A new start for Mooloo

Errata

Mooloo - you're in my thoughts.

Savvy_sewing

I have to say that I am exhausted. When I was talking to the man on the phone this afternoon, he said he could hear it in my voice. Great. I said I am at my whits end. I even told our social worker last week, that I was struggling to even get myself and my granddaughter dressed that day, and she said, ah, well it wont matter for once.!
Great. I did get us dressed eventually, after two courses of my tablets had taken effect. But that is not the point really is it.?
I wonder if they live in a real world at all? I told the man today, that I cannot go on much longer. That my eldest Daughter may have to take over if this goes on any longer. But then that is their lives disrupted, she works full time for a start.
If they had helped and put DGD into Nursery 12 weeks ago, at least for part of a few days it would have helped. and of course funded it. If they had funded her stay here, I would have been able to take her to a childminder if nursery was not available. It is dragging on far too long. Tomorrow we are into the 12th week.
It is just not good enough. I am fed up of them saying there are no funds, there are no entitlements. The system is just a complete sham!

With reference to the News papers, I really didnt want to go public, as dispite my pouring my heart out on here, I dont want the children or the grandchildren to be in the lime light, when they really cannot understand what is happening.
I dont want them to be exploited.
But if that is the way I have to go, then I suppose I will need to get a solicitor and see what I can do.
I am just very very wary. Dont want that kind of exposure I suppose.

Errata

With reference to the News papers, I really didnt want to go public, as dispite my pouring my heart out on here, I dont want the children or the grandchildren to be in the lime light, when they really cannot understand what is happening.
I dont want them to be exploited.
But if that is the way I have to go, then I suppose I will need to get a solicitor and see what I can do.
I am just very very wary. Dont want that kind of exposure I suppose.

I think you're right. Neither DGD nor her mum would be able to give their informed consent, and (I think) DGD is also on some kind of protection register.
Anything that is put in the public domain that identifies people will be there forever, either in newspaper or the internet. You may need to seek advice from SS before you contemplate going down the publicity route.

Molly41

Oh Mooloo,
Its absolutely disgraceful that they can treat you and yours in this way. I dont know what to say except that we are all behind you and will help you in anyway. Hugs x

minimoneysaver

The treatment you are receiving is so shocking! I am appauled when I read your thread at the lack of care and interest from social services. Do they really think that you will just quieten down and go away? Disgraceful.
Big hugs and love to you. I know that you are doing all that you can to make a comfortable, loving home for your grandaughter. x

bertiebots

Mooloo I just wanted to send you {{hugs}} for today! There's nothing worse than waiting for news to be told there is no news. As you say it is just not good enough. I suppose just taking it a day at a time is the only thing you can do at the moment....and you haven't been left with much choice have you hun.
I hope the male sw passes on what you have said and can convay how serious your situation is getting.
Keeping my fingers crossed for you that something starts to happen soon x.

Savvy_sewing

DGD is fine, she is well cared for. I would not do anything but my best, and beyond to take care of her. I also try to be there for all of my four children and the other two grandchildren. I also try to see my parents regularly. But it is all taking its toll I suppose. DGD doesnt suffer, its just me who does. Which is just as well.
DGD is happy, and a delightful child. She has adjusted to living with her granny as if nothing had happened. But they used to live with me when she was born, and up until last summer, so for her I suppose it was just granny in a different house.
I have managed to accommodate Mum as well, but to the cost of loosing my son.
We are in touch, but he has gone to live with his friends in Oxford. As the woman is happy for him to live there, there is nothing I can do about it. He has his rights etc etc.
I moved to this cottage to try to get time with my son, after a terrible year the year before. But it was i fear too late in the end.

I just wish that I was well enough to care for everyone, and had the funds too!.
But I am stretched to exhaustion as you all well know.
Every other day practically I am in bed before 8pm, or not long after. I have to recharge my batteries to some degree. I just wish I could sleep well, and that I could bounce back up in the mornings! alas that is not happening. I wake as if there is a mill stone around my neck, and my spine is slowly getting more twisted by the end of the day.
At least the physio will help there, when they can fit me in. It was a great help last year when I could get Physio. Actually it was 2008! God the time has gone by.
The request to see a councillor is to just off load really. Maybe see what my options are, a sounding board. Well this thread is my sounding board, my crutch, and my life line really.

So much for our dreams?
What shall I do when I get my days and nights back to myself? That will be interesting, if indeed I ever do?

I have some seeds and some compost that I want to start to get going in the greenhouse (that came with the cottage). Maybe I will feel up to it on Thursday morning.
Tomorrow is my mothers birthday so i must go and make her a card now, and then I hope to meet Molly41 for a cuppa again in the afternoon. We had such a long chat last time, I couldnt believe how fast that meeting went!.

Little_Miss_Winner

Hugs for you Mooloo, waiting for news is the hardest thing in the world ~ its the not knowing.

I too, like the rest am absolutely disgusted by the way you have all been treated or fobbed off, for want of another word. It truly has made my blood boil.

With regards to nursery place for your little one, I know you say she is 2, but when is she 3?? The government offer 12.5 hours of FREE playgroup places from the tern after their 3rd birthday. It usually equates to 2.5hrs a day over the 5 days.

heres a link here:- http://direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/Preschooldevelopmentandlearning/NurseriesPlaygroupsReceptionClasses/DG_10016103

Maybe of no use now, but hopefully as the months march on, she will be getting nearer to 3.

Glad your looking forward to meeting Molly41 you do need to get some *YOU* time hun, even if it's just an hour here and there.

Hugs for now, will be about all evening if you need to chat.

xx

floss2

Mooloo, check out your MP's website (they all have them - google is a wonderful thing!) and email or ring his secretary in the morning re chasing up your letter and a response from it - the Council should respond within a certain number of days (here it is 5 working days, with a full response within 21 working days where possible).

holliegarson

Mooloo

I'm sorry if I overstepped the mark with mentioning 'going public' - having had time to think on it I think you/other posters are right - it wouldn't be fair on the children and that level of interest would undoubtably be very intrusive.

I am so furious on your behalf I just wrote down without thinking - apologioes again for perhaps not being as tactful as I should have been.. I hope one day that SS are brought to task for what they have put you through.

I x