A new start for Mooloo

Savvy_sewing

7.30 and still didnt get any sewing done. But I did manage to blitz the dinning room, and have a long hottish bath with a book while Twin1 kept her eye on DGD. Who actually was inbed asleep at the time, so not so hard to do.
Have printed off my letters to post Recorded delivery tomorrow.

But was not feeling well enough to sew after the diningroom was sorted out.
May try a bit later, but to be truthful I dont think my arm is really up for it.

minimoneysaver

Hope you had a good weekend. x

Savvy_sewing

I have decided if its not one thing that upsets the apple cart its another!.
My Dad took Twin1 back to her flat on Saturday morning, and Biggest of Mooloo's had DGD for me for the rest of the weekend. So I went to Oxford. I briefly saw my son, who is back there, for the immediate future anyway!. Then I went to my BF;s. I had only just got through the door when twin2 rang me.

The fear that things are not going so well have arrived in a double whammie.
Twin2 had the Social Services out of hours team there. They wanted to speak to me.
One of them happened to have been the Teenage Support Worker that they had when we were all together in the old house. Apparantly someone or a few, people in the hostel where twin2 lives, have said that her BF is smacking DGS1 and being too rough with him. etc etc.
Well they were not going to "uplift" the children at the moment, but the situation will have to be monitored etc. The BF of twin2 had gone on one of his missing weekends on Friday afternoon, so he was not about. But they are supposed to be going back to see him today. Except he is not there now.
When he did get back yesterday, the "community" of the people in the hostel have warned him to Go. etc etc. So there was a lot of words, a lot of accusations etc and when I arrived on Sunday about 4.30pm he was packing to go.
I tried to be impartial, not to rant and rave, everyone else had done that already.
But in the conversation that came out between the three of us, was disheartening.
He had "gone off " my daughter during the pregnancy. He had been rude, derogative and short with her. Called her all sorts of names and her self confidence is now nil.
After all the money problems before Christmas, he had her bankcard again, and the number. He was not allowing her this that or the other, he really has not been very nice by all accounts.
I ended up taking him back to his mothers before I collected DGD from Biggest of M's.
so it was a long day with driving, and a late night for DGD. It was after 8pm before I got her to bed. I just about managed to watch Lark Rise to Candleford, and I was in bed too.

Today twin2 has already been on the phone. So it looks like I have to gather up DGD and go and visit. She needs to shop and all sorts of things. Thank god she got the bankcard off of him before he went. But now she cannot find the flat keys!

I expect to hear from the social workers again now about the Safety arrangements for DGS1 and DGS2!.
Here we go again then!?
Personally I am still having a bad time with my left side. The weather is not helping. The atmospheric pressure seems to make a difference, and its not a good one. Oh to live in hot sunny clims!.
Right I better get DGD into some clean warm clothes and get going.

I did send my letters about Kinship carers funds etc to the Director of Childrens Services as well as to our own social worker., by recorded delivery. So now we await the answers from that one.
Still no more news then the acknowledgement from the MP.

holliegarson

Mooloo

I couldn't just read and run. I honestly don't know what words of encouragement and support to offer. I am so sorry you are going through all this- you're right - it seems to be either one thing or another.

I think it remains to be seen what the SW will do regarding your DGS's as to what the next move is.

You really have all my sympathy at this very hard time - hugs to you.

I x

jackieglasgow

Didn't want to read and run either Mooloo, {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}. what a carppy time you're having of it!

candygirl

Mooloo I just want to send you massive (((hugs))) for being such a fab Mum and Nana:AI have enough probs with one DD and DGD, so God knows how you cope:eek::eek:Social services should be kissing your feet for all the money you are saving them:mad::mad:

minimoneysaver

Oh lordy! I can't believe it has all kicked off with twin 2 as well now. Of all things she has had another baby, which would leave you with 3 babies!!! What are social services planning to do next? Have they said anything about checking you out as previously discussed as you are well over the time frame which is issued by them. I don't suppose it helps that you have two different social workers to deal with either.

shaz_mum_of__2

Oh Mooloo

More problems , i fear you are going to end up all living together again. Not ideal for anyone but maybe better than the alternative (DGchildren all in care ) Have you investigated the posibility of the council/SW's rehousing you all together . If you do go this route is it possible for you to get power of attorney over the twins finances ie get it paid to you and give them pocket money or is this a too simple way of looking at the situation ?

Hope things get easier (but realise they will probably get worse knowing your luck!)

When does twin 1 get the verdict ??

My neck /shoulder is worse when its cold too......still waiting for an appeal date for my ESA but have been warned it will be at least April , not complaining as i get paid still in the meantime


Had a really bad cold/flu the last week so not been around much but think of you lots

Shaz

Savvy_Sue

I'm sure Social Services would like nothing better than to hear Mooloo say "We'll get a big house and all move in together again." They can then wash their hands of the problem - again.

But I don't see why it would work any better this time than it did last time. The twins will still have learning difficulties and it won't all be one big happy family.

Mooloo successfully demonstrated that with appropriate DAILY support the twins could care for their children. But really, for how much longer could she carry on providing that support, effectively 24/7, to three very small children and two adults with learning disabilities who don't always get on with each other?

I don't know what the answer is, but I really feel it involves Mooloo's foot being put down VERY firmly in support of her saying "I can't do this." Because really, you can't, can you Mooloo?

Molly41

Hope everything ok Mooloo x