A new start for Mooloo

candygirl

Good luck today Mooloo, and glad to see you're helping her Gizmo:D:D

Jo4

I hope your meeting went well!

Js_Other_Half

gizmo111 wrote: »

Can't really help too much with twins as housing is not my area of great expertise, have they been formally diagnosed with LD and if so do they get DLA?

Quote from last month from mooloo:


Problem is they may be Adults by Chronilogical dates. However due to learning difficulties, they are mere teenagers. That is the problem. Last assessment was around the age of 13! About 18 months ago!. so they have a long way to go before they are adults, if they can continue to improve.

Savvy_sewing

Hello, well we are back.
The meeting was a core meeting, which will report further to line managers etc. I am afraid that parts went well, but other parts did not. My temper being the last to go. Just as we were finishing off really. Twin2 told the meeting she was planning on going on two weeks holiday with the new BF (Met only on the internet, since a holiday meeting 5 years ago), and planning to take the children. I said I didnt think it appropriate, the duty social worker that was chairing the meeting also thought it so. so did the health visitor. Twin 2 banged the table and through a hissy fit, so I said similar. (We were an hour and a half plus into the meeting and I had said things both for and against her/etc as appropriate), I said something along the line of "well I tell you what, you can throw a 2 years old temper tantrum, and i am going to have one of my own. I have had enough, and I am out of here, and getting a piece of my life back!" and promptly appologiesed to the room and walked out.
Not good. But I am fed up of it all.
I have seen her since, this afternoon, when I went around with Biggest of |Mooloo with some clothes i had for her, and she hardly really spoke to me, but thats fine. I really only wanted to give her the things I had, check that the furniture I had arranged for had arrived. I got to see the kids for half an hour, while Biggest of Mooloo sorted out some furniture, and other things. I kept my eye on the children. But left as soon as I felt appropriate effort had been given. However I really think that she is in for a shock, as if I was the Social Workers I would I am afraid be looking for a court order or what ever it is to stop her taking the children all the way to wales to stay with a family we do not know.

With reference to my other situations. Obviously Gizmo has highlighted that things have not been done correctly. We do not have, and did not have the right legal representations and we do not have any copies of any paperwork except the original Family Safety Agreement, (Drawn up after DGD was removed from her Mum).
We do have a copy of the Assessment, (Well I have it somewhere, But I need to dig it out, with all the toing and froing from the house stuff is filed somewhat haphazardly! oops). the one done in February.
I shall be sorting out what I do have, and I think that perhaps if I can ever find the energy, go back over the last two threads and make a note of the days etc that we said/did things and see if I can tie it all together for any case we may get. (K know I said I would do that a few months ago, but I really havent had the time/or energy to do it. and I was not sure that DD, was wanting to have her child back, but since lots of discussions, etc and seeing them still together, it is obvious that there is still a Mother/child bond, and that DGD loves her mum too. But to be honest I have been torn between the twins and the situations and "fire fighting" for the last 3 years and I am exhausted.
Perhaps we will start properly after my brief weekend away next month.
Twin1 chatted with Biggest of Mooloo today, and is begining to see things more clearly.
Lets hope that we get the housing sorted out, that Twin2 sorts her self out, and that I get Peace. (well you know what I mean).

Savvy_sewing

I have just been on to the other thread I had asked questions on Kinship, where Gizmo came across from. But I feel that it is no longer relevant and I prefer to do my things here. So I have posted that I will not be posting on there anymore.
I did feel one poster was very judgemental. I was warned that posting on Benefits boards were not so friendly as on others. Ah well, I cannot expect everyone to see things the way that I do. We are all different.

I appreciate the questions that Gizmo is asking me, and i really do need to go back and get the correct information sorted out.

As a family we would like DGD to be able to go back to living with Mummy as soon as she is able/and Mummy is able to look after her. If eventually it is deemed that no, Mum still cannot do it, then so be it. But there are a lot of other parents out there with worse situations and they still have the children.
I still believe it is finding the correct support for each individual family.

Right dinner time.

Molly41

As pastor Phil would say...Shalom. It sounds like you have a tough day emotionally and physically. Rest up this evening and conserve your strength. It sounds like you have battles to fight and have a good chance of winning them. Hopefully there are posters around who can help and advise you. Sending you hugs for you and yours xxx

Errata

I said something along the line of "well I tell you what, you can throw a 2 years old temper tantrum, and i am going to have one of my own. I have had enough, and I am out of here, and getting a piece of my life back!" and promptly appologiesed to the room and walked out.
Not good. But I am fed up of it all.

Don't stress over it. It may well be that what you did gave a wake up call to everyone at the meeting and will shake things up. The well being and safety of the children has to be paramount.
Best wishes, as always

bertiebots

Did the ss contact you after the meeting ? Surely they need to know if your support is still there! I would have thaught they would need to know that you are ok. I am sure you aren't the first person to loose your temper in a meeting. Its totally understandable given what you have to put up with. I am afraid I would have had a tantrum long ago !
Do these people even recognise that your daughters have learning difficulties or are they just trying to pretend that they are having these problems on purpose...makes me so cross!
Hugs mooloo and dont be hard on yourself...your family deserves so much better than this.

tired_mum

Mooloo what can i say after all your hard work for twin 2 she is putting herself in a position that you wont be able to help her self with and throwing a hissy will not put her in a good light hopefully she will reconsider her position with this internet friend
Take care

minimoneysaver

Hi Mooloo, Sorry to hear that you got upset in the meeting today. It must be so frustrating for you. I can't imagine how awful it must be. I know what you mean about some of the other boards. I posted on the Child Support board and got nothing but abuse. It's really put me off. I can't believe how mean some people can be. I appreciate that sometimes they are putting another aspect on a situation, but when they won't listen and are being darn right disrepectful, it is a disgrace. Keep your chin up Mooloo! We're here for you. x