A new start for Mooloo

Savvy_Sue

Mooloo wrote: »

Cups of tea keeping me going, in more ways then one.!! Is tea a dieretic?

:rotfl: Yes!

Little_Miss_Winner wrote: »

With regards to nursery place for your little one, I know you say she is 2, but when is she 3?? The government offer 12.5 hours of FREE playgroup places from the tern after their 3rd birthday. It usually equates to 2.5hrs a day over the 5 days.

Sadly I fear little one is only just 2, and I don't see how Mooloo can keep going until she is 3 WITHOUT ANY SUPPORT AT ALL from SS.

Frankly, it's little short of a miracle that she's kept going this long!

Talking of miracles, Mooloo, d'you remember chatting to the vicar a while back? Do you ever see him? While you wait for the counsellor and the physio and everyone else to offer appointments, why not give him a call and ask him to pray for you all? You may not believe, but he does (at least I hope he does!), and you really can't have too many people sending warm and loving thoughts in your general direction.

Elspeth

Mooloo - another big sigh, massive sympathy and hopes for news soon heading your way.

As others have said, SS know that you will survive (putting your child and grandchild first) and as long as think that's true that's all they care about. But surviving is not living.

With best thoughts.

Elspeth

Savvy_sewing

holliegarson wrote: »

Mooloo

I'm sorry if I overstepped the mark with mentioning 'going public' - having had time to think on it I think you/other posters are right - it wouldn't be fair on the children and that level of interest would undoubtably be very intrusive.

I am so furious on your behalf I just wrote down without thinking - apologioes again for perhaps not being as tactful as I should have been.. I hope one day that SS are brought to task for what they have put you through.

I x

Hi Holligarson, that was not a problem. I have thought about it all, and would go public if it was just me. But the children and their parents are my worry.
Twin1 has said that suddenly the father of DGD has appeared on Facebook, wanting to meet her! That is a big worry now, as the last thing we would need is to have her father suddenly appear on the scene and start proceedings to take her away, he lives up in Derbyshire, and didnt want to know her before, and is thankfully not on the birth cirtificate. He was not a nice person and tried to strangle Twin1 when they briefly went out with each other.


Its snowing here. Brr, no wonder I was feeling cold.

Molly41, I hope that your feeling better soon. I shall miss our meet, but as Twin1 is here, I at least have some help with DGD today.

I am about to go and get ready and go and see my Mum, give her her birthday card that I sat sewing last night. Took me 3 hours. Twin1 kept saying I should go to bed, but I had to finish it. needed to glue a back over it, so that I can hide the stitches and nots!. It was nearly 11pm before I finally went to bed! I was exhausted.
I woke at 5.45am!!!! Tried to go back to sleep, but my brain was too busy thinking of all the ifs and buts about things.

Thanks to everyone for all the advice.

Sue is right, DGD isnt 3 until October. Heaven forbid I am still in this position until then. Much as I love her, I need some time out sooner then that.

My mum slipped me £20 yesterday. In that I am lucky. I have put it away to go towards the huge electric bill that I am expecting every day.!

Still nothing back from the MP, the Social Services or This Morning.
Maybe tomorrow?

For now, I am going to try and be strong, and take it day by day. Its all that I can do really.

Maybe put some money on the lottery? Who knows when my luck will change!! but its got to hasnt it.

Molly41

Hi Mooloo,
So Sorry that Im not able to get out today. Hopefully feel better soon. I was really looking forward to a cuppa and natter x

Savvy_sewing

Update.
Well I waited until after lunch, and no return call, so I rang the Social Services yet again. Practically got them on speed dial now!.

The man from yesterday was of course not in today.
I said I would speak to Mr J.K. who i know was the section manager, as he spoke to me when I complained before. The reply was that they didnt know if he was in, and then it was who was I, and no he is not.
So I said that I am expecting a telephone call today from him or their will be trouble.
Half an hour later he called back.
Twin1 and I are to have a meeting with him over in their offices in Thorplands tomorrow morning at 10.30 to go over the report that they have received today. He said that it would take a Good hour to go through it with me and Twin1. I told him I would have to bring DGD with me as I dont have anyone I can leave her with.

So perhaps tomorrow we will get some answers. Whether they will be answers that we want to hear or not will be another matter. But perhaps my shouting is about to be heard somewhere afterall??

Molly41, if your unwell then its not a problem. It was so cold out there today, that you would not have liked it.
I am afraid I succommed to going around the charity shops and bought a few bits and pieces for the grandchildren. Then went to see Twin2, with twin1 and DGD.
Twin2 was just coming back from a Rhyming Time, at the library/sure start!!!

Success she actually went outside with her baby! I was even impressed that she looked well dressed and well kempt for a change too. she said that the baby slept throught the whole thing. But encouragingly she said that there was something else going on tomorrow and she would be going to that too.
I told her that if I still have DGD I will go with her to one or two of the sessions with DGD next week.

We are struggling to get the fire to burn today. The new wood is greener then the last and not so easy to catch. Which is a bit of a bother, and I am going through far too many firelighters! But that is the least of my worries.

Still having problems with N.Pwer billing systems. And they were demanding over £700 immediately as I hadnt paid. Even though I have a standing order made out to them and it went out. They received it on the Monday. (It left my account on the Thursday?). Anyway they now say I have defaulted 4 times on my account so unless I pay them an immediate payment of £60 they will not put me back on the payment plan. So court action would be next. I said that if they took me to court they would look a fool, as I am paying them regularly, its just not arriving on the exact date they want it on.! I also pointed out that on my limited income, they would probably be told by the court to lower the payments to about £5 a month. So they better put that in thier pipe and smoke it!. But I suppose If I can get some things on Ebay this week I might have a chance of getting a bit of income so that I can get thier darn bill out of the way!. the sooner I can make inroads into them the better.
I also recieved the new bill, since they changed the meter, they have put my monthly direct debit for that up to £66 a month. So at least I am not expected to clear the whole bill at once. However I fear that the reading they say was read on the 29th looks nothing like the reading on the label the man left on the new meter. But as its a lot less then I was expecting I am not going to argue!

So I have yet again to look at the budget and see where I can find the extra £16 a month from out of my money. I can juggle it while I have the money coming in from Twin1, (just about), but after she goes back home (here is hoping) then I will not be able to afford such an amount without divine intervention.

I really need to get my head around this night storage heating, and get some more energy saving lights for the wall lights, even if it means I cant use the dimmer switch anymore.

On the health side, I am feeling a little better, thank goodness. But the neck is not so brilliant. But the sciatica is simmering a bit now. Which is a blessing. That is the sharpest of the pains, and the one that really stops me in my tracks.

Biggest of Mooloo is coming to tea. So I will have to think about peeling the potatoes soon. Twin1 is helping DGD with her dinner. She is over tired not having had her sleep this afternoon. I shall have to work things around her a bit better next week. (If I still have her.)

bertiebots

Good luck with the meeting tomorrow!.

Do you have a halogen heater btw ..they are really cheap to buy, (I know nothings cheap when your skint) and very cheap to run compared to a fan heater. Might help when your waiting for the fire to get going. Being cold all the time is not going to help your health x. I got a small one for £6.99 when our boiler broke down during all the snow -from poundstretchers. We also got the bigger one at £11.99 and I use it to save having the heating on when everyone else is at work school.

Molly41

Hi,
really good luck tomorrow - will be thinking of you all xx

ifonlyitwaseasier

good luck tomorrow mooloo x

Savvy_sewing

Morning, we are just about to go to our meeting with the social services. Twin1 is just getting DGD dressed. She keeps saying she is going to school bless her! She has to go till september before thats possible. Unless Social services find her a funded place. but we know that that is not actually going to happen is it.
We had a deep talk last night, with Twin1 and Biggest of Mooloo, about the future, and if the things dont go the way she wants it, what the options will be. It was quite a deep and hard conversation at the time. Twin1 is saying that she had nightmares last night, and has finally admitted that she has a lot to think about. Why she has been in denial the last 12 weeks is beyond me.
Anyway I better get going. I have been up since just before 7, so that my tablets would take effect. I was in bed last night by 8.30 after our conversation I was exhausted. It was hard work. But it had to be said.

I shall gather all the good lucks, and put them in my heart. So that they will be carried with me. Thanks guys.
Mooloo

Mrs_Weasley

Good Luck Mooloo x

Hop evrything goes well x fingers crossed for you x