A new start for Mooloo

queen_vi

congragulations

Katyag

Congratulations!!! Hope both are well.

Hope you manage to post some piccies to let us see!

grandma247

congratulations. I hope you get some rest in between all the running around.

Savvy_sewing

Just about to go and get Mother and baby from the hospital. currenty have twin1 here helping me with both the two year olds. Was about 10pm when they went to sleep last night. But they slept well, until around 8am.
The small sittingroom is a bit overcrowded with them in here. DGD is being very naughty and fighting DGSover all of the the toys, pencils, anything that he has she is snatching from him. Screaming abdabs etc etc. Not good.
I am glad he will be going back home tomorrow, but I am feeling that DGD is feeling put out, as the toys etc are hers! So she will have to be taken to some more Mums and Tots things, to get used to sharing, and not to throw such temper tantrums!.
twin1 is colouring with them at the moment.
I have only a picture on my mobile, seem to have lost my digital camera at the moment.! maybe I left it in Oxford last time I went. Which is annoying.

DGS is asking for Hugs all the time. He is a lot thinner then DGD! Hadnt realised he was smaller then her.
Anyway, all is well with the new baby, and I can go and get her and him. So I better shift myself!.
Thanks for all the good messages. With all those good vibes, we should be well.

grandma247

Mooloo wrote: »

The small sittingroom is a bit overcrowded with them in here. DGD is being very naughty and fighting DGSover all of the the toys, pencils, anything that he has she is snatching from him. Screaming abdabs etc etc. Not good.

At least that's pretty normal behaviour for two year olds.
Have a good day.

Savvy_sewing

Keeping_Motivated wrote: »

Hi Mooloo,you say the social doubt she will pass the assessment but I thought they do all they can to keep children with their parents these days?

In what way is DGD at risk by living with her mother? And do you agree that she is at so much risk that they cannot live together? I ask this as you see some cases where people are literally physically abusing their children yet the children are still not taken away.

If you believe she can manage to look after her daughter then keep fighting for them to be together, as you say that might have to be done via MPs etc and I know you are tired but if you don't give this final push you will be exhausted in the end as they will expect you to have DGD for ever by the sounds of it.

I take it twin2 has a different social worker?

Yes twin2 has a different social worker, she has a male one, and comes from a different district. He was at the hostel on Friday, and has taken my phone number etc. Maybe he will be better then twin1.s.

The problem that Social have is that Twin1 is not very Danger aware. She is also not the best at housework. So she has a habit of leaving the dirty nappies in sacks, on the floor of the bedroom or the bathroom. she doesnt seem to notice that there are problems with mess. She just doesnt see. She has a habit of watching the TV, (even if it is Iggle Piggle,) and not notice that DGD has left the room, and is then climbing and playing when she doesnt get supervision.
I am in two minds as to how much is acceptable, (just) and how much the Social made big issues out of things that are not right, (i agree) but its the way they go about things.
I believe that Twin1 should be shown how to keep to a routine, and hopefully this has shaken her up enough to make her pass the assessment!.
But she will need constant help, until DGD is old enough to help her mum!. :eek:

Errata

First of all, congatulations on the new grandchild.

Twin1 really doesn't cope well on her own does she. It just strikes me that even though she and DGD lived with you for about a year, all the lessons you tried to teach her on looking after baby and how things should be done just didn't seem to sink in, and I know you did an awful lot for DGD yourself.
If she still can't get her head around what she's supposed to be doing, then it seems to me it's a bit unlikely she will be able to teach DGD how to behave - potty training, how to eat properly, manners, which seems too hard on DGD because she's the one that will cop it for not understanding these things.
It's a very hard situation for you all to find yourselves in and I hope the best solution can be found for DGD.

Savvy_sewing

minimoneysaver wrote: »

Did you ask the social worker about officially fostering your granddaughter. Is that a possibility. I don't know anything about the foster/social care systerm, but I know that you would be much better off financially if you could do that.

I am not asking to foster my granddaughter, although we have all been talking about it, if the mum fails the assessments. However I really am not sure that I will be able to do it. I am struggling with my health now. Its getting to be a long time, and its wearing me out. But my eldest Daughter has been looking into the possibility of her fostering. But it seems that if we are family we are not entitled to funding? This is my biggest issue. As I know that the minimum payment around here is £106 for a 2 year old, per week.
If either of us was to foster DGD, then we would be entitled to the Childbenefit, and child tax credits. Possibly if Mum was to go out to work, then maybe maintenance. But of course i am not sure that Mum would be able to hold down a job.

Savvy_sewing

errata, I did a long reply,,and the website closed down on me! Am a bit too tired now to start all over again now. Luckily twin1 has managed to teach DGD some very good manners, she eats with a knife and fork, she says please and thankyou. She says Bless you, when someone sneezes. She says pardon me if she burps.
She also is counting well, and counting upto 8 without prompting.
she is also starting to ask for letters to be drawns for her, She knows her name begins with a P and she knows that she is 2 years old.
the Potty training is the only thing that I am not really pushing as much as I should have done. the rest Mum had already taught her.
She also has a wonderful vocabulary, and can say full sentences.
She is beginning to sing nursery rhymes, and the tunes from some of the CBBies she watches. She can say Iggle Piggle too!! and the awful names given to some of the characters. (not necessarily a good point!).#
Right I am exhausted. Managed to get the electric and gas paid, and posted my rent cheque.
Have been panicing about DS wanting to Move out. But I have been on to the https://www.entitled too site, and linked to South Northamptonshires council site. I am sure that I live in the Cherwell Valley area, and then I am sure that I would actaully be entitled to £126 a week rent for a One Bedroomed house. well this is a two, granted, but my rent is £125 a week. So I am sure that I should still be entitled to live here. I shall check this with the housing officer tomorrow. If this is the case, the woman on the phone last week gave me the wrong information, and this could have saved me a lot of heartache.

Apricot

According to this You should receive the same amount as a non-family foster carer.
I do hope you are able to sort something permanent out. It must be difficult basically living in a state of limbo until you know what SS decide regarding twin1 and her dd.

I hope it all works out for you soon Mooloo - it's got to start looking up soon!