A new start for Mooloo

Savvy_sewing

Gosh, thanks for those words everyone.
I think you have all made me cry! There are some very kind people here.
I think that perhaps going to This Morning, may be my way forward. I could as suggested post links to my threads on here, if I can get the technical bits sorted out anyway.
Maybe I will just send an email this morning. Its a good day for me to do that, as I am struggling health wise today, and so therefore do not feel so strong to keep battling on.
I am hoping to stay at home today. I have unfortunately had to plug in an electric fan heater, here in the sitting room, as I am just not feeling well enough yet, to battle outside for the bits of wood that are left. They are all the biggest heavy ones, and they are not easy to keep alight anyway.
I havent used the fan heater in here before. As I know it is very costly on the electric, but to be honest I really cannot be bothered to worry about the electric bill today. My arm/neck and the lifting are my concern today.

DGD is watching CBbees on the tv. And currently that has given me a bit of peace. We are both still in our dressing gowns. But we are cosy in here at the moment. So I am not going to worry for once. Think our dressinggown and socks are warmer anyway. We are not expecting any visitors so it should not be a problem.
I shall just 'hibernate' here a bit.
I expect I will get a call or two from the twins at some stage.

I believe twins both love thier children verymuch, I just believe that as they don't know how to play with them properly, they find it a challenge to keep up with thier childrens imaginations. Well twin1 with DGD anyway.

I do remember when the twins were little that we couldnt get them to engage in imaginative play, that, dolls were stripped of clothes and then left.
The biggest thing I remember they liked to do was cut up, or tear up paper. Oh and eat sponges!!! I had to stop having sponges in the house as they ate them too much.

Anyway. I think that I have waited long enough, argued with the social long enough.
I suppose I have given the Social and the powers that be, far too much lea way. I havent been hard hitting enough obviously.

Pity that a lot of my correspondence has gone over the years. Been shown to different people who have taken bits to refer too, and lost in all the many moves we have made.

Time for a cup of tea, maybe a biscuit if we have any left in the house. And perhaps compose my letter to the TV?

I suppose if I was to read through my first thread, it would remind me of the battles I had. Possibly be able to give me points to dates etc. As the kind of Diary I write are just A4 books, or A5 depending on my money, that I start scrawling in when i get the chance. Sometimes I dont write for days, or weeks, but mostly its a few pages when i do. I tend to write a book every two to three months, and then they just get shoved into drawers etc. I need to gather them all up and put them in order if I wanted to put things down. There are books around, in boxes and cases since I started to write them 17 years ago. So if thats 4 to 6 books a year, then thats a minimum of 68 books lurking around!!! eek.

lavidaloca

I agree with all the other OPs that the time has come to approach your many problems from another way. An email to This Morning is an excellent start.

Personally I would write a brief summary of your situation (perhaps in a list form in double spacing to make it easy to read) and say that you are contacting them as a last resort as you are "banging your head against a brick wall with SS" and don't know where to turn for help. You could then give a link to your threads here.


I think if you just give a link to your thread for them to read it will be too much for them to wade through to find out your problems iyswim.

Savvy_sewing

I agree with you. I will give a few bullet points of a history.
Cup of tea beside me. DGD decided on an orange instead of a biscuit. Bit messy, but at least its one of her 5 a day!.

bertiebots

You go for it mooloo...sometimes you just have to SHOUT to be heard .When you're obviously such a lovely person (and dont want to upset anyone) this is against your nature ,and it takes some guts to do!
.... after what you have put up with I think everyone of us here would gladly hoist you onto the town hall roof and shout together.
JUSTICE FOR MOOLOO!!!!! x. Good luck
As an afterthaught does your local mp have an open surgery where you can go talk to them, sorry I dont know if you have tried this already? ,but face to face they cannot avoid your questions/ problems. Letters can always be conveniently ignored!

jackieglasgow

This is a good idea, Mooloo. But are we all forgetting that this is MSE? Is there no way Martin could help you out? Send him a PM and ask who he could point you towards in the media who could help your cause. Maybe he could talk to GMTV or similar?

lavidaloca

jackieglasgow wrote: »

This is a good idea, Mooloo. But are we all forgetting that this is MSE? Is there no way Martin could help you out? Send him a PM and ask who he could point you towards in the media who could help your cause. Maybe he could talk to GMTV or similar?

Another good idea, in fact, email anyone you can think of.

Your local library will have details of your MPs surgeries. Think this is better dealt with face to face with them instead of just an email. Take along a copy of your list of problems to leave with them.

Savvy_sewing

Well a rather long email is winging its way to This Morning now.
I decided to just send it as I wrote it, with the links to my threads.
I have just received an acknowledgement that they have recieved it. So we are hopefully going to get some results.
I am not sure that I am brave enough to front up at the MP's. I feel a bit too fragile today. I will consider it when I am rested a bit.

the sitting room looks like a bomb has hit it, with DGD amusing herself with the TV,and her toys. But it is lovely and warm with the electric heater on us.!!!
(god knows what the electric meter is reading now, but thats the least of my worries today.
Twin2 tells me that the social worker went around yesterday and told her BF that he is not allowed to smack/hit her son. That he is also coming around at 3.30 today, and that there is a meeting on the 25th February that I am to attend with her. (She wants me there).

Still no news about twin1. she has just logged on to MSN I see. So I am going to have a quick chat with her.

Today is my ESA payment day, so the electric and gas payments have gone out on standing order. Better adjust my signature.

Errata

Mooloo - Bullet points is a very good suggestion, and breaking things up in to sections would make things clearer: twins, babies, accommodation, BF's, money, health, SS, MP, DS, Biggest etc.

It will also be useful if you are very clear about what you want to achieve for yourself, twins, grandchildren etc before you approach the media. You need to be comfortable that your problems with your children and grandchildren may end up in the public domain to be picked over and talked about. The Twins will need to give their consent to this, and you need to be sure they are capable of understanding what that means.

Whilst asking Martin Lewis for help is a thought, help may not be possible along the lines of if he helps you, then there may be many people on MSE, or reading it, who feel they are far more deserving of his help.

Best wishes

jackieglasgow

Errata wrote: »

Whilst asking Martin Lewis for help is a thought, help may not be possible along the lines of if he helps you, then there may be many people on MSE, or reading it, who feel they are far more deserving of his help.

You're right of course, Errata, and I'd thought about that, after all if one person did it, that would open the floodgates. However, Martin (for example) giving Mooloo's details to a researcher on a programme he works on and saying "this might be of interest to you" doesn't have to be public knowledge. Whatever help Mooloo gets cans only be a step in the right direction, and there's no denying the situation her family finds itself in, is not a public interest story, is there? Otherwise we would not not be investing so much time and energy reading and in some cases advising Mooloo.

Savvy_sewing

well I have just sent an email to Denise. she gets hundred and they are not all published.
They help people that dont necessarily end up on the show.

I will leave Martin to his financial wizardry.

I am not sure the twins will worry about giving consent to my telling in the first instant, but if there is to be mass media, then of course I would not go behind thier backs and would tell them why etc etc.
I am not sure what I am exactly asking for really.

I would like to know that I can have peace in the knowledge that the system is caring for my family as best it can, and that there are some ways of getting the girls to be safe, and too teach them how to parent.
I would like to know that I am not going to be so exhausted that I am ill, and end up at the bottom of the heap, broke, homeless and without access to my family.

I am sure that there are many many people out there who are in the same, or similar positions. I am sure that they are more deserving then I am.
But I am also fighting for anyone else who should get the help.
One case helps all others. It has been proven with many court cases being the catalyst for changes. perhaps thats what is needed.

Care in the Community, is what it should be. Care at home for everyone.
Families should be supported and not split up, if thats at all possible. Thats what I thought anyway.

I do not mean to upset anyone who has a worse problem then me.
I do not want to be anything but getting justice and care for my children and my grandchildren. for me, I just want the help to support my children, and not to be so ill I end up in hospital, or worse, in a care home myself. No offense to care homes. I just mean loosing everything I have ever worked for. Most of it has already gone. My security blankets have long gone. My pension is not worth the paper it was written on, and I am fearing that I will loose my cottage too. It is only rented, but it is my home, or at least I wanted it to be.
Does that make any sense.?