A new start for Mooloo

Savvy_sewing

Spoke to my BF on the phone last night. He said to question the Healthvisitor as well. But to put it in writing, what I deem the agreement is etc.
As far as I am aware the only stipulation is that Twin1 is not allowed to care for DGD all night on her own. That she can go out with her, shopping, etc etc. The social worker I spoke to seems very amenable, and she is going to write to the Healthvisitor too, and write up a new family agreement, stating things a bit more clearly. So perhaps I will get a new copy of that in due course too.

Still no sign of the funding.
Still no visit from the Kinship team.

DGD has her Mum here for the next few days, we havent had a move in date for the other place yet, so I plan to make the best of it. Try and get to see/advise Twin1 on her actions, interactions with her daughter. Get her outside with DGD into the top garden (belongs to the lady next door, but she is fine with DGD so will be ok. Its a bit of an old Orchard, but its flat, and well away from the road.).

When we went to put the rubbish out this morning, DGD threw her ball, and of course it ran all the way into the road in seconds. I tried to "run" after it, but I couldnt run, too sore, so had to follow it down the street until it bumped into the tyre of a parked car.! Did feel stupid outside in my dressingown at 7am!.
Struck fear in me, as if DGD had followd it into the road what consequences it could have been. So will definitely have to have eyes in the back of my head when the door is open!.

We are staying in the village today. Aim to go to the coffee stop, but Molly41 wont be able to join us today. Hope to see her later in the week instead.

Will have to sort things out for Thursday as Twin2 does have a hospital appointment in Oxford, so some where along the line I will need to take her, and that means that Twin1 and DGD will need to be left either here at the cottage, or drop them at my parents. Oh will have to rethink that, as Twin1 has to go to Northampton to sign on. She will need to go by Bus, unless I can get my Dad to drop her. Mmmm some logistic planning needed.!!

I am still struggling with my achey body today. had a rough night with joints. So hoping my morning Medication kicks in soon.
Have lots of washing to do, mine and Twin1's. didnt bring twin2's washing back in the end.

At least I have twin1 here, so she can help with it.

grandma247

Mooloo is it possible to fit a child safety gate (that opens) on the outside frame of the door? I had to do this on our back door.

Savvy_sewing

grandma247 wrote: »

Mooloo is it possible to fit a child safety gate (that opens) on the outside frame of the door? I had to do this on our back door.

Not sure the landlord would let me do that?
Have started to lock the door now.! But I will have to ask the landlord I suppose.

My BF has made arrangements for a longweekend away, But I dont know where we are going. except Abroad!! (Volcano allowing). in May.
So have emailed and confirmed with Biggest that she can take DGD for me. (Phew she can).

So am just going to ring the SW now and tell her. To be on the safe side.:A

Errata

A standard safety gate, that fits into the door frame by adjusting the 'wind out thingies' which hold it in place by tensions would not require any fixing or damage the fabric of the door or door frame. You wouldn't need LL's permission for that.

Molly41

How exciting and something to look forward to xx

Savvy_sewing

Molly41 wrote: »

How exciting and something to look forward to xx

so far all he has said is he has booked some flights, for £20!! and I should be ok as long as the m.a.f.i.a. aren't after me. so Italy possibly.

Didnt get hold of the SW. Will ring her Thursday.
Went to get some of Twin1's things from twin2's place. While I was there two social workers turned up. Were there for ages. Apparantly duty workers, not her new one. (Still do not know who that is. ) So we ended up going over the whole situation again, and one of them was asking our names, and my address etc etc and even my mobile. I did give it to him, but I did say, its all on record you know.
They say that there is funding available to help get DGS etc into Nursery, so lets hope someone agrees it.

We are back, DGD had her tea with her cousin. (we were there that long). Her mum is bathing her at the moment. Giving me a break.

But I will need to get myself some dinner, as I only had a few ryvita and a hand full of grapes for my lunch.

Savvy_sewing

Morning. Well the sun is out, but its still very cold.
Twin1 is outside and is chopping wood. She is cold and has lit the fire. I wouldnt have bothered. so I must be hardier then she is!.
DGD has just helped me water the plants in the greenhouse.
I need to see if I can borrow my dads lawnmower. or I will need a sycthe soon!.

I found out that we are going to go to Sicily for the weekend in May!!
Its only for two nights, but I am so excited already.

Still no funding from the Social Services!.

Right off now to see what I can tidy up, and see if we can shoe horn things of twin1's in a bit better!.

Savvy_sewing

@Well yesterday Dad brought over his mower, and twin1 cut the lawn for me. Tried using the strimmer on the edges but the cord kept snapping, and its finished now.
Will need a trip to the DIY shop to get some more.
It was a good day to drythe washing, so most of twin2's stuff is done. Taking it back this morning, then have to take one of her children to the hospital in Oxford for some sort of check up. (booked before all he hoo haa,).
That means my parents will have DGD, as twin1 has to go in the opposite direction to Northampton for signing on.
I cannot manage to split in two!! ha ha.

I didnt feel too well in the evening, bit of a funny tummy, went for a lie down at 7pm and I dint wake until 11pm.! Then of course I drifted in and out of sleep for the rest of the night.

Twin1's house has fallen through. Its not going to be ready for some time. So they are hoping to put her into a different one "in a few weeks, when there is another tenant moving out!."" Well I hope they dont hve a smashing party the day they leave!!. So we are crammed in here climbing over boxes etc and its not very comfortable. My little haven of a cottage is no more.
But on the plus side, twin1 is doing nearly everything for DGD, with my instruction at times. So I am getting a sort of rest. (Except the mess is stressing me out!).

Better go, its a busy morning.

PS. I spoke to someone in the Fostering Team, and they said that my mandate arrived too late for the last run, so it should be on next weeks run, I said I was expecting a cheque to start with, and she said, oh its written in big black letters at the bottom, went to investigate and said it will be with me by Monday, depending on the post. (Then I will have about another week before it clears, as its theCo-op, and they take forever. If I pay it into the Post office, it takes even longer.

Right time to go.

floss2

At least you now know that you should have some money within a week Mooloo.

minimoneysaver

Good news about the cheque! Shame about twin1's home. But like you said, at least it takes some of the pressure off you for looking after DGD and don't forget, you will still be getting the allowances for her, even while twin1 is there. x