A new start for Mooloo

Jo4

I hope things are going better for you today. Any word on how the SW thinks twin and dgd are getting on and what the possible outcome might be?

shaz_mum_of__2

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

I'm sure Social Services would like nothing better than to hear Mooloo say "We'll get a big house and all move in together again." They can then wash their hands of the problem - again.

But I don't see why it would work any better this time than it did last time. The twins will still have learning difficulties and it won't all be one big happy family.

Mooloo successfully demonstrated that with appropriate DAILY support the twins could care for their children. But really, for how much longer could she carry on providing that support, effectively 24/7, to three very small children and two adults with learning disabilities who don't always get on with each other?

I don't know what the answer is, but I really feel it involves Mooloo's foot being put down VERY firmly in support of her saying "I can't do this." Because really, you can't, can you Mooloo?

I couldn't agree more ..........the answer is getting the right help which sounds so simple but seems to be non existent .


I wish help were forthcoming ,but i see difficult decisions ahead for you Mooloo
For now take it a day at a time .

Shaz

minimoneysaver

I hope that you are okay Mooloo. Sending lots of love your way. x

thorsoak

Mooloo - I've not posted on your thread before - I have nothing but admiration for what you have tried to do to keep your family on track despite your own health problems.

Wish I could suggest something that hasn't been suggested before that would mend everything - but I can't - just sending you more good wishes!

queen_vi

Mooloo hope you are ok
you have lots of friends on here thinking about you
its really lovely how they all try to help

Savvy_sewing

Hello, I havent been on the computer as I havent had the time or the energy left at the end of the day. Just came on to check my email, and then thought I better give a quick update.
I went to see Twin2 on Monday morning. Her neighbour looked after her children, as I hadnt enough seats or space in the car for all the kids. We had DGD with us. Went shopping, got her money etc etc. Tried to talk some sense into her but alas yesterday she took him back in.
I have not heard anything good. The social worker arrived Monday as I was there. He wanted to talk to "him" before he came back but couldnt get hold of him. His Mum said he wasnt there.
We had to meet him at the registery office to register DGS2s' birth. Need him on the birth certificate. Unfortunately that meant I had to take him back tothe hostel.
When I got there the council were moving some of the rubbish and furniture out of their flat. Gave them a table and were coming back with a chair.
We had managed to get a bigger lump of the rent paid, but its still not all up to date.
The council officer told me that they will not consider re housing until the rent is sorted. That they believe Twin2 would be better off withouth him. Then she "gossiped about alot of the going's on etc that happens there". The Bromford Housing Support Worker was also there. She said the sam.
The neighbour etc said the same.
I have telephoned my ex husband and told him to pull his finger out and help.! He is planning to visit today. Let this monster know that we are watching and will nt acccept the way he is treating our daughter. Some of the things are not nice. He is usuing words not physical thank god, well not so far. But the rough treatment of DGS is meaning that Social are having another meeting Tomorrow. Then a big Safety Plan meeting next week.

I cannot take on Three babies. I just cannot.
I am off to see a doctor in a few minutes. I need to get help. Maybe some councilling before I go totally Mad. The pain is so bad at the moment. The stress is just adding to it all.
I will come back on when I get back.
The Warm Front are finally sending a surveyour round this afternoon to do the measuring up for draughtproofing etc.

Thanks to everyone for the well wishes. It really does give me help and support.

Now its time to go to the doctors, take twin1 back to her flat, and be incharge of DGD again.
DS is still in Oxford.

shaz_mum_of__2

Hope the doctor can help mooloo ........talking to someone neutral will help and they may be able to provide letters to support you in your financial claims etc

Shaz

Savvy_sewing

Well the doctor I saw was not my normal doctor, although he seemed quite nice. He said he only had 3 to 4 minutes for my appointment so I have to go back and make a double appointment for next week. Meanwhile I am to take maximum dose of Paracetamol on top of my normal medication for the pain side of things. May up the gabapentin again next week.
But that was all he could do for me today. So I am going back next Tuesday at 11am to see him.
Twin1 is back at her flat.
I called in to see my parents and ended up having lunch with them. Just got back about 10 minutes before the contractor about the draughtproofing arrived.
Unfortunately he has said that I cannot have the draughtproofing done as I have open fires and no vent. Then he said they are not prepared to do the loft insulation as the ceilings are too old!
So that was a waste of months and months of asking, and being told I could get a grant etc to help.

I really am just not getting any good news at the moment at all!.
I am dreading the huge electric bill, and dispite the fact that it has been snowing on and off all day, I have not dared to turn the heating on in the hallway upstairs, and have reduced the times the one in the diningroom is on.
Think we will have to have big blankets on, as I am running low on wood, only about 12 large pieces left, and my delivery is not until 9am on Saturday.
When DGD goes to bed tonight, and Biggest of Mooloo has had her tea, I will be going to bed with a hotwater bottle my Mum gave me, and my heat pads!. Save the last few bits of wood.
Payday is tomorrow so the standing orders will be going out for the electric and gas from the previous house, and for the monthly amount I am currently paying. But I know that its only about a quarter of what the bills will be.

Twin2 rang me to tell me that she now has the double buggy that my parents and I bought secondhand yesterday, and has a raincover with it. So she can take both children out and about.
Social worker is visiting her tomorrow. So we will see what occurs there.
Twin1 has not had any results yet.
the social have not acknowledged my letters as yet. But sent them recorded delivery so they cannot deny them. Still nothing about the rusults.
Twin1 has until the 4th April now to vacate her flat, and nowhere to go as yet.
So that will be the next crisis.

I really am struggling with my neck and arm and it is obvious to me, that dispite what the social or anybody else say. I am not fit enough to do this much longer. I am deteriorating at the moment, and thats just not good.

I am also wondering if I will be able to stay here in the cottage afterall, as the cost of the electric is just too high. Maybe I will have to move to a flat afterall, but the thought of that is depressing me completely. I so wanted to enjoy my time here in the cottage, and grow a few plants and fruits etc . But I cannot see it happening the way my luck has been going.

Seems its one step forward and two steps backwards a lot of the time!
Going to go and make a cup of tea, see if I can warm up a bit, and give the logs a poke and see if they can spark again.

bertiebots

Just wanted to say hi mooloo ...I have been following your thread for a while but not posted. As for the gp I thaught they had to give you 10 mins, not helpful I know but that was not very good . I really wish I could offer you some help in some way ,as you really have it all going on at the moment. Only thing I could think of that might help a tiny bit (if you already dont do this) is to ask on freecycle for some firewood, or another local freecycle type group. I have seen it offered on our local group quite often and some kind sole may even cut it up for you? Have you got some wheat bags for your kneck as I find mine blasted in the microwave is the only thing that eases my kneck pain sometimes and I can get it right in the worst spot iyswim...sorry I dont know what your specific kneck problems are . I made mine myself using some scraps of material and pearl barley...I know you have mentioned sewing and am pressuming your quite clever when it comes to making things, pain allowing of course.
Anyway want to offer you a {{hug}} and hope that by the end of this week something is going 2 steps forward .....

Elspeth

Hang in there Mooloo. You'll get through this (but for what it's worth I think you're going to have to be very firm about how this is impacting on you - before assumptions are made about any long-term arrangements).

I know you will strive to stay in your cottage, partly because of the garden, but should it come to a move then I'm a flat-dweller and grow much more than I ever thought possible in big pots on windowsills.

Look after yourself.

Elspeth