A new start for Mooloo

Keeping_Motivated

Mooloo with the help of the funding (when it arrives) would you not consider paying for a couple of days for DGD to go into a private nursery? That would do you both so much good.

Molly41

Hi Mooloo,
I tried to PM you but your box is full. Hope you manage to grab some time for you this weekend. You are doing a brilliant job with DGD and she is a credit to you - as bright as a button. Dont underestimate what you are doing in very difficult circumstances x

Savvy_sewing

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Keeping Motivated, yes I am trying to get a nursery place but all full at the moment. Funding will indeed help to go towards this as soon as it comes in.
Meanwhile i will just have to have what respite I can get, and hope that Mum does indeed interact a bit more when she is here.

Molly have cleared some space in the PM box. But I am off now. Will have the mobile on, but got to unload the car from yesterday, load up the travel cot, and dgd and then drop her off, go on to twin1 and get what I can out before I go on to oxford.! I will only do one car load today, as I want my time with BF while DGD is with Biggest.
We will worry about howmany more car loads there are tomorrow!!

Savvy_sewing

Morning,
I am back,. 24 hours in Oxford. Certainly is a "different" world when I go to see BF
I did one car load of things,currently in my dining room, and headed off to Oxford as I had told them.
Both twins had to call me over trivial things,but at least it was only once or twice.

BF and I went out for a drive in his little kit car. Had a lovely ride out in the countryside, but a scarey moment, when the car wouldnt start, and we had to push it up an incline and try to bump start it. After a couple of times it did start thank god.
We had the evening watching TV.
Yesterday we pottered in the garden, and then went to Cowley. Had lunch out which was lovely. Then I came back to the reality of moving Twin1!.
My little car was filled to the rafters, so was my Dad's car. Love him, he came to the rescue, or I would have been there all evening too.
I was horrified that therewas still so much to do, but we just went one room at a time and finished it off.
Well I say finished it off, We have to nip back, finish off the kitchen and hand in the keys. The she is "sofa surfing" either here with me or at her twin sisters.!.

I am dropping DGD at my parents so that I can do the last trip. They are diamonds they really are.

Right DGD is "washing up" so she is wet, as is the kitchen floor worktp, etc etc so I better go and move her on to another thing.!

Savvy_sewing

That strange post seems to have disappeared/?Must have been a wrong thread afterall.

Savvy_sewing

Evening.
Am back home. Stressed out several times today.
DGD messed me about getting ready to go to Myparents, so i was flustered by the time we left. But she was as good as gold for Great Granny and grandad. Luckily.
Collected twin1 from twin2's. Commented on the mess etc, and expected things to have improved on my return.
Twin1 and I went back to the flat, finished it in about30 mins. Had to wait for my ex husband to come and collect the matteress. (She gave away the single bed to a girl in one of the lower flats). We then handed in the keys etc so twin 1 now is living with me, until her new place is ready. Then we had to go to the jobcentre to see why her benefit wasnt sorted. Back to my parents to collect DGD and had a bite to eat and a call from the SW. Asking if I had my funds yet. Nope.
But she said that the Health visitor had complained that last wednesday I had left DGD and her Mum at her sisters when they had called. As there were a couple of friends in, they have decided that it was "Inapropriate for her to be there!!!!). Now that is rediculous. Made me so angry. Young people are still allowed to have friends!! Its normal.
Anyway, then we went around to twin2. She wanted me to go around, but when i took her to task for the jobs not being done, she went off into her "planet zog" and totally blanked me. As I am in so much pain, and I really have worked my socks off for so long. I am afraid I actually grabbed my keys and walked out. I went around the corner, telephoned twin1 and said I was so fed up, etc, but that I would be back for her in an hour.!
Duelly went back and did so. But I still was not happy and I gave twin2 the vent of my anger.
I have threatened that if shedoesnt get her finger out she wont have to worry about the children as SS would have them!! Very un motherly/grandmotherly of me
I cannot remember the last time I was quite so angry.
I really am ready to walk away from all of this Sh*t.

Twin1 has been helping DGD find some worms etc in the garden, andDGD and I have tried to rescue my plants in the greenhouse. So we are now in the relative calm of my cottage. And I am going to try and let go of twin2 etc for the rest of the day.
I feel really bad that I lost my rag, but then I also know that I have to calm down retrench, and move on. I had good grounds to loose my temper.

But now, its chill it. Go back to the drawing board.

bertiebots

Mooloo I dont think there is anything wrong with telling twin2 ....she needs to be told if she is not acting responsibly. I do worry without the correct ss support she will loose those children, as I am positive you do too.
As her mum you have the most right to give her a earfull every now and then! Surely they can see if they are visiting her that she isnt coping very well and should be offering something in the way of support?.
Its no wonder you feel like walking away some days. You would have to be a saint not to.
Hugs and take care.

Errata

But she said that the Health visitor had complained that last wednesday I had left DGD and her Mum at her sisters when they had called. As there were a couple of friends in, they have decided that it was "Inapropriate for her to be there!!!!). Now that is rediculous. Made me so angry. Young people are still allowed to have friends!! Its normal.

As you are responsible for DGD, perhaps you need to speak to the Health Visitor and ask for a full explanation of why she felt it was inappropriate ? I agree it sounds a bit odd, but a conversation with her should clarify the situation. HTH

minimoneysaver

Are there places that you "are allowed" or "aren't allowed" to leave or take DGD to then? For example are you allowed to leave DGD with her mother for a short period of time, or not at all, or are you allowed to leave DGD with twin 2? These things all need clearing up. I know my neighbour is a foster carer and she can't leave her foster children with anyone without ss saying it is okay.

tired_mum

Definately ask for clarification on what the HV said it may be that as the twins are causing concern due to visiting planet Zog that they are not happy that the children will be safe difficult to explain but i mean being watched ,interaction safety not physical harm if you see what i mean
Hugs to you youre doing too much you need to back off for your own health especially if you want to take DGD on hols this year