MSE Parents Club Part 3

Bella79

i wanted to ask you all my lo is 2yr 3mnth old now and still in a cot she likes it in there and never tries to climb out so im wondering when i should move her to a bed ?

scruffy96uk

I'm a SAHM and love it, it was an easy decision for me I didn't really care about the money I'd lose not workin. OH and I sat down and knew we'd get by and we do.

Susan All the best for your move we'll be following suit soon, our house is on the market at the mo!!!!

Feelie ((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))):grouphug:

Mazcabs

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Only me that wants to work then
Mel - I work in construction, working with 18 different companies developing teamwork, measuring performance and teaching the boys to play together nicely soon to be on a consultancy basis (I hope!!)

No I want to work too, you're not on your own and I work in Construction as well!!! I'm a surveyor.

I went back when Lo was 5 months and in nursery..... sorry to all those SAHMs but I just couldnt cope without work... love it too much, I leave them a long list of notes when I go away.. not sure how I'll manage when no. 2 comes along!

Js_Other_Half

owens3116 wrote: »

i wanted to ask you all my lo is 2yr 3mnth old now and still in a cot she likes it in there and never tries to climb out so im wondering when i should move her to a bed ?

DS is about 2 months older than yours, and is exactly the same. I'm leaving it until I can't get away with it any more:p.

I posted some bedguards on the previous thread that caught my eye though:
http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/New-Children's-Kid's-Travel-BED-RAIL-SAFETY-GUARD-53_W0QQitemZ120414255694QQcmdZViewItemQQimsxZ20090501?IMSfp=TL090501122001r2427

SusanC_2

owens3116 wrote: »

i wanted to ask you all my lo is 2yr 3mnth old now and still in a cot she likes it in there and never tries to climb out so im wondering when i should move her to a bed ?

Unless they start trying to climb out then it's up to you. Personally I'm planning to keep Alice (currently 2y1m) in the cot as long as I can. I figure the older she is when she goes into a bed the less childproofing I need to do in her room and the more use we get out of the cot mattress. I actually have a friend who's 4yo (just turned 4 last week) is still in a cot. She sleeps in it with the side down so she can climb in and out. (They're waiting for their older child to be able to go in the top bunk of the bunkbed so that she can move into the bottom bunk.) She is also a small child - only slightly bigger than Alice.

Lu_T

Hi girls - shiny new thread, :T Thanks for arranging it Sami. I'd been meaning to do that.

Sorry in anticipation of a long post. I've spent a while catching up.

Hugs to Feelie. Hope you can work out what you want. It won't always feel this bleak. Keep talking, even if it's only to us.

Well done MFD. It's a bit odd being you rather than "Benjamin's mummy" isn't it?

Welcome Owens

I also choose to work. With Imogen I was back working after 6 weeks (1 day a week). This was up to 3 days a week by the time she was 12 weeks. I worked for myself so just had to get back to doing something to pay the bills. Although in hindsight I went back pretty early and I won't be doing it this time, I did feel that I needed to be doing something other than being with her or I might actually have gone mad.

As I was both employed (part-time) and self-employed I didn't actually go back to the office for 15 months. MIL had Imogen while I worked up until then. She started doing one day a week at nursery when I went back.

With this baby I'll be having 10 months off from the office and at least 4 months off from my freelance work. But that is only a max of 8 hours a week these days and I do it while Imogen naps and in the evenings so it doesn't impact on my time with her.

On beds vs cots. Imogen was in her cot bed with a bedguard from 15 months when she very nearly climbed out one night. We decided just to bite the bullet, put a gate across the door and got on with it. She adapted fine (we made a big fuss about her new 'big girl's bed') and didn't get out of bed to mess about too much. We did put drawer locks on just in case.

Just before she was 2 we put her in a proper single bed (we knew baby #2 was on the way and had just built an extension which got her a new room, so did it all at once). We didn't put the bed guard on, just put a duvet on the floor. I figured she needed to 'learn' how not to fall out of bed and a bedguard wouldn't help. She fell out every couple of days to start with, but within about 2 months wasn't falling out at all. She would fall on to the duvet and often wouldn't even wake up :rotfl:

Had a difficult day here :-( After feeling fine for two days and so working (albeit from home) I felt wiped out this morning. I put Cbeebies on around 8.45am and woke up on the sofa an hour later. Lazy mummy! Can't believe it's taken til my day off to feel bad. :mad:

Imogen refused to nap this am and goes to playgroup straight after lunch (her usual nap time). So she wasn't in the best of moods when I picked her up. Then I had a fall and banged my bump pretty hard. I had a glass of cold water and a meringue - which would normally be a cue for baby to go disco-dancing. Made a call to the labour ward (no community midwife avail) as I hadn't felt baby move. They're bothered about getting me some anti-d as I'm O-neg, I hadn't even thought about it. They got in touch with my midwife. 45 mins later and baby still hadn't moved so she came round. Found baby's heartbeat first time, but baby didn't really start moving for another hour. Apparently they go into shock a bit, so that's why he was quiet.

Feel much better that we've heard the heartbeat and community midwife will come with anti-D tomorrow. It's just been a bit of a shock. Guess I shouldn't have been standing on that chair to get the icing sugar from the top shelf but I'm nesting for goodness' sakes! It didn't even occur to me to ask DH.

Phew! Hope you managed to stay with all that!

ladybirdintheuk

Crikey, you lot have been busy today!

Feelie - squides for you from me too ~squidge~ I'm not sure what else to suggest if he won't go to counselling. Is he ignoring the baby too, or just you? Whatever happens, you know we are here to talk to, and it sounds like you are getting great support from your family too.

Lu - what a shock for you. You must have been so relived to hear that little heartbeat!

Bedding - I couldn't find any cot blankets big enough for our cot (it is a cot-bed, but even so, the cot-bed sheets I found were still too small?), so I got a couple of normal single sheets. We were given a bumper too, but it's more there for decoration than anything else. We just put Izzy straight into her cot, and she was fine, and slept loads better. She sleeps in the starfish position, so was sticking her hands through the bars of the crib, and waking herself up whenever she moved!

Caz - your work/childcare dilema sounds complicated. I think you need to draw a flowchart or something Is it going to be financially worth going back? We can't manage if I don't go back, so I'm going to have to, but only 3 days a week. I don't want to, but I don't think anyone ever does... I don't want us to be cold and hungry either, so I guess working wins unless I find that elusive winning lottery ticket I do kind of miss the challenge of being at work though, so I know I'll be fine once I get used to it, but right now the thought of it makes me go all tense in side The bit I don't like the idea of is not being there for her when she is a bit bigger and at school. My mum didn't work, so I got loads of help with homework etc (I wouldn't have got through my exams if it wasn't for my mum testing me on French vocab and stuff!) and I want to be there for that kind of thing. Logically I know though that is ages away, and by that point she won't be doing her homework till I get home from work if she's anything like me. (Plus my parents are local, so she can get help from my Mum too!) But logical brain and emotional brain don't talk much

I was going to reply to something else too, but I can't remember what it was...

Oh - potato and carrot puree wasn't as popular, and fenel tea makes the floor of the pub go a funny colour when knocked out of my hand and spilled everywhere by flailing baby. I had to sneak out before they noticed :eek: Plus she spilt it all over herself and me, so she had to go home in just a vest as it was the only thing we had clean and dry after an explosive nappy situation earlier in the day

3onitsway

ladybirdintheuk wrote: »

Caz - your work/childcare dilema sounds complicated. I think you need to draw a flowchart or something Is it going to be financially worth going back? We can't manage if I don't go back, so I'm going to have to, but only 3 days a week. I don't want to, but I don't think anyone ever does... I don't want us to be cold and hungry either, so I guess working wins unless I find that elusive winning lottery ticket I do kind of miss the challenge of being at work though, so I know I'll be fine once I get used to it, but right now the thought of it makes me go all tense in side The bit I don't like the idea of is not being there for her when she is a bit bigger and at school. My mum didn't work, so I got loads of help with homework etc (I wouldn't have got through my exams if it wasn't for my mum testing me on French vocab and stuff!) and I want to be there for that kind of thing. Logically I know though that is ages away, and by that point she won't be doing her homework till I get home from work if she's anything like me. (Plus my parents are local, so she can get help from my Mum too!) But logical brain and emotional brain don't talk much

Ladybird - it was me, not caz! :rolleyes:
A flowchart sounds good - i'm strange like that!
If I go back to the hours I was doing before, it won't be worth it. My wages will cover childcare - then theres petrol/parking and other work related expenses to add to it.
I think the most sensible, is to squeeze my hours into two full days (and maybe a half day) - MIL could have her one day, then theres only a day to worry about.
Work (for the government) are very family friendly, so swapping shouldn't be a problem. Maybe when Violet goes to school I could swap back so I can be there for the school run every day.
I think maybe because its my third (and probably last :mad:), I know how fast the other two grew up, and I don't want to miss out this time.

Bella79

ok guys thanks for the advice i think i will leave her in as long as poss then save me some heartache and sleepless nights !

cazscoob

3 i think cause our pics are similar people get confused!

ok im in need of help!! Erin has been in such a mood all day and i cant get her to feed?she is screaming and guzzles for a sec or 2 then screams again she is getting so full of wind and just wont settle. I get the wind up and she is exhausted falls asleep and then back to the beginning again? any advise? not sure whats going on?