Any 'wives' of cross dressers out there?

Raksha

Thank you to everyone for your help and ideas - we've already done Rocky Horror as we're both big fans of the film, as opposed to the concepts - he went as Eddy. This is because he's not into the glam/drag side of things - he actually wants to 'pass' as a 40 something overweight woman....... That rules out Am Dram as well

Cost and home demands (kids and dogs) kind of rule out hotel stays

I like the Colour Me Beautiful idea - how much do these things cost? (Probably a fraction of what he spends on clothes and wigs.....)

Speaking of wigs - he also has a fetish about me in a wig!

I hope I'm not making him sound like a complete weirdo, because he really is a great hubby and dad, maybe that is because of how he is........

Once again, a huge thank you to everyone whose posted so far.

McKneff

Raksha wrote: »

LOL - you've not seen my 'smalls' - 'smalls' they ain't!

:rotfl::rotfl:

BritRael

Raksha wrote: »

...I hope I'm not making him sound like a complete weirdo, because he really is a great hubby and dad, maybe that is because of how he is...........

Not at all. Nobody chooses what turns them on. The really tough part is finding a considerate partner to share your fetish with. He's very lucky to have somebody like you. It must be a big relief for him. It would certainly be torture for him if you were totally against it.

Have you seen the film 'Ed Wood' starring Johnny Depp? If not, I highly recommend that you get it and have a quiet night in watching it (without the kids). It's very funny and the 'Ghost Train' scene is very touching

lostinrates

McKneff wrote: »

I just wanted to say that i am touched by the replies that you have got.
They are my sentiments exactly and was dreading some nasty posts.

Hopefully people will read the thread and it will be helpful to other cross dressers and their other halves.

Well done you for being brave for posting and so understanding of your OH

I so agree. I peeked in this thread expecting a carcrash and thinking OP might need a friendly if unhelpful response, but its been so nice to read such friendly replies to a sensitive question.

OP, you sound lovely and supportive. I'll be honest, I'd find it hard to cope with. OTOH my doting DH has occasionally let me try testers of nail varnish on him when I've run out of nails and am looking for a particular thing, and although it be horriifed if he thought people new, he sometimes lets me put a facepack on him when I'm doing myself. And I wax his back.:D

How about some pampering days/treatments for you both?

Savvy_Sue

Raksha wrote: »

He wants me to share (ie, him not have to keep it secret) but doesn't want to tell our children (boys aged 14 and 12) and won't tell me when he buys new wigs or clothes.

I am struggling to make sense of this sentence.

How can something be shared if you are keeping it a secret from teenagers?

Anyway, Colour me Beautiful have a website. There may be similar out there, but they do offer services for men. I don't know if they'd do a joint session cheaper than just for one, I was interested to see that men only need an hour to do their colour analysis whereas women need 90 minutes! :rotfl:

Raksha

Hi Savvy Sue, that is the bit I struggle with too - we've been emailing and MSN eachother this afternoon, even though we are both in the same house, because it's the easiest way to share thoughts without the boys listening in! I'm not allowed to tell even my closest friends (which begs the question what is the point in having friends if they can't know about the areas where you need support - as a result I have only one good friend, who doesn't know. The only person who does know is my ex SIL who was in the house when I got the letter which told me about his cross dressing after we'd met once!).

Looks like we're going to have to save up - Colour me beautiful is £165 for the full works - each!

HelenKA_2

Raksha wrote: »

Looks like we're going to have to save up - Colour me beautiful is £165 for the full works - each!

But it is worth doing - so many people told me that I looked a whole different person after I'd done it.

Could you get money towards it for your birthday and christmas then you only need to 'find' his portion.

Also would you consider telling the consultant? Perhaps if you went to one a bit further away rather than your nearest?

I can vouch for Lorna in Edinburgh - she is so lovely and I'm sure she'd take it in her stride and do her level best for you both.

Editted to add - I think it's really great that you both are able to verbalise and can completely understand it being easier to do it by email etc and also keeping it from your boys just now. I'm not a great fan of the 'let it all hang out' brigade myself!

BitterAndTwisted

Oh, I think it's one thing for you to know about and try to share but I really don't think your children need to be made aware of it. That's why it's called a "private life". The idea of my own parents sharing details of their sex-lives together would be enough to put me off my dinner but if they'd tried to share it with me when I was in my early teens it would have traumatized me, I reckon *shudders*

cheapscate

Raksha, if you get a night without the kids try an evening at Pink Punters in Fenny Stratford - it is a great night out - I go with a group of (straight)girlies but it is a really non judgemental and safe, fun night out. Lots of cross dressers - infact anything goes.

whitewing

I just googled and found this, which may be better for your DH than Colour Me Beautiful:

http://www.transformationshops.co.uk/content/view/279/110/

Actually, I think it would be an absolutely brilliant laugh. It is a real shame that you can't tell your best pal because it would be fun for the three of you to go together for a bit of a 'girly' day.