MSE Parents Club Part 3

r.mac_2

thanks LuT - we'll keep with it and try our very very best.

BrunoM

Ouch r.mac, it's the most frustrating thing isn't it, when they take a good sleep pattern and change it for what it's worth, after some failed efforts, we pretty much

a) didn't try to make Elijah sleep at all during the day until around 6 months as he just didn't want to, except occasionally here and there

b) accepted that BF to sleep was the most effective way for what were pretty frequent night wakings (3-4 times between midnight and dawn for a few months)
(partly because of his reflux vomiting, so extra feedings to help him fill up seemed a good idea)

and although we were anxious about the bad habits, he really changed of his own accord to wanting daytime naps, and being - mostly - quite good about night sleeping and being comforted without BF when needed.

So - if it's really driving you up the wall, I would say try BF-to-sleep for a bit for the sake of an easy life for both of you, then she'll be better rested if it works and might be more willing to go down of her own accord after a few nights of it.

r.mac_2

oh - I also forgot to say that today in the post I recieved two emma-jayne nursing bras!

In bravissimo I'm a 30FF (was last measured about 2 months ago) and they sent me a 32 D - one is a little small, I could do with a DD, but the other is perfect - I have struggled sooo much to find anything that fitted, let alone fitted well - and here we go, two freebies that are better than anything already in my wardrobe. I am already testing one this afternoon.

Krystaltips

Sami, Aimee lost none of her birthweight Caitlyn dropped 7oz which was about 5%

DoH weighing guidelines are currently birth, 3 days then 10 days unless there is significant weightloss at 3 days to warrat further intervention...

Bellybutton fell off last night... So glad it's gone!

MrsTinks

Krystal that sounds pretty much like when Roo was weighed... birth, 3 or 4 days (will need to check the red book) and then when we were discharged from MW care at 9 days... at 9 days she'd already put on all she'd lost and some so weighed more than her birthweight :j
I hated the belly button too - it was so yucky! Thank goodness I had the paedeatric nurse next door who didn't mind coming in to check that it was all normal and not going icky etc...
And thankfully it fell off when hubby was doing a change and not when I was :eek: I'm normally not very squirmish but that was really making me shiver!

weezl74

afternoon all,

I braved a mum and baby group! erm, a non-virtual one I mean

It was pretty good actually. The other LOs were bigger than fergie and quite into him, which was a bit scary!

He seemed very happy there and I think I'd go back

ladybird is it your birthday today? have a good one if so! :beer:
Sami happy anniversary for you and OH. I've been withholding labour dust cos it'd be nice not to share your celebrations with junior for the next umpteen years

cazscoob

hello ladies hope your all well!!!!
had my depo today so abi thought it was hilarious that mum got a jag in the bum!!! i have also lost a stone in 10 weeks and that wasnt even trying to going to try and be good and see if i can loose some more:D

oh and im a bad mummy today, i shut abis fingers in the car door? feel awful about it and it cos me £4 in princess plasters(even though she didnt need them lol)

Sami_Bee

Thanks Weezl
I don't mind sharing but I think he's coming on Monday just to annoy his Grandma and her Head Teacher because it'll be the first day back at school

I've had flowers and a balloon delivered from hubby today which has made me a happy wifey He's on the way back from client site so should be back at his actual work anytime now so I can relax that just in case I did go into labour he's not far away now

SusanC_2

This is absolutely my last time online until we get a new connection sorted out so excuse any typos etc - I'm in a rush but wanted to reply to this:

feelinggood wrote: »

If i decided to give him up, what would hapen? would he be fostered or would he go straight to adoptive parents? how do i find out about it?

part of me would rather my mum had him but ithink it best tat he go and i can pretend he never existed

I imagine that they wouldn't have someone ready to instantly adopt so it would probably be foster care first. However, as you've said you're hopefully changing to different medication which is more likely to help, it may be sensible to wait and see how things go. Also there could be temporary options which might help you such as would your mum look after him for a week? If you are struggling you should be able to get support from social services. It's almost always better for children to stay with their parents so social services would rather provide support to enable children to stay with their parents than take them away. I have worked with special needs children in the past (as s summer job) and most of the ones I worked with had a social worker and depending on how well the family could manage some children would be taken for regular respite care - some were very infrequent, others were multiple days a week. Since you have mental health issues and are struggling you should be able to get a social worker who would be able to help you to get the support you need. If you don't have any appointments coming up with someone who might be able to refer you, I would suggest you contact social sevrices yourself to see what help they can give you. I hope that makes sense - I'm just typing out thoughts of possible options which might help. I'm keeping you in my prayers.

Fritha_2

r.mac wrote: »

Now she will go to sleep (usually feeding/nursing) for 45 mins then wake up and cry - really cry! so we try and settle her, when she goes back down its again for only 45 mins.

I have a suggestion (and I even shocked myself by being able to offer something vaguely sensible! Tis an Elizabeth Pantley tip) basically, pop her down and then when she starts to stir nurse her, rock her, shush her whatever settles her then put her back. The idea being that she gets used to sleeping longer. I think I've gpt it right, the book's over there and her Grand High Milkyness has fallen asleep on me so I can't go get it to check!

btw I hit thanks instead of quote so have a free thanks!