A new start for Mooloo

Savvy_sewing

Thats a no no, as its a special unit, and she is only allowed to be there for a certain amount of time anyway.
I dont think i could get any of my furniture up those stairs anyway! Its so old fashioned and heavy.
Right I need to concentrate on the other twin now. Her baby is due tomorrow. They need the moses basket, and some other odds and ends that I have.
So I need to finish the quilt, like NOW, then get DS (if he will) to help me grit the lane to get the car out!.
Twin1 is going to stay here with DGD (and sod the social worker!), while I go and collect her proper cot, and give the moses basket etc over. Oh and bring back the washing as they have run out of money again. (I do have enough money this week, and have the rent for this month, as the housing is given me in arrears. The second cheque has arrived, and will post it to the bank. So I have my rent, and the money for the DD's and Standing orders covered.
We have enough food to last us a ffew weeks. Apart from Bread and Milk.
Twin 1 gave me £50 so we have cash to put petrol in the car, and to buy what we may need.
So I have time. Think logically Mooloo. Think logically.
Tomorrow I meet the new worker. Then lets see what she has to say. (if it is a she of course!).

Sewing sewing. Now!!!

floss2

Mooloo wrote: »

...She then said that I was being too honest with housing! As if they didnt know that DS was not here for a while, (as boys will be boys, and he is going through that stage) then my benefits would not be affected...

So the SW is suggesting that you commit benefit fraud???

I'm sorry to say this Mooloo, but you really need to speak to the senior managers re this SW - their staff SHOULD NOT be making suggestions like this!

Regardless of the fact that the new SW takes over tomorrow, the old one has been about as much use as a chocolate fireguard and should not be able to get away with not helping you, not sorting financial support, not sticking to what she says she will do, and most seriously, suggesting that you commit an offence!!

Keeping_Motivated

Mooloo they seem to be assuming that you will have Twin1 and DGD (for ever) living with you if that is what they deem necessary??? How rude. You do still have a CHOICE you know, don't let them bully you into thinking you HAVE to have them both.

When I suggested earlier that Twin1 move I only meant until the assessment. A long term plan of this would not work as you have already tried and tested it!?!

Sorry for saying this but what would they do if you were not around or if you were totally disabled, they would have to make arrangements for DGD and twin!

Make sure you are firm and clear that after the assessment what ever the outcome they cannot rely on you, you cannot carry on like this.

Take care of yourself.

carlsberggal

If you signed a shorthold tenancy agreement for 6 months and you have lived there for four months already you would only have to give your landlord 1 months notice - he has to give you two. If you've lived there for longer than six months it is a rolling month by month tenancy agreement (periodic tenancy) and you would still only have to give him a months notice and again he would have to give you two. Hope this makes sense

Savvy_sewing

<My actually tennancy is two months either side. Its a rolling one. The estate agents did this a while back, was the same with the last house, which is why it cost me all my savings to move. Ihad to pay for both houses for one of the months. As well as loosing the deposit as the paint was a different colour where we had touched up the marks!
Just been on to benefits, and I am not entitled to the cold weather payments, dispite being on ESA as I am on NI related payment. so basically if I had not worked and was on the other ESA I would have got it. Or if I was in receipt of DLA, which we all know I have been turned down for 3 times now.

Spit in the wind would get me better results!.

Now DGD's Grandad and his wife, were supposed to have her for me on Friday, so that I can go to Oxford for my BF's birthday, Friday, and they have now cancelled.
Biggest of Mooloo is still working Friday until 7pm so it would be 9pm before I could get to oxford at the earliest.
Things just seem to conspire against me at the moment.

Been to see twin2, the place is a tip, certainly not good. Have been told that they have to clear it by Friday or the council will chuck them out.
I have brought home the washing. Given them instructions and started them cleaning, but came home becuase the snow is so deep. Only just got out with DS pushing the car out of their culdesac.

So I am going to go and see about dinner now. I missed Lunch.
Twin1 has brought in the wood for the fire, so downstairs is warm. (Except the leantoo, kitchen!! Freeeeeeeeeeeeezing!).

Savvy_sewing

Grr, lost another post.
Things are not going quite to plan. Cup of tea time, and time to gather my wits about me. Atmoshpere here a bit frosty between son and myself. And Twin1 is in her own little world.
Been up in my room trying to sort out my budget but not able to open the documents I wanted to use.
Try again later.

Jo4

I really do hope that today is a lot better for you and that this new SW can help you!

Savvy_sewing

Morning, I am having a cup of tea, from the teasmade, and then have to get going. As we have to drive into the big town, 20 miles away, to meet the social worker at 9.30ish (The worker said she may be late, as she has to take a little girl to school first). So I will not dash, if I am later, she will have to wait!.
I am not holding out much hope that much more then a hand over will actually be achieved today.
I am pleased to see that we didnt have any more snow over night, so I should, with care, still be able to get the car out of the garage. It was a bit of a wheel spin time yesterday but I did it.

I have done the washing for twin2, well two loads washed and dried. The last load is on now. (Put it on when I got up to go to the loo during the night!).

Somewhere in the night, I decided that for what ever reasons, I am not going to give up my cottage without a fight. So all the problems, (I can re read this thread to get the dates), as my records were lost in the old laptop. Then I am going to make sure that everything is catalogued, and confirmed in writing by the powers that be. Then if I have to ask for the Discretionary payments, I will.
I will also tell the social services, and twin1, that unless they are more helpful, that I may not be able to keep DGD here anymore. (see if that shocks them into action.)
I will then send a copy of this to the local councillors, and the MP.
I have put off with all of this, only having ever drafted up letters, and not feeling that they were right, or that I would wait until the 'next' meeting. etc etc.
No more. Its going to be gloves off completely now.
The battle is not just for my daughter, its for my home, and my health too.
One of my friends said I need to shout from the highest tree top. They also said that maybe I should get on housing lists in other areas. But I dont want to move.

DS has asked me if he can go to Oxford today, instead of at the weekend.
I have said that as I cannot stop him, he can go when he wants, but dont ask me to help him, as I dont want him to go, and that his actions will loose me my home. That I may love him, as he is my son, but at the moment, I am so angry with him.
It hurts.

Another night of irratic sleeping, apart from not managing to get warm last night, my brain just would not stop whirring around.
Perhaps if I let him go, and dont rant and rave (any more), then if he actually descides that it is not as green on the other side, and be able to come back home.
Not sure how long he could go away on a "holiday" before it would count with the council. But I either "commit fraud" as the Social Worker suggested, or I go and speak to them and explain things. Perhaps show them my Family Safety Agreement for DGD and ask for that Disgretionary payment.
I have always been an honest person, so I am thinking that I am not going to be able to cause a problem, even if it is by default.

Right, thats taken me 15 minutes longer then I was planning.
Catch up later.

shaz_mum_of__2

:TGO MOOLOO:T

Good luck today and remember one day at a time

ifonlyitwaseasier

Take heart Mooloo,

we are all rooting for you!!!!