A new start for Mooloo

candygirl

Mooloo have you tried DGD with natural yogurt to help settle her tum??It worked for my DGD last week:D

Savvy_sewing

My ideal would be:-
That the twins had been able to live in a suitable Home, that had live in attendance, where they had thier funds monitored, and thier housework helped.
So that they could be taught the appropriate things, and if they are not able to grasp it, that they can be shadowed so that nothing happens to the children.

I cannot take the clock back to when I was concerned about the possibility of children, and all three of the children are lovely and do not deserve anything but the best.

For me, I would like to be able to have a normal day, a normal week, even a normal year. Where I could concentrate on designing my bags, etc, learning how to just cope with my health problems and be able to visit my family without all of the worry that I have.
Mind you I would also like a BF who wanted to live in the same house as me, take care of me, and not back away into a corner at the first sign of me being stressed out.!!

However its not happening.
True perhaps I have given away too much of the families information. Problem with just writing as it rolls off of the fingertips and straight from the heart.

Re the possibilities of the family having to have the others go into care, etc I cannot be the one to feel guilty or blamed, and I do not see that we have to put DGD into care becuase the others may be lifted!.
Twin2 has a BF who should be supporting her, and helping her, so there is no excuse for them to not get things done. They have seen what has happened to thier sister, but they choose not to try, and blame it on SS.
I have already told them that I am not well enough to take on more. But what else can I do?
Would SS expect me to have 3 under 3 (again).?
If I was in perfect health then I would do it, But my problems may not be massive compared to some people, but to me, I am wary of them getting too big for me to cope.
The stress is making me worse. Perhaps my health would be improved if the stress was removed.

Oh I really dont know!
I am dambed if I do, and dambed if I dont!
I will just have to worry about them, if it happens. While it has not yet happened, and all the warnings have been given, then my priority is to care for the one I am already caring for, give advise to the others, and deal with the fall out, when I have to.
I know its a mess. Its not my choosing. I think this would have happened if I had stayed living under the same roof as them, and the fighting between the twins would have been totally intolerable to me and everyone else.
My BF would have definitely been long gone, not just wondering about a 6 month review!

For now, I battle on! Tired, sore and battle scarred!

Savvy_sewing

candygirl wrote: »

Mooloo have you tried DGD with natural yogurt to help settle her tum??It worked for my DGD last week:D

I will buy some tomorrow, only got flavoured at the moment. She had one of them for lunch. along with a banana, and fruit bun!
She had an orange this afternoon, and pasta and chicken with peas and sweetcorn for her tea. So there is no problem with her appetite;)

Errata

Littlies with the trots need lots of liquids to prevent them becoming dehydrated. This is not medical advice to anyone about anything !

tired_mum

Oh Mooloo i wasnt having a go as what i said was because its something very close to my heart reading back through i was trying to say that if ss are that worried and ask mooloo to check they are clearly passing the buck they are either bothered or they arent
You shouldnt be expected to carry the burden of all this we are all behind you but it is blatently obvious that both these girls would be better in a halfway house with supervision deffinatly get on to the MP he should have replied to you by now
Sorry if i upset you

Savvy_sewing

Yes I know. Having had 4 of my own! Lots of little trots over the years!;):D:(

Savvy_sewing

tired_mum wrote: »

Oh Mooloo i wasnt having a go as what i said was because its something very close to my heart reading back through i was trying to say that if ss are that worried and ask mooloo to check they are clearly passing the buck they are either bothered or they arent
You shouldnt be expected to carry the burden of all this we are all behind you but it is blatently obvious that both these girls would be better in a halfway house with supervision deffinatly get on to the MP he should have replied to you by now
Sorry if i upset you

Its not you that upsets me, its the frustration that everyone in the world can see whats needed, but the system doesnt have the means to do it!.
Please do not worry about me.
I didnt take it as you having a go. Honestly. I just am so very frustrated with the local authorities. Both of them!!
I did write back to the MP today.
I also wrote another letter to the Head of Childrens services.
I also contacted both lots of Social service departments.

But I sit and wait.!

Savvy_sewing

Just to round up my day, the fire has died yet again, and I have run out of matches! EEk.
Hot water bottle, heat pads and a cover then! Think I will watch secret Millionaire instead of the programme on the BBC. (sure it will be on iplayer). That way I get to see people in need getting some help, and it restores my faith in human kindness too!
Mind you I get a lot of faith in Human kindness here on this site!
Maybe thats why I have my thread on here!!!
I also get lots of money saving tips while I surf the forums.
I would not have such a good life if I hadnt turned to MSE several years ago!. And believe it or not there are still places where I am sure I could save if I really tried!

Savvy_Sue

Mooloo wrote: »

Think I will watch secret Millionaire instead of the programme on the BBC. (sure it will be on iplayer). That way I get to see people in need getting some help, and it restores my faith in human kindness too!

Off topic, but do let us know what you thought! I'm recording it to watch with DH, not the sort of thing we usually watch, but we know the projects she's helping quite well!

Savvy_sewing

Sue, it was ok, bit predictable, an eye opener for her, but too much Feng shui for my like! She gave out £250,000 though!