New Baby Sleeping: In Own Room or In Your Room???

clairec79

My middle daughter moved out of our room at about 5months, she'd been sleeping through for a while and we moved her in with her sister, so I figured that if hearing US breath was the key, hearing her sister breath would do the same, the eldest and youngest we waited until 6 months (because they were going into their own rooms)

Eldest pair both slept through when they were in with us (eldest at less than 2 months, younger a bit longer) oungest took about 7 months and didn't seem to change when moved to a seperate room the only difference was I had to get out from under the quilt, when in our room close to our bed I could lift him and feed him without getting cold

clairec79

PS I hated the motion sensor things because it bugged me when in the room and so I didn't use it till they went into their own room. The only time it went off was when I forgot to turn the darn thing off and it was just long enough to get to my own bed before it alarmed or when they got to rolling stage and rolled off it (not convinced they weren't giggling when doing it - their senses of humour I wouldn't put it past them)

Re the terraced houses my next door neighbours have younger kids than me (their eldest is 3 my youngest is 5) I occasionally hear their kids but it doesnt bother me, the baby is quieter than their elder one was at that age. I resented the old neighbour doing DIY at 9-10pm much more than a baby crying.

I don't think you hear a huge amount through our walls though, we occasionally hear the neighbours baby if we are all in bed (once in the last month) but the other side didn't even realise I'd given birth in the house until 4 days after our middle daughter was born and they saw me with her (neighbour did pop round about an hour after the youngest was born but that was mainly because the midwife knocked at her door by mistake so she was watching to see her leave to know I'd had the baby)

bylromarha

1st was breast fed, in moses basket at end of bed, and in our room for 2 weeks. Such a noisy sleeper: kept us awake all night and we couldn't cope anymore, despite the guidelines. Put him in his room with a monitor and the "aura" from the monitor kept me awake still, so that got switched off after a week. His crying was enough to wake me up when needed for food! Started sleeping through 11pm-7am at 3 months and think we all slept better as we're apart and not disturbing each other.

2nd breast fed again, moses basket in our room for 4 weeks-had moved house at this point, so baby's room was on the floor below ours, so I didn't want to be trapsing up and downstairs to feed at all hours. OH's droopy eyes silently pleaded for me to move her into her own room after 4 weeks, so I did, and again we all slept better. Monitor switched off after 2 weeks this time. Sleeping through 11pm-7am at 4 months.

20p-assuming you aren't a parent, my pre-parent life understands where you're coming from. I had no clue about what babies got up to until I had one having never had any experience of them.

Guidelines are great, but you do end up doing what works for you. Prime example is my poor friend who got told off by her health visitor. Told to exclusively breastfeed for 1st 6 months, then got told off at 6.5 months as baby wasn't having a wide and varied diet, as per gov guidelines-obviously mum was expected to have introduced an entire diet in 2 weeks as per guidelines! Go with what works for you and all the best with your newborn. It's hard work, but the best time of your life!

westcountrymaid_2

Ours both slept in our room in a cot until they were around 12 months old, this was mainly due to rooms not ready etc. and before the guidelines. I think because they were used to their cots it didn't seem to make much difference to them when they moved into their own bedrooms, they were fine. I would definitely do the same again.

galvanizersbaby

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

Both mine went into their own rooms about a week after birth. I was fully aware of the guidelines but I just couldn't sleep with them next to me. Too much snuffling and noises going on.
I did use a dummy which can help reduce the risk of SIDS.

I was exactly the same with my first born, though in the case of my DS it was more loud snoring than snuffling and at 6 years he still does snore like a trooper!

I had one of those Angelcare monitor's you put under the mattress and it senses if baby stops breathing - trouble is I found it occasionally went off for no reason and would go running in panicked to find him fast asleep and snoring loudly.

With my daughter I kept her in with me for longer as she wasn't noisy and didn't disturb as easiy as DS so it seemed to suit all concerned better.

I think you have to do what's best for you and baby x

RoxieW

My ds3 is 3 mths old and he went into his own room at 1 month. Mainly because he's a big baby and didnt fit in the moses basket anymore (no room for a cot in our room). But it was also nice to get 'our' space back - even though he ends up in our bed in the early hours as it gets too light in his room from about 4am.
DS2 also went into his own room at the same age. I was determined not to make the same mistake I made with DS1 having him in our room for a year - a year that non of us got any sleep. As such I didnt want to put him in his own room because he woke so often and I'd be traipsing across the landing i the cold umpteen times a night) - but as soon as we did put him in his own room he started sleeping through the night like magic! I was so exhausted I was like a zombie and that's not good for anyone.

NBirdy

I have a 1 year old and a 2 year old, both still sleep in our room due to lack of space. Luckily it's a big enough room for our bed, bedside cabinets, wardrobe, 2 big chests of drawers and two cotbeds.

We hope to move next year and I'm sure our 2nd child will be fine in their own room, but the older one is going to find it hard to be apart from me at night

nancmat

Gosh I was going to put baby in own room straight away, feel terrible now after reading these, room is v close to ours with thin walls, would I be doing wrong?

rev229

My both went into there own rooms when they got too big for the carry cot DS at 3 weeks DD at 5-6 weeks. Our room wasn't big enough for a cot. I had rather big babies!! They were only next door so I could easily hear them DS cried lots! Use a monitor for 1 night then swithched it off! 6 months is what is recommended but it all depends what space you have in your bedroom and if you can fit a cot in your room.

JimMoneyExpert

We had ours in our bedroom for about 7 months. At that time her sleeping pattern had settled down a bit and she wasn't feeding so much during the night. We actually found that after she went into her own room her (and our!) sleeping improved as we weren't disturbing her when we came into bed later on.