes, car seats, coats etc, and without any money to buy what you need?!!

TBH, if i were you I would ring the numbers you have given as early as you can get an answer, and tell them you cannot manage and you need their help. Then ring them again. Then ring them again. And carry on through the day. Also, if you get a chance with the children there, call the Head of Childrens Services and ask them how you are supposed to cope in your current position, with no foster allowance yet being paid for DGD and now 2 more children thrust upon you?

I wish I could come round and help you, but I am about 140 miles away. Hopefully SS will get their act together and arrange alternative care for the boys.

Big hugs Mooloo - you are an absolute star, and those children will be for ever grateful that their Granny loves them :A

tired_mum

Morning Mooloo
As the mum of 3 who when they were little i had 3 under 3:eek: one who has ADHD i am with you 100% that it is a nigh on imposible task to cope and i was younger and fitter you must ask for help and if needs be the 2 boys placed in emergancy foster care Is there any chance biggest can get the next couple of days off as emergancy leave just to support you?
why is Twin 1 getting a house surely you should have the house or biggest if she is still having DGD and she should be in a flat or maisonette untill she can cope with running a home and has her DD back with her surely the carer of the child is the more important one for housing This is not about the money though that helps this is about your sanity you cannot take on what is in effect 3 babies and 2 teens you must nt allow yourself to be railroaded into all living together again it doesnt work
I know Molly is coming over later and she will be a support for you have you tried parent line at all for some help?
anyhoo i digress you must be on that plane you need a break and social services will have to find alternative accommadation for the children