A new start for Mooloo

Keeping_Motivated

Mooloo wrote: »

Well I am sorry if I am a moaning mini, I really didnt mean to be. I am just asking the family to help, to realise that I cannot take anymore. I should have just kept it all to myself.

Mooloo I think Biggest IS helping you beyond words...this is an absolutely amazing thing she is doing and I suspect she is doing it as much for her mum as she is doing it for DGD and her sister. Maybe she feels you don't realise how hard this is for her and why she snapped that you all have problems?

Savvy_sewing

Oh I realise that what she is doing is above and beyond the call of duty. I have asked her frequently if she is sure, and every time I have had back from her, and everyone else around her, that she is happy to do it.
I didnt mean to disparage her, its just that I went to her, to ask her to have DGD for a fewdays longer then normal, (with a babysitter in the background agreed), so that I could take the time away I need to recharge my batteries.
I suppose this week, I have been a wreck, and not the person that they all think I am. Which has made her be short with me.
She is a wonderful girl, I am just so emotionally wrought at the moment.
I know she is helping me. I am sorry.

Willowx

With regards to the Working Tax Credits while the general age is 25, people with children and certain disabilities qualify from the age of 16.
Looking at the wording on the HMRC website it says:

aged 16 or over and responsible for at least one child

So I would double check that if possible, as responsible to me doesn't imply actual parenthood/adoption if you see what I mean.

Link to HMRC tax credits page.

Savvy_sewing

Willowx wrote: »

With regards to the Working Tax Credits while the general age is 25, people with children and certain disabilities qualify from the age of 16.
Looking at the wording on the HMRC website it says:



So I would double check that if possible, as responsible to me doesn't imply actual parenthood/adoption if you see what I mean.

Link to HMRC tax credits page.

THANKS. have pointed it to her.

Errata

Lovely, your emotions are all over the place this week and that's both normal and natural. You're not normally a wreck, but the only one that would probably realise that you are at the moment is Biggest, and that might have shaken her. You've always been strong, made the decisions and put the kids and grandkids first, and perhaps the time has come when those who are able to put you before themselves realise that sometimes that's just what they'll have to do.
Things are still pretty chaotic and when that happens I think all of us say things in the heat of the moment that we regret afterwards. I hope you and Biggest make up before bedtime; I know she reads your posts, or used to.

Savvy_sewing

She used to post, hence the Biggest of Mooloo was her sign in name.
Ys we have just spoken on the phone as I told her about the previous link to the Government website.. She said a bit the same.
She didnt know how to handle her mum crying.

Perhaps I will have to blow the electric water heater and have yet another hotbath and try to relax tonight.! At least I dont have to worry about DGD getting up and not finding me, as Twin1 is at least here.

Molly41

Hi Mooloo,
How are you this morning?

Was biggest of Mooloo able to say whether she could have DGD for a longer period? Perhaps a week? Any further thoughts on the plans we discussed yesterday?

Hopefully you have had a little respite as Twin1 around last night. Hugsxx

Savvy_sewing

Hi Molly,
Actually she didnt commit to anything longer, but she did confirm that she will be having her for the weekends, Friday to Sunday, infuture, until this is sorted out, and that she will have her Easter from Friday to Monday.
I talked via MSN to my parents and got all of my savings transfered into my own bank account, (The old CSA money for DS), so that if I can get organised to do something I have funds in the bank while they are away.
Twin1 cooked us Pancakes for tea. (i went to bed with a bit of a rumbly tummy because thats all we had, but as she cooked it, I was not going to complain).

I never did go for the soak in the bath, instead I was on MSN "talking " with the BF/EXBF? until nearly 11pm I think!. So by the time I went to bed it was a very late midnight for me.

I do not know if we will be able to reach any agreements, but at least he actually came on to the computer and we communicated. As we were writing at the same time, and not doing it via emails, it meant that one could "talk" and the other one read, then responded, and it gave us time to "talk" without getting angry and walking out on each other. But we are still a very long way from working things out. It would be too easy to just appologies and go back to the relationship,and still have all the problems and baggage from the past.

Savvy_sewing

Right I better get of the computer and do some housework. Twin2 will be expecting me today, she Needs things done etc etc.
As I would like to also see the area that they have nominated for her house, I will gather the strength to face the day, and her kids too!. Then I think i may just go back to making my list of nice things I want to do.
Still feel emotionally drained, and if I could have just stayed up here in the bedroom for the rest of the day. (As long as I can get food and water!), I think I would have done.
I can see the sun is trying to shine, I hope it succeeds. That will help.

Actually i think the girls can wait for my attention a bit longer and I will go for that soak in the bath now! Along with some toast I am starving!
I have some magazines about that I want to read so perhaps one of them as well.
S0d it all!

Errata

actually i think the girls can wait for my attention a bit longer and i will go for that soak in the bath now! Along with some toast i am starving!
I have some magazines about that i want to read so perhaps one of them as well.
S0d it all!

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