A new start for Mooloo

Savvy_sewing

Its snowing here, 30 mins ago it was a crisp sunny day. Now its all grey and wintery!. Hope it doesnt settle quite yet, as after the logs are delivered and moved, i have to go out and get milk, squash and nappies, and a stamp! Must have milk for DGD at least. Powdered is OK for me, but its not for her. mumble mumble

ameliarate

It's snowing - IN YORK - yay!:j

shaz_mum_of__2

Thanks for the offer of the books mooloo but we were given loads by a support group. Not sure whether to attend the group as my head is firmly in the sand .....for now

He starts the meds on saturday ..fingers crossed

hope you and BF sort things out .........you need some kind of personal life

hope you got your nap and the logs are all safely stored away.

shazx

minimoneysaver

Mooloo, is there anything that any of us can help you with? Maybe writing letters for you or even just proof reading the main content to take away some of your stress. Is there anything else that you need to help you out with your granddaughter? I'm not sure I've got much baby stuff left, but maybe I've got some bits that maybe of use to you and her. What size is she now? x

grandma247

Shaz My Aussie friend has her two boys on meds for adhd and one has autism possibly aspergers and the others is possibly borderline autistic too. I saw the difference in them when they were given the meds and they were like different children. My friend also showed me some drawings that the older boy had done and I was amazed. Some were no more than a scribbled mess in one colour and the others were proper drawings in lots of colours. The ones in one colour were the before meds. She told me that was the difference the meds made.
They did have side effects but she felt that at this time the benefits outweighed the effects such as appetite suppression and soon after taking them they would have a period of none stop talking. They eat soon after the effects wear off and have normal meals then, except the youngest has to be persuaded because he seems to "forget" he likes certain foods but that has to do with the Autism not adhd. They only take theirs on school mornings and certain other unavoidable events outside the home. Their specialist does not want them to take them 24/7. That does make it hard for the parents though as they can be difficult to handle.
They also seem to get tons of support from different departments too. They have a health and social worker for children, an occupational social worker who both help support and advise mum and dad how best to deal with them and help them. They also liase with school so everyone knows what is happening. Youngest has a support worker at school too.
I must say they get a lot more financial support than kids here do.

Savvy_sewing

Hello all, Bit of a scarey drive to take DS to work, but done now.! Now the sun is shining and it looks lovely. But I didnt feel like it when I was slipping around the back roads here. Main roads were fine, but it was all the village roads! EEk.

BF came over in the evening, around 5.45 ish. So He and DS had dinner, DGD had had hers earlier, and was in the bath when BF arrived.
He hardly said two words really. Watched TV. Dont think he is the same when my son is around. There is an atmosphere between the two!.
He was fine with DGD, and we had kisses all round when she went to bed.
I tried to talk to him about what is going to happen now that I have Tuttifruitti, but he just said he didnt know. In his opinion Mum should be taking care of her, and not me, that she had done it for the first two years without a problem.
But actually anyone on here that knows me from the first threads, I was really in the background, (and often foreground), until June this year. So really she has only been on her own, for 7 months. And in that time it was obvious that she was not managing properly, which is why she went to the New Horizons in the first place!.
Then he said that I would probably be ending up with twin2's 2 year old and the new baby due in January. (Heaven forbid). I was a bit annoyed and said "Oh well we better end it now then, as whats the point. How come your more pessimistic then me,its usually the other way around!) But he didnt answer me. He just watched tv. Didnt even come up to bed at the same time as me. Unfortunately we didnt have a good night, as DGD woke up around4am, and kept us awake for quite a while afterwoods. Dispite my efforts to keep her quite. When he got up to go this morning there was a distance. Not sure if that was from lack of sleep, or not?
Well what will be will be. I cannot afford to panic about things. If he is right for me, he will support me, and not keep critisising things.
He just cannot see why I have to have DGD. He thinks that I should make twin1 stop going out, and care for her Daughter more. But where in this cottage? And also she has also to adjust to the things that are happening around her. Including the possibility of loosing her child. Which is devistating enough for anyone. Especially for her, as she really doesnt understand why its happening, as she didnt see the dangers that the social worker was talking about, in the first place. As nothing has happened to DGD in the past, she cannot see why it would now.


Re the medication for ADD etc Shaz, it did make a lot of difference to the twins when they were in thier teens. They did calm down considerably, and were a lot easier to handle. They didnt loose thier appitite though!. Dispite weight etc being monitored. The blood tests were the biggest problem, they would scream the place down.! I had to get thier Dad to come and help hold one down, while I did the other, so the hospital could do them both at the same time. Cos if one went first the other would create before you even got her through the door! Oh god the memories. (Didnt help as Dad and I had been seperated since they were 5 1/2 and this was when they were about 11.)
I did find the information about Diet was interesting, and that also did help considerably. Lots of Omega 3 and 6 helps!!

Hello Minnimoneysaver, thats a lovely offer. But I think that we are now managing. Thanks to some generous people on here, I have managed to get her a few clothes, and was sent some lovely PJ's and fleece, along with knickers that she is now obsessed with!. Has even managed to use the potty, since getting them!. Before it was a no no.
I found a Duck in the shed, when I was bringing in the mosses basket to clean up ready for the new baby. She went into the bath without a mumble with that one!. Amazing.
She is wearing size 2 -3year old clothes, but mum had been given age 4-5, so they are too big for her, which is why we still have limited clothes. But we are getting there. I didnt have any luck with freecycle!
If only I had the energy in the evenings, I could make her what I needed!!
I think that the thing that I need the most is the step, so she can clean her teeth without me having to lift her. (That is killing me!). Holding her over the sink is agonising, and seems for ever!. Afterwards I ache for quite a long time. So I will just have to make the budget stretch and go and get one (When the snow stops). Iwas just hoping that the SS would help fund the necessary. Its just the simple things that we need, to make my life easier. The plug safety things etc etc.
Have been told that they have them in the £ shops. So I will go andhave a look, the next time I am in town. Its just that its over 20 miles each way, so I dont tend to go. What with Petrol and parking costs.

I suppose that now I know that Twin1's assessment isnot going to be until FEBRUARY, then I will at least know that I have her for the next 6 - 8 weeks.!
Seems terrifying when I have had her 3 weeks and the world seems to have gone upside down for me. But then if I put the optimists head on. We have survived 3 weeks, we have Christmas to get through, but I have a present for her, and a present from the church play group, and so she will have something to open.
The social worker is supposed to be finding us a hamper.So thats will be good. (If she actually manages to do that).

I will just have to put the electric heaters on,while its so cold etc, and worry about the bills later.
We have quite a lot of foods in the cupboards, and a big shop is due from Mr A next week. So then we should last well into the new year!. Except for those Nappies. I forgot to get them yesterday!. Ended up getting some Party Platters that were reduced, from £5 to £3.35.And put them in the freezer. Perfect for Boxing day. Just heat and have snacks. We usually always just have cold meat, and bits for boxing day. (My day of rest!).

Savvy_sewing

Twin2and her BF have decided not to come to me for Christmas day now. So we wont be over crowded. Infact I have far too much food coming now!. There will only be DGD and her Mum and I now!. All the napkin rings and name places etc I had specially made are no longer needed now!. Save them for next year I suppose.
Feel a little deflated as not getting right responses out of BF. All I getting now is "I suppose if I was in your shoes I would be doing the same. DGD future has to be the priority." But the rest of my questions are not being answered.
So I am non the wiser at the moment.

Looking on the brightside, if there is only the three of us here, then Twin1 can use DS's bedroom and doesnt have to clutter up the sittingroom.
There will be less mess, and noise, and things for me to do as well. We can just sit and watch tv and relax. Only one toddler to amuse!.

ifonlyitwaseasier

well at least you can then save some of the food for use after xmas!!

btw santa will be dropping sthg off for dgd soon

ioiwe

Savvy_sewing

Tried to log onto the supermarket to reduce some of the "party" foods I had ordered, but the site keeps crashing!. So I may be just having to freeze it when it arrives, and make it last into the new year. Mind you if these mouth ulcers dont go soon, I will be on soft bread and water, as thats about all I can take, with a little luke warm tea. (But I have just been reading some Home Remedies and thats now saying dont have too much tea!) Its been about 10 days now, but I have hardly been able to eat a meal since Sunday. (Even that was a difficult one). I am forcing myself to eat a little bit here and there, as I cannot afford to be fainting etc with having DGD. I should have gone to the doctors I suppose, but I kept thinking surely tomorrow they will be getting better.But to be honest, the Bonjela that the chemist suggested is not doing anything but stinging like crazy then maybe taking the edge off of the pain for a few minutes. (Or is it just releif that it stops stinging?)
DGD and I both slept for about an hour and a bit this afternoon. DD woke us when she rang up to let me know she had got home safely from work. Just as well or we wouldnt sleep tonight.
DS is going to see if he can get a lift, or the bus to Towcester and stop with his sister. Both the twins accepted that I couldnt take DGD out unnecessarily in this snow. It was a hairy enough drive this morning.

Off to try some gargling with salty water.

grandma247

Mooloo You might be able to get a special mouthwash on prescription. I can't remember what it is called but it was green and had an anesthetic in it. I found it very helpful. You can buy it over the counter but you will get it free at the docs.