A new start for Mooloo

floss2

Fingers crossed that this SW is a bit more helfpul Mooloo.

minimoneysaver

I hope all went okay today Mooloo!

Hardup_Hester

Hi Mooloo
I hope things went well for you, Whilst I wouldn't condone benefit fraud, I wouldn't be inclined to rush to tell the powers that be that your DS has moved out, leave it a week & I'd suggest he has a 'holiday' at his friends house to see how he gets on, otherwise you will end up moving out just as he decides to move back in.
Hester

Jo4

I hope you had a good day today and that the SW has actually done something to help you and yours.

Savvy_sewing

Only got a few minutes, rushing around after twin2, and alas still no baby.
The meeting was frustrating, and I was angry and bitter. And cried!! Stupid hormones.
I managed to get £20 cash for petrol.
I vented my frustrations and was told "it is your responsibility" "it is your duty", and I was very adamanant that it is Thier responsibility and Thier duty not mine. I am only doing it as I am a loving mother and grandmother, and if they do not get thier finger out and help me, then we are at risk of the whole thing breaking down, and they will have to Put DGD in the care system. as if I dont have enough money to live on, I will not be able to pay the bills, we will have electric cut off, and then the home will not be suitable for DGD to stay with me.
Just for starters
New social worker is a part timer. She only took notes, and didnt have much of a clue. Newly qualified. Now telling us we had to get DD to the assessment centre and its in Peterborough. I think not.
Also said it was up to me to find Mother and baby groups, and nursery etc.

Anyway, it was a waste of time, effort and energy.
The letter writing will begin in earnest.
I am a very angry jperson at the moment.
I am also in agony but thats another story.
Got an appointment with twin2 housing at 11, car is full of all their stuff, and have to empty it to get DGD back in the car. (Had her seat in the front last nght, and never ever again. She got out of her straps, tried to open the door, change gear,a nd it was a screaming fit!! Not ever ever ever again.)

grandma247

Do you have a welfare rights office near you ? We have one in town and I know it is well used.

I just found http://www.communitylawservice.org.uk/ site which covers northamptonshire

There is a list here of organisations,some are specifically for grandparents. I don't know if any will help but thought I would send it anyway.

http://www.forparentsbyparents.com/index.html?pn=1004

The frustration must be enormous. Doing this without someone to lean on must also be very difficult to say the least. I wish there was an agency that would help in situations like this to at least point you in the right direction.


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Savvy_sewing

There appears to be no "right direction".
have managed to get twin2 and her BF a stay of execution on thier eviction. But if they do not keep the place up to date, and get the rent arrears paid off, then I cannot do it any more.
It has exhausted me, and is also costing me financially with being washer woman. Or it will be, as I havent managed to do anymore of their washing yet. Need to do mine for a start.
The cottage looks like a bomb has hit it, as all my time has been sorting out everyone else.
Did go to the Welfare people when I was at the other house. Did go on Twin1 s behalf, but they say I have to get another appointment for my issues.

The good thing for Twin1 is that Romford housing, will allow her to keep the flat in town on, as long as housing benefit is still paid, until Mid March.
Unless the assessment results on the 16th February are negative.
If DGD can be returned to Mum (Something Social doubts) then the termination of tenancy would be revoked.
We have agreed a standing order to be set up to Pay me £50 of Twins benefits to me each week. Hopefully then she cannot spend it, before hand.
They are looking into if they can help me with the electric, but believe it will be a fight. To present them with my bill when it arrives, and I have said that if they dont help me, that is the time that I will go under.
I have enough food at the moment. Apart from fresh fruit, veg and milk. So thats the least of my worries.
Now I have to sort out the wood, etc
Time for about an hour on my housework, and then a rest. As I am exhausted.
No longer going to Oxford. BF is coming here, and I will have to pull the magic tricks out of the freezer for a birthday dinner.
Fire keeps going out, have no more kindling left, and am unable to weild the axe to cut the logs. Not good, last of newspapers and stuff gone too. And one firelighter!
Me thinks I will be calling in at Mr T on the way back from Town this afternoon when I collect Twin1, to take her and DGD to Biggest of Mooloo's for the night.
No peace for the wicked is there.

Savvy_sewing

Grandma, I have added the latter link to my Favourites and I will read it properly when I have a minute.
Got to stop now and get on. Or it will be night time and I will be behind on everything. dont want BF to see cottage and runaway in horror!

Keeping_Motivated

Hi Mooloo,you say the social doubt she will pass the assessment but I thought they do all they can to keep children with their parents these days?

In what way is DGD at risk by living with her mother? And do you agree that she is at so much risk that they cannot live together? I ask this as you see some cases where people are literally physically abusing their children yet the children are still not taken away.

If you believe she can manage to look after her daughter then keep fighting for them to be together, as you say that might have to be done via MPs etc and I know you are tired but if you don't give this final push you will be exhausted in the end as they will expect you to have DGD for ever by the sounds of it.

I take it twin2 has a different social worker?

floss2

Mooloo, to help in your letter writing, there are minimum allowances for foster carers: see HERE and HERE

The second link has an email & telephone contact service for advice.

Mooloo, I have put something in the post that I hope will help you stay a bit warmer at night!

Floss x