MSE Parents Club Part 3

Becles

cazscoob wrote: »

erin has become a nightmare i cant put her down or leave the room as she screams like someone is trying to kill her. the sec i pck up she stops and smiles. kids eh!

If you are worrying about stuff she might pick up the "bad vibes" you are giving out and be playing because of that. Hope that doesn't sound bad - I can't think of the best way to word it I know it's really hard, but try to be calm and unstressed when you are with her.

Been to the mental health worker for a session with James. His birth Dad has moved away now and although he promised to keep in touch with emails and texts, he hasn't done that, nor has he given us any idea of how often he will see the boys now.

Hubby has been dealing with James one to one a lot and trying to do Dad stuff but James seemed a bit hesitant. It all came out this morning that he thinks he has to stay loyal to his real Dad and can't have a close relationship with my hubby. (Not sure how that idea got into his head but lady suspects ex put it there :rolleyes:)

She talked to him a lot about how it's ok to think of my hubby as his real Dad and call him Dad and do all the Dad stuff with him as he is the one who looks after him and loves him on a day to day basis. She said he's got to think of his real Dad as more of an Uncle as he's there in the background but he's chosen to have little contact with him, and there is nothing we can do to force him to have more contact. James seems a bit happier with that and hubby said he'll make sure he does do Dad stuff with him.

Also talked a lot about his anger and controlling his emotions and he got "told off" for bottling stuff up and not telling anyone about his worries. He seemed positive at the end and we're going back in a month to see how he is getting on.

cazscoob

thanks beccles she wont sit with anyone else though if they pick her up as soon as she sees me she is fine? she is probably sensing how stressed i am.

sounds like you have had your hands full and poor james, i was like him as a child my dad was the best even though he went to london promised us the world and didnt bother his backside. we got visits once a year and presents if we were lucky.
my step dad is now my 'real' dad he looks after me and is always there. one day james will look back and be so glad he had a wonderful step dad that wanted to do things and be there for him. I must admit it did take me a few years to realise this but at least you are getting some help and support to deal with it all xxx

r.mac_2

OMG - what a weekend we've had!

On Thursday night LO went to sleep at 7.30. At 10.20pm as we were going to bed she coughed. We debated on whether to look in on her or not so as not to disturb her - but thank god we did - she had been sick everywhere but not woken herself up. She then spent the rest of the night vommitting and crying in her sleep as was all floppy with no wet nappies. I called NHS24 and they sent us to hospital where they looked at her for a few hours but sent us home with instructions to feed her dioralyte, saying it was 'probably gastroentoritous'. Not sure how many of you have tried to do that before. We found it impossible!!! All this was complicated by the fact that I was hit by the bug aswell. I've never felt that bad ever - yuck.

Anyway - it's now Monday afternoon and my LO is still all quiet and cuddly - although she now has some colour and you can tell she feels much better. She's not keen on her formula and has spent all day at the breast. Not much there and at times she has got very frustrated, but we are muddling through and doing our best. She's still rather cold in temperature, which worries me a bit.

It is so scary to see someone so small being so ill, and then being so ill yourself that you are helpless to help them (cue funny moment with DH holding crying baby demanding that I BF her, with me shouting through the wall that I can't - DH storms into bathroom and makes hasty retreat as I'm on the toilet and have my head stuck in a bucket).

I've tried to follow the thread - but as we all talk too much it's not been easy! Hello and hugs to all. :wave:

My_Fathers_Daughter

Glad to hear that you are both better McSmiler - it must have been awful, I dread the first time Benjamin is ill.

Becles - well done for facing it head-on. I hope things improve for James.


Caz - do you have a sling for erin? Maybe she will be happy in there for a while so you can get some stuff done (like I should be doing!!)


Benjamin screamed at baby massage there was only 2 of us there (supposed to be at least 6) so at least he didn't disrupt everything but it was bad enough! He normally loves laying down with me paying him loads of attention but he was having none of it...


...I blame the change in the weather

tsstss7

Sorry your new house didn't work out CG I would like to move house too but I must admit the stress of it all puts me off even bothering to look at the mo.

Well just got back from a&e and I have my first broken bone! My little toe has a hairline fracture so it turns all that pain wasn't for nothing.

Treatment is paracetamol and rest and hopefully should be back to normal in a couple of weeks.

weezl74

ladybirdintheuk wrote: »

Good luck with houses people!

Re buggies, we have a from birth and not parent facing one, and it is fab. One thing I would say is that if the one you have doesn't come with a foot muff then buy a generic one to use - Far easier than trying to stop baby from kicking off blankets!

I need to ask some advice now - I made some mashed carrot and potato mixture for Izzy a while back with no problems, but when I've tried it again the texture goes all rubbery when I thaw it out. I can't work out what I'm doing differently - any ideas?

did you use a waxy potato good for potato salad and slicing, rather than a floury potato good for mashing?

Weezl xxx

feelinggood_2

Can anyone recommend a place to get a decent nursing bra for someone with enormous boobs? (46H or bigger)

Have made do with normal bras up till now, as I only ever pump at home so take bra off. Had an attempt at nursing in the car over the weekend, and I think a nursing bra would make it a bit easier!

Krystaltips

Feelie, try the home shopping direct group (simply be, naturally close etc)... I got a couple from there but not sure what size they go up to...

I have had an extremely miserable girl today, when she wasn't feeding or sleeping she was screaming! Hubby just came back and she's all quiet and happy with him!

Oh and hubby got back from work to find an envelope shoved through the letterbox addressed to 'parents of babygirl M-B' from the health visitor... Apparently she's going to come round tomorrow between 11 and 1 for a home visit... Only a week later than I was expecting first contact... And at least I'll be in waiting for Tesco to deliver the new garden furniture... Just means I'll have to tidy away all the ironing I have piled on 2 chairs... Would be nice to get some proper cleaning up done but no chance with miss screamy here...

3onitsway

Evening ladies.

Didn't come on much over the weekend - i was determined to get my ever increasing pile of junk onto ebay - I did most of it.

Took my nan for a hospital appointment this morning - and she decided we'd make a day of it. I love her to bits - but she could moan for England! :eek: The nurses at the hospital were absolutely lovely, and I felt so sorry for them, having to listen to all my nans problems! We only went about her new knee, but she told them all about her bladder/bowel/eating/skin/feet/heart problems! I really feel the need for a chilled bottle of wine now.

I forgot to mention, i got my package from Emma-Jane on Saturday. It was a deep red feeding t-shirt, and a matching 'lounger' - which i'm assuming is a nightie?!? Its the same as the t-shirt but knee length. OH said it just needs a pair of heels and a nice belt and it could be a dress. I've had the t-shirt on today and managed a few discreet feeds while we were out and about. (Wouldn't have paid £17 pounds for it though :eek:)

Krystaltips

I spoke to soon... She's miserable and screaming at him now... At least he's taken her upstairs to put her pyjamas on so the sound is muted...