A new start for Mooloo

jackieglasgow

Fingers crossed for a positive outcome today Mooloo. X

Jo4

I've just caught up with your thread as I haven't been online for a few days as my Dad took a heart attack on Monday morning and is now in hospital. I really hope you get the best possible outcome today for all concerned.

taka

I hope the meeting went as well as it could Mooloo. ((((hugs)))) xx

Savvy_sewing

Jo4 wrote: »

I've just caught up with your thread as I haven't been online for a few days as my Dad took a heart attack on Monday morning and is now in hospital. I really hope you get the best possible outcome today for all concerned.

Jo4, I hope that your Dad is recovering well, and is in good hands. Will pray for him. x

Savvy_sewing

Well what an emotional day.
Unfortunately it was not the outcome that Twin1 wanted or expected.
Even though we had discussed it last night, it was still upsetting that the report is unfavourable.

At the meeting we were only given the summary of the assessment. Then we were given the report to take home. Well actually I was not given the report but Twin1 was. However she has given it to me to read, saying that she will read it later.
We both cried, held hands. She was taken into the room first, and then they called me in, I presume after they had asked her permission to share things with me.

Her face told me it was bad news. They have decided that DGD would not be able to be returned to her mother, as Mother doesnt understand the complexities of parenting, and was still childlike in her own way. That she was unable to concentrate on her childs needs, but was preoccupied with her own needs etc.

I have just waded through the 37 pages since arriving home.

So now we have to converse as a family and make the decission as to the next steps forward.

It has been established, that we will put Biggest of mooloo forward to be the main carer as I am not really well enough to do this longterm. Which is paining me, but obvious I cannot do it.

We did talk about Twin1 being able to come to live with me, but then DGD would grow up with her Mum as more as a sister. Also we do not think that Twin1 will abide by the house rulesj etc, and that there would be much friction over the usual teenage things as before, and also over the care of DGD. It would also still mean all the responsibilities of both would infact be on me, which may be worse.

Twin1 would not come back here with me, she wanted to go back to her flat. I am praying that she understands, but I am not sure that she does.

Now we have to deal with her loosing her flat by the 4th April.

Then we will also have the issue of my not being able to stay here in the cottage, as Housing Benefit will not pay for a two bedroomed cottage for me, if I do not have any of my family living with me anymore.

I do not know how long this next stage will be.
I think that the Social will be pushing it through the system as fast as they can.
We will know more on Monday when our Social Worker is back off of her holiday, and put up to speed with the situation.

I am emotionally a bit of a wreck, but had to hold it together for Twin1, and now I am trying to hold it together for DGD, but she is playing quietly with her colours and with some TV. I think she is aware though of something going on. She was disturbed at her Mum going into the room, but settled reasonably well. Apparantly she did throw a stomping tantrum in the office while they looked after her, but as she was with complete strangers I am not surprised.

I have spoken briefly on the phone to Biggest of Mooloo, and she has already spoken to her BF about the next stage. They are happy to go ahead with the assessments, to take on DGD.

DS rang to check up, then asked if I can take his stereo to Oxford when I go over tomorrow! Typical boy.

It is snowing very heavily here, and I am glad that we are safely back indoors. But I feel very emotional and drained. (And cold, the fan heater is going to have to go on, as the new wood is just not burning verywell at all!)

floss2

Oh Mooloo....I know that is not what you wanted to hear. :grouphug:

Please think hard before going out in the car to take DS his stereo, espcially if it is snowing. You could really do with staying snug with DTwin & DGD, rather than risking getting chilled outside.

BTW, do you have anywhere to keep a few bits of wood in the house, to dry out a bit before putting them on the fire?

Errata

Mooloo - the important thing is that DGD has the best upbringing possible in an environment which will meet her needs and wants. She deserves no less.
Reading your posts over the past few weeks, it's been fairly clear that you had accepted you couldn't bring up a toddler with your current health problems, but what you can be now is a very doting granny.
Best wishes, as always.

taka

Oh Mooloo... I have no idea what to say... just that I am thinking of you and yours. :grouphug: Take care xx

Molly41

Mooloo - sending you hugs and just to say that I think you are a fabulous mum and granny x

Mrs_Weasley

Mooloo....i don't know what to say ((((hugs)))) coming your way x