MSE Parents Club Part 3

3onitsway

Sami_Bee wrote: »

I have realised that I couldn't leave my babies to go to work tho, I only felt happy to work once Chris was past one and more of a boy than a baby IYSWIM but that is obviously a personal thing for me

I went back full time when DS was 4 months - and hated every minute of it! I lasted a year before I found a part time evening job, which I stayed at until DD1 went to school, when I changed to part time days. We managed going from full to part time wages without a problem.

Krystal - I think entitled to is the way forward! Although getting OH to sit down and discuss it is another thing. He thinks i'm worrying before I need to - but i've seen how quickly the first 4 months of Mat.leave have gone! Also, he's hoping to be in a much better paid job before then.

If i went back to my job, at the days/hours I did before mat.leave - my wages would probably only just cover childcare - thats a bit silly isn't it!

Millie's_Mum

Feelie, sorry to hear your news, but I suppose the reality of the baby arriving has meant he was faced with a decision bearing in mind the circs. (sorry had trouble how to word that, hope you know what I meant) At least you and baby can now look upwards and onwards to a brighter future together.

Returning to work, I was made redundant when pregnant with Millie and eventually went back to a completely different job/workplace when she was one, I worked parttime and loved it at first.

I gave up work when millie was three because OH had begun working for himself by then and his working away/all hours did not fit in with my job/childcare, I could have worked it out I guess but OH was keen for me to be a SAHM and I wanted to be one so we did it.

Its hard making the money stretch but it is worth it (for me anyway)

SusanC_2

3onitsway wrote: »

I'm already starting to stress about my mat.leave ending and going back to work - at the end of November!!

I really, really, really don't want to go back to work.

To all the SAHM's who worked before - how did you decide/work out how to be a SAHM?

Personally there was never any question of me not staying at home. As long as you haven't made financial commitments which make it necessary for you to go out to work (which we deliberately hadn't) then it's just a case of managing/planning your finances appropriately.

feelinggood wrote: »

Given OH till Wednesday to decide for definite, but it looks like my marriage is over. Going to stay with my parents till then to give him some space so he can be sure it is the right choice, but I can't see him deciding to give things a go. Then I'll be back here until I can work out where to go and what to do.

So sorry to hear that. :grouphug:

SusanC_2

On babygros we gave up at 8 1/2 months when Alice was too big for 9-12 and 12-18 months were the wrong shape.

I should be packing. I hate packing.

Sami_Bee

feelinggood wrote: »

I'm on the waiting list for Pyscotherapy, which is 9 months long. I could have 'Family Therapy' in the mean time, there is no wait, but OH won't agree to it. Won't agree to counselling with relate either, with me or without me. He won't talk to anyone, barely says a word to me.

I'm very sad, but I suppose I just want it all over and done with. I don't know how much longer I can sit on my own downstairs, being completely ignored. I think I'd rather be on my own than go through this.

Aww that must be awful for you! You can't do anything if he's not willing to talk about it:( such a sad situation, If you go back to your mum's at least you will have her support (and be close enough to meet up if you ever feel like it )
Good luck and make sure you keep discussing how you feel with friends/family/professionals/us xxx

Krystaltips

I think with the cost of childcare, some jobs just aren't worth going back to... In our case, tax credits do top hubbys wage up a fair bit so it probably makes no difference whether I work or not... But spending the time I have with Aimee has been wonderful and I couldn't imagine not doing it with this baby too...Hubby is fine with me not working for the next 5 years until baby starts school...

Just telephoned the school and made a complaint... There's been an ice cream van outside the main gate every day this week... You have no choice but to walk right past it to get out of school... We've managed 3 days without too much fuss but today was just too much for Aimee... Had a very long and loud tantrum about having an ice cream... I just don't think it's fair that parents should have to deal with it every day... If he parked at the end of the road then at least you have a choice of whether you walk down to him or not... But right outside the gate is just taking the mickey...

Sami_Bee

Susan are you moving house then? I wasn't sure if you were looking or had actually got a new house

Sami_Bee

Krystal - I don't know how YOU resisted he ice cream van! I can't not have a Mr whippy

Krystaltips

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Krystal - I don't know how YOU resisted he ice cream van! I can't not have a Mr whippy

I never have any money on me that's how lol... Actually, coming back from school I'm with my friend and her 2 children so would have to buy for everyone... Plus there is an ice cream van that pulls up outside my house every day of the year apart from christmas day and new years day... But his ice cream is not so nice... I also don't want Aimee to think she can have on off every van we come across...

Oh, and don't forget the salmonella risk

My_Fathers_Daughter

Only me that wants to work then

I really admire SAHMs but it is just not for me...I am a firm believer in childminders, my mum was one when I was a kid. With a bit of luck when I win my job back I won't need to be full time if I don't want to be.

Mel - I work in construction, working with 18 different companies developing teamwork, measuring performance and teaching the boys to play together nicely soon to be on a consultancy basis (I hope!!).


Ooo - did you make the babysitting call Mel?