New Baby Sleeping: In Own Room or In Your Room???

skintchick

nancmat wrote: »

Gosh I was going to put baby in own room straight away, feel terrible now after reading these, room is v close to ours with thin walls, would I be doing wrong?

You'd only be doing what a lot of other people have done! But worldwide, the practice of co-sleeping is far more common and offers various benefits for both baby and you.

Having the baby in the same room is a halfway house between what you plan to do and co-sleeping, which is where you have the baby either actually in your bed between you (there are supports you can buy to make sure you don't roll on them) or in a co-sleep crib which has three sides, with the open side next to your bed so it is effectively in bed with you but has its own space.

It's worth reading up on the various viewpoints and seeing how you feel.

These are on co-sleeping http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/handout1.asp
http://attachment-parenting.suite101.com/article.cfm/psychological_benefits_of_cosleeping
which is my personal preference as I believe it's more natural and it is what more people do worldwide than anything else, but you have to do what's right for you and your circumstances.

puddles

We did plan to put our son in his own room from day one but he wouldn't actually sleep in his Moses Basket until week 3, and then at week 6 he went into his own room. Touch wood he's been a great sleeper and we have friends whose baby keeps waking up because of the sounds they make in their sleep!

RoxieW

we were told in no uncertain terms by midwife and health visitor never to bring baby into bed with us.
we still do, of course, in the wee hours when nothing else will do but mummy lol.
still, I wonder why we were told never to when it seems to be fairly common?

skintchick

RoxieW wrote: »

we were told in no uncertain terms by midwife and health visitor never to bring baby into bed with us.
we still do, of course, in the wee hours when nothing else will do but mummy lol.
still, I wonder why we were told never to when it seems to be fairly common?

Fear of squashing I think! If you do it, you have to not drink any alcohol or take any drugs, either of you, and it can be a good idea to get a support to protect the baby.

In general though, I don't personally listen to the Mws or HVs very much as they seem to offer whatever the party line is at that moment and I prefer to do my own research, but i'm a fairly alternative kind of mamma!

More info http://www.naturalchild.org/james_mckenna/biological.html

mspig

My eldest stayed in his cot in my room until he was 18mths old, second son was around the same time, third was about 10mths.
What ever you feel comfortable with, i'm not sure i could of coped with a child in another room from birth though as i spent alot of the night peering into the cot to make sure they were still breathing.

caevans

Hi
We plan on putting our baby into own room when they start to sleep a bit better during the night, maybe about 3 months? I can't figure out what the difference would be between having baby in room with parents and having baby in own room with baby monitor (we have a sensor type monitor)? Anyone advise? What evidence is there to prove that having baby in same room as parents significantly reduces SIDS? As far as I am aware they don't even really know what causes SIDS so is it a bit of guess work and common sense? Just wondering.......

skintchick

caevans wrote: »

Hi
We plan on putting our baby into own room when they start to sleep a bit better during the night, maybe about 3 months? I can't figure out what the difference would be between having baby in room with parents and having baby in own room with baby monitor (we have a sensor type monitor)? Anyone advise? What evidence is there to prove that having baby in same room as parents significantly reduces SIDS? As far as I am aware they don't even really know what causes SIDS so is it a bit of guess work and common sense? Just wondering.......

Have a look around here http://www.naturalchild.org/articles/sleeping.html

There's a lot of info on it.

If you put your baby in a different room at 3 months, isn;t it going to be a pain breastfeeding? You'll have to get up. That's why I want mine with me, so we can feed easily and be close.

Dormouse

Both my children went into their rooms between 1 and 2 months. They were big boys so outgrew their Moses baskets very quickly, and there's no room in our bedroom for a cot.

I have to say we all slept better in separate bedrooms.

It's individual choice, I would say. I'm aware of the guidelines but seeing that I followed nearly all other guidelines, I did not think this one was the most important. Obviously I would feel differently, say, if I had a baby with health concerns etc, but with healthy, bouncing babies I think the risks are absolutely minuscule.

galvanizersbaby

caevans wrote: »

Hi
We plan on putting our baby into own room when they start to sleep a bit better during the night, maybe about 3 months? I can't figure out what the difference would be between having baby in room with parents and having baby in own room with baby monitor (we have a sensor type monitor)? Anyone advise? What evidence is there to prove that having baby in same room as parents significantly reduces SIDS? As far as I am aware they don't even really know what causes SIDS so is it a bit of guess work and common sense? Just wondering.......

Like RoxieW I was advised against co-sleeping when my DS was born (approx 6.5 years ago) by midwives/HV's and I seem to remember being given a leaflet saying you shouldn't smoke/drink alcohol if you are co-sleeping with baby (I didn't anyway) - I thought this had been linked to SIDS at the time.
Also if I recall having a second hand mattress for baby was a complete no no and had also been linked to SIDS (not sure if this is the case nowdays)

I would read up on all the advice but as you say use commonsense when baby is born to do what is right for you and baby regards co-sleeping.

PS I had a sensor mattress monitor too, Angelcare I think it was and it kept going off unexpectedly :mad: perhaps it was faulty or perhaps DS's snoring would set it off!

RoxieW

me too! biggest waste of money ever. it went to charity shop after a week of panic stricken dashes upstairs!